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The video of the chapel and her body lying in the coffin was still streaming and the microphone was still on, long after the funeral …
I work in a funeral home. Among many other things, I regularly do haircuts & styles, makeup & nails, and even dress those who have passed away. I speak to them while I am there with them, I make sure that their clothing is as close to perfect as it can be by brushing out wrinkles or straightening collars and such, I make sure that I treat them with just as much respect and dignity as I would anyone else. Their family members and friends should never have to question or worry that their loved ones are being mistreated in any way. For me…this is the last time they will be getting their hair done, the last time they’ll be dressing in a suit and tie, this is the last time their families will get to see them and it needs to be treated with respect and reverence. There is no room for jokes at the expense of the deceased, there is no reason for degrading comments at their expense, and there is no reason for anyone who does act that way to still be employed in any funeral home. No family should ever have to find themselves in a situation such as this.
My family had a funeral home years ago, we never disrespected anyone’s family . I remember several occasions where the person passed with no family, so nobody came . They had everything prearranged. Some funeral homes would of just took shortcuts . We all along with the staff were her family . We were present . Everyone deserves to be laid to rest with prayers and respect .
Absolutely horrible Sir. I lost my wife last year and I’m still crying 4-5 times a day, and I’ve known her longer than my own mother because I come fro Foster Care & Group Homes. You’re a true inspiration to what men should look like, because I think, no, I know I would have been calling someone for bail. Much Honor and Respect to you my Brother. You’ve become a Mentor to me even at age 55.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
When my mother was buried, I stayed behind and watched the funeral home close and then seal her casket. Then I stayed behind and watched them lower her casket in the plot and begin to cover it with dirt. I’ve never seen all those steps before, that was my closure, that her body is resting well. So I say stay behind folks and get YOUR closure.
Every funeral home isn’t like this. My father was a mortician . He showed respect for the families and the dead. It wasn’t an act. This shows you everyone in the industry doesn’t have the same mission. Extremely unprofessional and disrespectful. This makes me miss my father even more. He was well known in our city in the mortuary circles to keep families laughing, even for a little bit to take the sting away, and somber enough as to not be off. Smh
This is heartbreaking. I pray they get Justice. This funeral home needs to go on blast for their disrespect. Everyone should be handled with dignity and respect. This is the last time the family will see their loved one in person, say their last goodbyes. To end it in such a disrespectful way is criminal. I pray the family finds peace. 💜💕❤️🙏🌈💜💕❤️🙏🌈
I used to be a hospice nurse and I always treated my patients with dignity after death. I would clean them up, straighten their clothes, comb their hair, remove and tubing because they were still my patients until they were picked up. After staying with the bodies until the funeral homes picked them up, the treatment of their bodies that I saw from the many different funeral homes were so despicable.
So sad to hear this. There’s no words that can make up for how his wife was disrespect by the funeral staff. It’s enough to have to deal with the lose a loved one but then to have to deal with the disrespect of your loved ones death on top of the grief should not be. I pray for emotional healing and peace for her husband, their children and their family. Continue to hold the memories you’ve shared with your wife close to you heart, nobody can ever steal that away from you. May her soul RIP 😢 🙏
I was a hospice nurse. I treated all of my patients with the upmost respect and dignity. I was the last person so many of them saw. I loved them all. Regardless of color, shape, size, etc. Death seizes us all at some point. Treat others with love and compassion. It will be returned to you whatever you sow.
To the commentors, when a person has lost someone close to them, it means everything in the world to them to hear your comforting words of sorrow felt for them. It just does. Even if you are actually there at that person’s funeral with their grieving family. I feel bad for this family. I’m sure it may have been an oversight on someone’s part and sad they had to hear what they heard, but it doesn’t dimiss the integrity and professionalism the funeral home is to service to that family. May her husband, family get closure and may the young woman RIP.
Years ago when working as a vet tech, we had a new hire drop a large Labrador into our freezer. We had just euthanized the old boy in front of his entire human family. The new employee and I were placing the dog into our freezer when he just let go and half the dog hit the bottom as I struggled to keep him from crashing down completely. I was beyond furious and ripped into the assistant with everything I had. I told him that the family in the waiting room were still mourning their beloved companion of 16 years and the dog wasn’t even cold yet. I told him if I EVER caught him showing such blatant disrespect for a living being that had just passed, he would be standing in the unemployment line. I still remember the look on his face as if a lightbulb went on after reprimanding him. The concept of respect for the dead seemed to be something his parents failed to teach him, but I can assure you, he learned the lesson in that moment. More people need to be taught to not only respect the living, but also the dead.
After posting and reading many comments, l just asked myself how nice it would have been for those still viewing, if the professionals handling things had done it with dignity and empathy, as though the family was right there… What a feather in the cap it would have been for this particular funeral home, not to mention the entire industry!
“Our tongues are a deadly weapon, holding both life and death” (Proverbs 18:21). There is a place and time for everything, what one may see as innocent may be offensive to another. No one can tell a grieving family how to feel about their loved ones, therefore, you have to be careful what you say. Some jobs require you to be professional at all times, even when the customer is not in your presence. I worked for many years as a nurse and different clinics and hospitals and if I could tell you some of the things doctors would say about patients when they were asleep, put under before surgery or a procedure, and even after the patient had left, is mindboggling. I never saw any of it funny, the dignity and respect of a patient should be carried out at all times even when they are not present. If you are standing on the side of the funeral home you may think their remarks were ok, apart of the norm but standing on the other side the deceased family may not see it that way, it may come across as offensive, that is why it is very imperative, in certain jobs, you be professional even when no one is perusal, a man’s integrity is weighed when there is no one around.
I’m so sorry this funeral home lacked the integrity and tenacity to treat the family of this woman with the respect and dignity they deserve! I pray that not only this family’s heart is healed, but that this Funeral Home is impacted in a way that makes them forever remember how HOW VERY IMPORTANT IT IS that all staff understands what decorum and dignity looks like and how essential it is to serving the community at a time if loss!
So the husband is explaining what the funeral employees were saying to the news crew, with his young children in the room. Talking about respect and dignity. Those are young children, do you think they should hear such things right about now. Yes, the funeral home was completely in the wrong but explaining all of this in front of the news crew, and with his young kids present, is not better.
I know this is a year old but I am so sorry this happened to you and your family. Not only were you dealing with your wife’s death and the mother of your children, you had to deal with people being rude like this and that’s an understatement. I live here in Jacksonville as well and I wish I could give you a hug. I’ll offer you a virtual hug. Hugs.
Tone of voice is everything. Saying someone is “cute” in a sad voice as in poor thing to die young is not disrespectful. Now if they would of said she is “a “fat cow” would be disrespectful as all dead bodies are heavy. It was their job to make her look “cute” for the open casket, and in life, she was a beautiful woman.
That poor husband. Sending him & his family so many prayers. 🙏🏻 That is so disgusting, the manner in which the funeral workers handled his deceased wife & the awful words spewed. Just sickening. The husband even referred to him as “the gentleman”. He’s even more respectful to that p.o.s. than they were with the integrity & compassion he is showing, that they obviously don’t have. My heart goes out to him & her family ♥️ May she Rest In Peace 💐 She was absolutely beautiful. 👑
Just horrible to just how much some can be so uncaring and lack any sense of compassion. This is someone’s loved one. And to be so dense towards the meaning of professionalism. I hope that this man is able to cause this funeral home to have to go out of business. I am truly sorry for your loss sir. And that you had to hear that idiots insensitivity.
Our nephews ex wife worked at a funeral home and she told us while laughing about a persons body falling off the table. How they were all laughing at her job after? I didn’t think that was funny at all, I was thinking what if that was her own family member? I never liked her after that and I was happy when they split up. Now he found a very nice, awesome respectful and loving girl🙏🏼 I don’t understand what the hell happened to compassion and respect??
“Who’s this, she’s cute?” I might say that at a party or a graduation to a friend when I want an intro to the “new” girl. I don’t think in a million years those words should ever be uttered by a so called professional about a corpse in a funeral home. It’s sickening and one can only be led to believe there’s something very wrong with that man, and before anybody makes excuses for him, he calls himself a professional, well a professional chooses his words extremely carefully for this exact reason.
I can understand even more now why in Greek tradition your loved one stays at the church while the Priest prays over them for a certain time. Then you have the funeral in the church and after go to the cemetery for the Burial. Even in Florida during the pandemic. My deepest prayers for the family! ❤ 🙏 She is a beautiful young mother and wife. God bless! 🙏 ❤
Funeral homes have to be strict when it comes to their treatment of the deceased. Confidentiality is also critical. My grandpa had a funeral home employee discussing his ravaged body from an ailment. My mother didn’t like this and it actually made her angry and sad. She changed her wishes and made it clear under no terms were they suppose to have her body or service. Once the queen mother spoke everyone else ended up following her to this day. It is cost them hundreds of thousands of dollars. No one in my family will go there to this day.
I’m an Ordained Chaplain. The funeral home should always have the person conducting the funeral ‘always’ stay with the deceased until internment. This is absolute protocol. Why didn’t this happen? I’ve officiated hundreds of funeral or memorial services. I never leave the body of the deceased. Actually, I’ve never been asked not to render my services until the burial.
Oh I’m so sorry to hear that this happened to you. I don’t know if the man in this article will be perusal but if he is just know how very sorry I am for the loss of your wife, and on top of it to have to deal with disrespect and unprofessional people is uncalled for and so sad. God bless you and your children. Your wife was beautiful and I’m so sorry for what happened.
Im a female funeral director of over 20yrs in the UK, what that poor husband witnessed is the pinnacle of disrespect and needs investigation and the staff who were involved in that conversation sacked immediately. When a family entrusts us with the honour of caring for their loved one, you speak just as if the family or deceased were present, and at the end if the day no one else knows if they are or arent….🤔❤️
I did a clinical rotation in an operating room. They said things about the patient so awful I burned bright red. I felt bad for some of the people under. One of the women who pumped the drugs keeping the patients sedated routinely fell asleep as well, which is dangerous for the person under. There are bad people where ever you go, you need to review them and make the best judgement call you can. They won’t tell you what they are really like.
This is horrible. Having just buried my mother, my dad, and my grandma all in a 6 month period and also having to bury my infant daughter years ago i can’t imagine seeing and hearing the funeral home be so disrespectful towards their bodies like this. Im sure it happens but having to witness it is something else 😞 No one has morals and respect anymore.
This happened after a streamed service for an acquaintance of mine who had already been cremated. The service ended, everyone left and the lights and mic were left on. The urn was left in the room when the director and other employees came in to lock up. One of them said ” We almost forgot the guest of honor”, picked up the urn and left. I found it unnerving.
I can empathize with his pain. In dealing with death and based on my experience in the LE / Medical field: 1. Funeral Home employees will make comments that most of us would find abhorrent. 2. Medics will make comments that most of us would find abhorrent. 3. Nurses will make comments that most of us would find abhorrent. 4. Doctors will make comments that most of us would find abhorrent. 5. Firefighters will make comments that most of us would find abhorrent. 6. Police will make comments that most of us would find abhorrent. 7. Soldiers will make comments that most of us would find abhorrent. 8. Coroners will make comments that most of us would find abhorrent. The general public has no idea how people in these fields have to cope. These are normal people trying to stay sane and rationalize the irrational. I agree that this would be troubling and disturbing to the family, but we all need to understand that this happens all the time and it is normalized behavior. If we were to try to find people who could stay sane in these fields without some dark humor; there would be little to no first responders, hospital staff, or funeral home employees.
The world is wicked. Try not to let these folks affect ur spirit. Ur wife died knowing how u and y’all family felt about her, that’s all that matters. Her body is gone. Let them say and do what they want with her carcass, because trust me, she has put up with worse offences being alive and well both verbal and bodily harm that she can feel and have been hurt. Thank God she cannot be hurt anymore from this ugly world. May she r.i.p and may you and ur family live on in peace.
From someone who works in the funeral industry, it’s a rare thing to see this as mortuary school teaches ethics and morals, unfortunately some people just don’t have them, but if the professor of a mortuary program sees that they can prevent some people from getting their license. It’s usually people who are “grandfathered ” into the business as one of their parents own the funeral home. I will confidently say 95% of funeral directors respect all decedents with the same respect they would give their own family.
Wow…I am so sorry you and your family had to endure that needless pain and additional suffering from the lack of professionalism from the funeral home’s employees; that was careless & uncalled for! I hope you receive compensation for the awful manner of which your precious wife was treated, God rest her soul. Most importantly, I hope you and your family may find the comfort in all the beautiful memories she gave to you all.
This happens more times than you know, .. This happened to my family when a funeral director actually took pictures of a family member while they were embalming him.. took personal pictures.. in compromising positions. Then she shared them with her friends.. Don’t you think, Don’t you ever think this is a rare occasion….. This happens more times than you know…
My thoughts & sincere prayers go out to the family. 🥀🕊 My family owns a funeral home. I’d be mortified if I found out that any of my family or the staff treated any family or their loved one who passed on, with anything less than respect, courtesy, and the upmost dignity. The despicable behaviors such as stacking bodies in closets, leaving unembombed bodies on tables, or burying several bodies in one grave by these funeral directors is unbelievable & out of control.
THIS is real life. People run their mouths as if no one is recording. But, at times, just like hot 🎤 on TV, news, etc. GOD is always listening to what everyone is saying. In the Bible, it is stated that every person will have to answer for EVERY word they speak, even ‘stupid’ words, & sentences, etc. Too bad people don’t THINK before they speak. (Everyone would probably pass out IF they would ever hear what docs/nurses said during surgeries, or medical procedures, etc. Yeah. Especially women.
My condolences to you and your kids family and friends. May your wife and the mother of your kids rest in peace. I pray you get the justice that your wife you and your kids deserve. This shows what goes on behind the scenes. This should never have to happen you should always respect the dead always.😔
The only thing that will hurt them is loss of customers because now others may say that’s the disrespectful funeral home don’t go there loss of bodies leads to loss of income and believe me as we speak those who were gonna be buried CANCELLED THEY WILL NOTICE WHAT’S UP WHEN IT HITS EM IN THE POCKET ENOUGH BAD PRESS WILL PUT YOU OUT OF BUSINESS REAL FAST🙌🏾
Bottom line that’s just a job to them, saying she was cute wasn’t horrific and yes a dead body is heavy. I fault whomever called the family instead of the business to simply turn off the feed. Perhaps it’s good to monitor how the body was treated behind clothes doors. I say cremation, you press the button and that’s that. Our world is starting to be full of sue happy, whiney people. Our ancestors went through hell, we did not. This tech stuff and cameras everywhere is new so we gotta just move on. Now if they touched her inappropriate, hey big problem…….closure really comes when the body is pronounced gone. That body is a shell and funerals are performances for the living.
Just like when you are under for surgery, you never really know how people act or what they say about you when they think nobody is perusal or listening. A great teacher of mine, when I was a wild youngster, told me I should always act and do as if my mother was perusal and I would do good in this world. How many people need that advise today?
I requested my 29 year old sons service not be streamed at all. I didn’t want to see my son dead. As I scrolled thru YouTube I saw my son in a casket. Something I’ve never wanted to witness. I never even got an apology. I pray this family wins their case. They need justice for the disrespect of their loved one 🙏🏾
i am a Muslim and prior to our community having our own funeral home…we used a local spot in our area. one day we had a burial scheduled..we met there at the funeral home to prep the body of a Muslim who had passed away. when i went inside..i saw 4 dead people in caskets in the hallway. i was like…what in the sam hills is going on up in here…dead people just rolled out in the hall like no big deal…one casket was blocking the door and the funeral worker just gave him a push and he sorta just went rolling down the hallway till his casket bumped the wall…i was like geesh!! we are taught in our religion that although the dead persons don’t talk…they can hear and feel so we have to be gentle with the body and mindful of our speech.. i am not knocking anyones faith..im just saying
This was back in the late 80’s when my mom was alive; she and my aunt went to check on the body of their sister at the funeral home and she was naked in where the cars were parked on a gurney! My mother and aunt moved my aunt inside the funeral home after they found a covering for her, and asked where her clothes were so they could dress her now!
My neighbor died unexpectedly at home. We found him, naked on his bathroom floor. We called the police, who came and helped find a way to call his sister, who lived far away. She chose a funeral home to come get his body. I happened to step into his home just as two employees from the funeral home stepped out, briefly chuckling about something. They stopped as soon as they realized they were crossing paths with me, and it’s possible that what they were chuckling at had nothing to do with my neighbor, and anyway they are human beings and maybe it gets to you if you have to go around collecting the bodies of strangers: but, no matter what, that laughter was part of my first and only impression of that funeral home—which, ever since, I have been determined never to do business with. They had one chance to make a first impression proving that before the public they would behave with nothing but the dignity and respect appropriate to the occasion, and they blew it.
The comments were made and that’s that. “She’s heavy” and “She’s cute” is nothing that warrants a lawsuit. Yes, the stream should have been turned off. The husband will never have ‘closure’ whether the stream was on or off. His wife has passed on. The only way he will have his kind of ‘closure’ is if he cherishes fond memories of her and move on.
OMG! I see that this took place last year, however, I still want to say that my heart goes out to the husband, her children and her family. This just got next to me. I could never imagine what that felt like. Shame on those people how were careless in handling her. Just no respect. As the saying goes…every man shall have his day. May the Lord have mercy.
Yes, Family PLEASE hold them 100% accountable, because some of these funeral staffs are cold, crude, and lack basic civility/respect 24.7 towards the family. I went through so much worst in 2017 and it still haunts until this day. They are paid to be professional and serve all clients of all colors and body physique. When they cross the lines of disrespect and lose dignity they need to close down period.
We all know that world we are living in RESPECT does not exist. But seriously this BEAUTIFUL LADY has moved on to a better place and these people are so DISRESPECTFUL TO HER and HER FAMILY. RESPECT IS FREE DOESN’T COST A THING. I can expect actions like this from a child but GROWN ADULTS UNCALLED FOR. 🥀RIP BEAUTIFUL ANGEL 💜💜💜💜
Funerals & viewings are not for the dead. It’s for the loved ones only, to say goodbye, to get closure. Our dead are not there, they’re not perusal their own funeral. They’re not sending signs & communicating with us (if you think that’s happening to you, that would be familiar spirits, not your loved one) & they’re not perusal over us, at all. The dead are empty vessels & their souls are not there, or here. These people are so wrong & disrespectful, but she didn’t see, feel, or hear any of that & unfortunately her loved ones did. These days SO many people are employed just for the paycheck. People rarely respect their jobs anymore & are not there because they have a passion for it. It’s just a 9-5 & a check to pay the bills.
I said this a few times working in hospice. Iv asked for help become the person was to heavy and also said he/she was a beautiful person and preyed with other nurses for them.. I had no idea this was not okay and i could have been fired or sued.smh 😢 I didn’t realize I was being disrespectful to the person that passed away. Damn 😢
If that’s all happened it sounds like she cute is a compliment and even the pallbearers sometimes say a coffin is heavy I understand it came from the ones you entrusted the body to but we make more out of things than need be and the pastor just as messy so if you get any money please don’t forget to tithe or he will be talking about you himself
On the one hand, I’m so sorry this happened to this grieving family and, that a precious soul/body was treated with such disrespect and dishonor. On the other hand, I’m glad the fools essentially told on themselves. They’ve been doing crap like this all along, no doubt, and should be put on blast and embarrassed for being such trifling, unprofessional, crass jackasses.
Tone and context matter. Was “heavy” part of a conversation about who would carry her? Or just a rude dig? “Cute” seems in poor taste,” but I’ve heard things like “how sad, what a beautiful women…” Maybe it was like that? And some would say we could all use prayer. Not a bad statement imo unless it was meant to be snarky.
I’m so sorry this man had to witness that, and who knows how many relations might have seen it. Hopefully not the kids, but they might have to deal with fallout. I’m confused by YT’s willingness to let this livestream go on for hours yet they are so quick to take down private vids because they show a toddler in a diaper, sighting it is ‘unclothed.’ I think both the funeral home and YT should take responsibility. It would be different if YT were not censoring any vids but since they make a huge point of censoring countless vids daily, they should also be held partly responsible here. I’d like to know what they outcome was on this.
If you think that this doesn’t go on just about everywhere, you are delusional. I’m not saying they were right, but i am saying the fact the camera was on to capture it was the key difference maker. I have zero doubts that people have casual conversations in every work place and a lot worse is being said even though respect should be given
I’m so sorry. I am a nurse and even when someone passes in the hospital, when we are preparing to take the person to the morgue it was an unwritten rule that you don’t speak about anything that does not pertain to the situation. No joking, laughing, talking about your plans for the weekend ect. It’s respect and to do anything other than that is disrespectful.
I hear nothing said derogatory or bad in any way, they need to know the weight of the person as a fact due to do their job to carry the person. There’s nothing bad about what they said at all, actually they said something nice, just because they stated a fact that she was heavy, which that information they need to do their job does not mean they are horrible people saying horrible things pair this is the most ridiculous news complaint I’ve ever seen
Working in the funeral industry has taught me a few things. It’s an industry, it’s a business. Just like everyone else jokes at their job, so do we sometimes. OBVIOUSLY SHOULD NEVER HAPPEN IN A WAY WHERE THE FAMILY WOULD HEAR IT. We show respect and courtesy. If you expect us to cry over your loved ones, your living in a fairy tale. It’s just another day at the office. Our job is to provide you a service, not take your pain home with us nightly.
First of all, my belated condolences to all family memebers of the late Dwan L. Dixon James. Furthermore, I am terribly sorry for this unwarranted defilement of the late Mrs. Dixon-James’s last rite of passage. I’d have to agree with one of the commentators, that “the family of the deceased should be fully refunded and get a written, formal apology for breach in question. Furthermore, the employees responsible must be held accountable for their actions, by all means. There’s just no excuse for their unehtical behaviour, whatsoever!
I feel his pain i was just at my BD funeral and they we’re so disrespectful they had him in a cardboard box didn’t even give me a chance to buy a coffin for him since that’s what he wanted not a expensive casket just a pain coffin smh the last time I saw him was in a cardboard box and there excuse was he was going get cremated like it was horrible from the clothes his cousin put him in i would had $$$ they didn’t even say shit maid me think they had it like wtf my brother just passed too and at least they have a renters casket.
I’m not sure what I’m missing, they said she was heavy, another man said she was cute and needed prayers. I’m not sure how any of those statements are rude or how saying those things are disrespectful. If they are about to move her he could just be warning the other person “she’s heavy”. Then the other comments were made in what they thought was in private but still saying, “she’s cute and she needs prayers” isn’t disrespectful. He could have been meaning she was a beautiful woman and they needed to pray for her soul. I don’t know how this has caused emotional distress. I didn’t see them disrespect the body. There must be more to the story??
So they act all professional and sympathetic in front of the family and how sorry they are for your loss, then when no one is around its the complete opposite. Who knows what else they did behind closed doors after you leave your loved ones in their care? It really makes you rethink funeral homes all together. 😢
I’m a retired hairstylists who sometimes families request that I take care of their family member hair needs once they pass. It haunts me to this day when I think about how this funeral treated my client. She was a fine distinguished woman of God who represented the district mother of COGIG well. I waited in the chapel until the owner of the funeral home called me back to take care of my clients hair needs. I was surprised when he rolled her out naked on a hard board with a sheet half thrown over her. I was appalled! I asked him why didn’t she have on cloths and he said because they were going to embalm her after I finish. I said is there a room where she could have some dignity, he told me I could fix her hair right there in the chapel. Her hair was stuck together from whatever they used at the hospital. He handed me a bottle of dish detergent and a small tub to shampoo her hair. I asked for shampoo and the owner said he had none. I refused to use dish detergent on this precious woman, so he asked me if I would go to Sally’s and buy what I needed. I bought shampoo, conditioner, and a rinse to brighten her silver hair. I finished her hair then waited for reimbursement for the products. I only got a thank you. I could tell you so much more but I would fill three pages. I wouldn’t allow this funeral home to bury my dog if I had one. My heart goes out to this husband and children, I pray that God soon mend their broken hearts and they find closure.
When I was in cosmetology school, the school director knew a lot of people and they teamed up with funeral homes to have willing students apply makeup and style the hair of the deceased. I was very leery but figured the total experience would be good for me. We all arrived at the funeral home and the morticians had 4 bodies laid out on those metal tables, fully dressed or at least covered completely. The hair was already washed. We then were allowed to see things some might not know about. Like actually gluing the mouth shut, and they explained why….I remember looking up at my fellow classmates and how everyone appeared to have had all the blood drained from their faces. It was obvious none of us knew what to expect. At that moment, one of the morticians said in a light cheerful voice, “Well Mam, how would you like your hair styled today?” We just stood there with our mouths open….it broke the tension in the room and we looked at the guy like what did you just say, and he probably knew what we were thinking and he said, “If we didn’t joke around, we wouldn’t be able to do this job, as it’s such serious work.” I completely understood at that point. What this funeral home did, really takes the cake. I’m sure this is a whole new way of dealing with a death of a loved one, virtually…and when professionalism isn’t #1, things like this happen, too sad for the family.
I dont understand what is the problem? The family wants Money. They even complimented themselves on how beautiful they made her look. People get ofended over everything and Anything. At least they had a funeral, when my husband died of Corona virus Monday April 13, 2020. All I got was three cellphones pictures of him and his cremated remains.
I’d like to know how this was resolved by the court. Having watched the article, I don’t understand why the community on this thread is so viciously upset. The man who spoke seemed genuine to me, politely asking who she was, noted that she was a pretty woman, & that he was prayerful for her. The use of the word “cute” obviously offended some people, but I don’t think his intention was anywhere close to being an insult. As for being heavy, yes, caskets ARE heavy! If you are speaking to your team moving someone it’s a heads up to all involved to be extra careful. Emotions & sensitivities are high after a death of a loved one. I’m sorry that this family has had to go through this. I’m a hospice RN in Texas & can tell you that out of hundreds of encounters with mortuary staff, only 1 was unacceptable. That person is no longer in business (at least in our service area roughly the size of Delaware.) Blessings for all involved here. I’ve been on both sides of this situation & my heart goes out to anyone suffering a loss, & their caregivers.
They did nothing wrong. In these types of professions, we are trained to become dehumanized and told to stay detached. I worked in hospice and asked if I could bring some balloons for a guy who loved clowns. The Director said absolutely not, specifically stating for me to avoid making memories. She said otherwise with the emotional pain no one would last more than a few months. She said she knew I cared about the patients hearts but it was her job to care for the staffs hearts. I was like F#%k this, f$&ken place, and got mad!
I accidentally walked up on a funeral home attendant while delivering flowers and saw him through an open door lean down, bear hug and then pick up a stiff, fully clothed dead person and move him from the viewing casket into a cardboard carton box and then place a cardboard lid over the top like the person was just product. It was a weird and macabre thing to see, but it did give me insight into a funeral home being just a turnkey operation where employees show up to do a job, day in and day out, like anyone else at any other job.
So at the beginning of this, saw her pics and said “wow she looks really young and pretty”. Does that sound bad of me? No. But if I worked there and said the same..I’m a bad, disrespectful person?? We didn’t hear the audio and we can’t truly base it off what someone says. Also saying she’s “heavy” an insult or bad?? Maybe if they said that to the families face. But privately, no. And is it true?? Yes. Have you ever picked up or held someone that passed out?? It’s seems like their body weight doubled somehow. I’m not saying what happened was wrong but I can’t say they truly did anything unethical. My condolences to the family.