📹 Ask Dr. Ramani: How Do I Go to Therapy with a Narcissist? | Season 2; Ep 19
Dr. Ramani dives into our DMs to answer your burning questions about a very tricky and treacherous scenario: going to therapy …
Is it possible to live peacefully with a narcissist?
Dealing with someone with NPD or narcissistic tendencies is hard. Instead of trying to change them, focus on yourself.
Set clear boundaries, build a strong support system, and stay calm.
Know when to get help and when to leave the relationship.
Is it possible to live with a narcissist and be happy?
Living with a narcissist can be hard, but you can stay well with strong boundaries, a good support network, and a therapist who knows about narcissism. You can also join a NAMI family support group in your area. Living with someone who has narcissistic traits is challenging. We asked a bestselling author and expert on narcissism for tips. We all want to put our needs first sometimes. This helps us keep our confidence and celebrate our achievements. But with narcissism, it’s different. Living with someone who has narcissistic behaviors can be distressing.
Can a narcissist fall in love permanently?
Can a narcissist love forever? Narcissists can’t love forever because they’re selfish and don’t care about others. They may form attachments, but they’re often based on how the relationship serves their needs and sense of self-importance.
Does a narcissist regret divorce?
Narcissists react strongly to divorce. Even if the narcissist wanted the divorce, the marriage ending makes them feel ashamed. Narcissists blame others for their problems. Are you divorcing a narcissist? Learn how your spouse will act during divorce.
They cause chaos. “Why make things easy when they can be hard?” is the narcissist’s divorce mantra. The narcissist makes things confusing and dramatic to keep you off-balance. Keep calm. Don’t let the narcissist see you lose your cool. They’ll blame you. Narcissists can’t take responsibility, so they blame others. Any small mistake on your part will be blown up. Don’t defend yourself or try to get the narcissist to see the error of their ways. They’ll just blame you. Narcissists think they should get their way all the time. If you don’t do or say what they want, they’ll persecute you. Do you want 50-50 custody? You’re trying to take the kids away from them. Do you expect child support? You’re keeping them from the lifestyle they deserve. You don’t agree to all their terms? You’re making things hard for them! Don’t let them manipulate you. Keep your boundaries. They try to get the children on their side. Narcissists compete with you for the “favorite parent” title. They use the children to get between you. They tell them they don’t have to follow your rules. Helpful tip: Be realistic about your co-parent. Be a good role model. They use communication to fight. Narcissists love to fight, and they can bully you 24/7 through electronic communication. You’ll get lots of angry emails and texts, saying you’ve done bad things and threatening you if you don’t change. Don’t respond in kind! Be brief, clear, and neutral. You can’t control a narcissist, but knowing how they’ll react helps you anticipate problems and plan how to navigate your high-drama divorce.
Can a narcissist love their spouse?
Narcissists can love, but their love is shallow. They can love deeply but not empathize. Their relationships are often dramatic. Their love feels superficial and inauthentic because it lacks meaning. How to Tell if a Narcissist Loves You. A narcissist may love you at first, but this is often short-lived.
Does a narcissist ever love their spouse?
Narcissists can love, but their love is shallow. They can love deeply but not empathize. Their relationships are often dramatic. Their love feels superficial and inauthentic because it lacks meaning. How to Tell if a Narcissist Loves You. A narcissist may love you at first, but this is often short-lived.
Can a marriage to a narcissist be saved?
A marriage to a narcissist can work, according to BetterHelp. But it won’t be easy. Here are three ways to save your marriage to a narcissist. 1. Make your partner see things your way. When he makes a condescending statement, repeat it back to him. If he says, “Why can’t you be more like _____?” She cooks well for her husband. Ask your husband, “What if I said to you, ‘Why can’t you be more like…?'” He provides better for his wife. Your partner might realize how much those words hurt. We often say things without thinking about how they affect others.
How to stay married to a narcissist?
Tips for being with a husband who has NPD: take care of yourself. … Learn more about your partner. … Set clear limits. … Keep your support system close. … Get counseling.
Can you survive marriage to a narcissist?
If your narcissistic spouse is willing to seek help, you can navigate your marriage successfully. If they won’t get help, you can leave the marriage to find peace and heal.
When should you end a marriage with a narcissist?
This can cause partners to become narcissistic. Don’t tolerate emotional, physical, or sexual abuse. It’s grounds for leaving a relationship. How Narcissists Act in Relationships When to Leave a Narcissist Tips for Breaking Up What Happens After a Breakup Conclusion Additional Resources Infographics Dr. Jordan specializes in attachment-based therapy, psychodynamic psychotherapy, and interpersonal neurobiology. She’s an educator and consultant. Kristen Fuller, MD, is a doctor with experience in adult, adolescent, and OB/GYN medicine. She focuses on mood disorders, eating disorders, substance use disorders, and reducing the stigma of mental health.
📹 Protecting yourself in couples therapy with a narcissist
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Therapy with a narcissist is a waste of time and money, period. Narcs go to therapy to learn exactly how to abuse you better and use certain language to discuss it. It’s dangerous. A therapist who notices you’re with a narc but doesn’t cancel couple’s therapy and recommend individual with you instead is unethical and also a part of the love scam as well.
Therapy with a Narc is further abuse & victimization. It did not help our marriage. All 4 rounds of therapy with him made me feel worse about myself & more hopeless. This was all before I knew what narcissism is. After I became aware of narcissism, I then started therapy on my own & was able to build up my mental capacity to make my escape after 19 years of psychological warfare with my covert Narc. Almost at the finish line in the 3 year divorce process. My peace has come at a high cost but I’m thankful to be free & autonomous now. Do whatever it takes to get out of these soul crushing situations. Much love to all survivors of any kind of abuse ❤❤❤❤
My father tried therapist after therapist w my narc mother. As long as the therapist focused on his issues she was happy. The minute the therapist started to address her problems she walked out and fired them. You do not criticize her. He is still married to her. 60 years of hell. We would celebrate if he ever left her. She made him become a deacon in the Catholic Church though and if a deacon divorces he can not remarry. I think he needs to leave that church too. She has him in a cage and loves torturing him.
Listening to responses I’m so happy I decided to leave him. He abruptly moved out. He later suggested we go for therapy and work through our “issues”. I went to bed and in the morning sent him a message “Thanks for the 2yrs we had but this will not work. All the best”. Binge perusal your articles, I am 💯% convinced I cut my loss. I chose the pain of separation with him rather than being with him and losing myself. Thank you very much For Ramani 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Dr Ramani you are a pioneer in this field. Keep it up! We cheer you on! I have never had a therapist even know what narcissism is. And please people be careful when you are a Christian like me and want a Christian therapist. My Christian therapist when I began sharing about my narc mother’s abuse made me feel guilty for even talking about her and she made excuses for her. “Every parent isn’t perfect. We all make mistakes.” “You need to forgive and understand her” This was when I finally went no contact in 2020. Because of the therapist I invited her back into my life and she used this opportunity to do unbelievable damage to my relationship w my youngest daughter and me. She did not understand Christianity. Hers was a watered down be nice to everyone version. That’s NOT the God I know. Jesus always confronted sin and abuse. He was no doormat. Be very careful interview the therapist. Just because they have the label if Christian means nothing. Better to have a therapist who understands trauma and narcissism anyday
What the heck good is an apology from a narcissist!? 😂 they lie!!! They don’t care about their words to you. Their words are nothing more than coins placed in you – their vending machine – to get what they want!! It’s a fantasy. They’re not sorry. The ‘apology’ is just a quarter in the machine to get what they want (which is for you to shut up about their abuse)
You don’t go to therapy with a narcissist to help your relationship. You go to therapy to hear about what you “should” be doing, how you “should” be acting this way. You “should” know every nuance that will make your narcissist happy. You “should” allow them to talk to you like a child. And don’t forget: You “should” try to be better in every way that the narcissist is trying to change you to be! I took my “shoulds” and went NC 9 years ago!
Interestingly, she was fine with therapy, but there was no action and she could ‘inspect me’ during therapy. I was forced to tell her my deepest fears, etc which she could exploit later. She would hunch over into a little ball and act sad, then immediately shift back to normal after leaving. Highly discourage going to therapy with them.
What happens is it turns into a screaming match of one voice belittling you and your therapist. True story he ‘fired’ my first therapist after my third session. Then when I introduced him into my therapy sessions with the second therapist he verbally abused me when he was asked questions about himself or our relationship and showed zero introspection. Thank God 🙏 it’s over.
I’m going to be honest, this article kind of killed that shred of hope I had for therapy to be a possible choiche. Not that my partner ever wanted to go, but even if I’d manage to leverage her self-interests in order to go to therapy, from the look of it, it’s like a minefild with little to no result if not a worsening of the situation. I feel kinda lost at sea now.
Great episode! I love the topical qna. This was a fantastic one, been there done that got the entire t-shirt collection on this one. Not successful he turned my personal therapist against me and that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Thank you for addressing this in so much detail and the complexity of the issue. Just finding a personal therapist who really resonates with you and can stay a tuned is very challenging and itself let alone finding somebody who understands the Dynamics of narcissistic people or even is an actual trauma therapist to not just trauma-informed
One pediatrician I know who got duped for awhile into believing that I was an iffefectual parent compared to my ex later ended up going through a divorce too. She was smarter than me when going through it when refusing to go along with divorce proceedings group therapy for each of them which believe it or not was the style at the time in divorce court rooms where we both lived. Instead I went along with it for awhile so that both my lawyer and his lawyer then after only a few weeks of that group therapy agreed that my estranged husband was then cured of his behavior problems. So very unscientific.
Thanks for this. I’m a therapist in training and struggled w a client who really swung between grandiose, vulnerable (very very needy) and super rigid self-righteous behavior. Suspected and also had several professors point towards NPD, and this article nails it–we both “dropped out”; the penultimate session had me calling out the repeating pattern of their behavior without naming any pathology. They logged out abruptly and next session, it was as if none of it happened, back to them being performative. That was my limit.
This was back in 1988. Ten years married to a covert N with 3 children. They discarded and cheated then moved out. What a relief! BUT the nightmare continued as the family court ordered therapy. We were given a therapist who specialized in Veteran PTSD. They recognized my psychological “beat down” and shutdown the X’s charm and seduction. I ran into this therapist years later and she said your X ” is not evil but has the propensity to be evil”. First time I heard the idea of evil/live. N live life backwards. 🙏
This is such an important episode. I have watched many, many. My 1st therapist who knew me super well and never told me my partner was the narcissist she saw… and said she will help me deal with him. BUT if I had heard the word Narcissist… I would have done research, might have found you and other 5 years before…
I refused to go into that trap….his issues are HIS issues, and have caused me to have severe C PTSD and the damage to my marriage and children were irreparable…meanwhile for decades he convinced me( and my sons) I am the problem. …he s been to 5?6? Therapists…..and would come home and say ” my therapist says you re just looking for things to be upset about,”….didn t take long for me to ask and him to confirm my suspicions- he tells them nothing of his insane behavior, just tells them my reaction….If we went into therapy, I d do all the talking….and HE would act like this “good guy”, quiet victim……I hope there is a special place in h*ll for these people….
Recently, I experienced a major fallout with my cousin. Despite my efforts to communicate calmly and understand her perspective, she repeatedly behaved in a hurtful and passive-aggressive manner, even going as far as insulting my family. This behavior was deeply hurtful and didn’t reflect genuine care for our relationship. Looking back, I realize she’s exhibited condescending behavior before, which I attributed to typical teenage behavior. However, upon reflection, I see she displays many traits of narcissistic behavior. The fallout occurred over text, which added another layer of complexity to the situation. After expressing my feelings, I made the decision to block her on socials. I find myself consumed by bitterness and hurt from the situation. I simply want to move on and put it behind me, as dwelling on it is negatively impacting my mental well-being. I felt like I didn’t reply to her the way she did, and it’s eating me up.
15:44 ~ Are You Trying To Hurt Me? INTENTION vs BEHAVIOR 18:47 ~ How Do The Different Types of Narcissism Show Up in Couples Therapy? * 19:13 The Grandiose Narcissist * 21:13 The Covert (Vulnerable) Narcissist * 23:06 The Malignant Narcissist (DV) * 24:52 The Communal Narcissist * 27:01 The Self Righteous Narcissist * 29:34 The Superficial Narcissist 32:47 ~ Q: Narcissistic Wife? 36:22 ~ WARNING: Label vs Behavior 38:18 ~ Q: Charismatic Husband 43:14 ~ What Type of Therapy Do I Need? 46:14 ~ Q: Narcissistic Colleague 48:30 ~ How To Create a Narcissistic Adult 50:48 ~ Q: Screaming in Therapy Session
Interesting what you said about the intentions of narcissists… I stayed with my ex-boyfriend (a vulnerable narcissist) for so long, 5 years, because I truly believed that he didn’t mean to hurt me. He would literally say ‘this was not my intention’, but things/ bad behaviour would re-occur. I though he wasn’t smart, and therefore he kept making the same mistakes. We went to couples therapy the final 6 months of our relationship. I realized that he wasn’t going to therapy to work on our relationships issues, but his entire energy went to ‘looking good towards the therapist’. Abusers spend all their energy on looking good and likeable to everyone, including their therapist! It’s such a major gaslight, but it’s what showed me his true nature! It took me months after I locked him out of my life before I actually realised he is a ‘vulnerable narcissist’, but he said that ‘those therapy sessions were abusive’!!! He wasn’t able to convince her of his innocence, he wasn’t able to gaslight the therapist, so it was abusive to him! I saw a meme somewhere that literally stated: “A narcissist sees disagreeing with them as abuse.”!!!!
All I ask is that you give a good thought that I’m well taken care of from now on. All I ask is you give a good wish that whomever can help me will help me respectfully. All I ask is that you wish that all people who should find me in society Run across me, bump into me, etc. are always respectful of me.
Those who are willing to address rationally and reasonably, are barred out and those who take extreme measure are favored and held up as leaders who receive a shelter and ability to provide for themselves. In the end what you really wanted was not to be taken advantage of No matter how you slice and dice.
My BF and I went to therapy, and it ended with the therapist revealing a childhood wound for him, explaining a lot of defensive mechanisms he uses on me and him viewing of me as ‘the enemy’. He cried, exposed his wounds, victimhood, expressed to the therapist that it was a good session, but THEN, when he came home after work he told me “The session made me realise why we fight, it is because you do not respect me saying no to you, why did you have to make me dig this up”. Exploded, got angry, ignoring me, blamed me. I text messaged the therapist and told her what happened after the session, was that a good thing to do? Since it seems for now, he wants to go to another session. I do therapy for myself since 4 years back starting this relationship.
Hi Dr Ramani…u are amazing..yr work is helping me to navigate my life and trying to get through this word called narcissist..i just wanted to know are sigma males similar to narcissist as my husband claims himself to be asigma male and i see many traits of it in him..plz enlighten..i am in this marriage for 28 years
What ive seen is that when you deal with the weaknesses of women in the work force, you get back on course. You are pioneering the women in the work force effort and you have made clear that the work is your passion. You love the work you do. Men are not going to step in to handle the weaknesses of women in the work force. We need to pioneer that effort. When you go to physician you hear the somber news. I am sorry if the news is stinging, the sting goes away. Think about yourself and your health. Personally i can’t help but see that since so many females are in your circle, and we take control of your health, so many would be inspired to take control of their health. Not only that, but with AI coming, encouraging women to continue into more peaceful and tranquil places, and getting back to simplicity more. Good for healing. You cannot deny, good for healing.
I’d really love to hear your take on Parental Alienation Syndrome. It’s real and deadly! But rarely discussed. There are currently several predatory youtubers taking tens of thousands from desperate alienated parents. There are no guarantees. Some parents lose their kids forever. So many broken lives & suic*des.
Quietly making a small yet genuine, heartfelt difference, my idea was very good. She ignores, she rejects and dismisses. My idea was very good. Filling in the gaps. We didnt need you to loudly talk about poverty. You were needed in the way i approached you quietly about and you ignored. Yet big shows of receiving gifts.
We don’t need to. But being on the forefront of the study of mental health. . . Is it a little manipulative? Oh forget it then. Being manipulative is not helpful right? Because if you really need to see if you can actually heal first before you focus on the forefront of the industry, I understand now more Why you said you’re not seeing it. . . Was it in the Cheryl Burke episode or the episode before Cheryl, you were discussing not seeing people go where you had hoped for them to go. You said you’re not seeing it.
I cant go to europe i cant go to taiwan or scotland or nepal. Yes perhaps in those places there are more respectful people that truly understand that to live in a small sedan for several years is simply not a foundation to start from. That does not mean that in the states theres nobody who can give me the help i need. I saw that some are capable. So send wish that if anybody finds me it is the right and respectful people.
Don’t do it!!! I tried 2 times with him – one woman therapist and another time a man therapist (I stupidly thought a man might be better- stupid me.) Both were an unmitigated disaster. With the woman he was enraged after 10 minutes mins – then got up and shook her chair she was sitting in and leaning over her screaming and cursing at her. Then told me to get up we’re out of here. Then he drive like a maniac weaving in and out of traffic at high speed and through red lights. all the way home I thought we were going to die. Then with the man – pretty much the same thing -except the therapist got up when my H started waking over to him and both of them were pointing their fingers at each other and screaming and yelling and cursing at each other. This lasted less a few mins. Therapist told us to get out and find someone else. And again – crazed driving on the way home. And that was that. Never again. But I did and still have my own female therapist.
My bio mom said there was money for college, she future faked housing, and she said there was a retirement account. 😆 Not same as trust fund. And if she would make my studies impossible, i moved away as soon as i could and skipped college. I never, ever, ever expected her to follow through with retirement account. I see how that was an easy way for her to get caretaking in her later years. But she could not imagine how not only she was using me as commodity. Almost all humans her age as well, as well as the gens right below her and then people like you who come to america as first gen and tap into the “resources”. And also your american helpers who follow along and do as you do. There was no end in sight of being taken advantage of unless i actually started conducting my own research into the behaviors.
I just thought that us as a female gender – we are female, you are female, i am female, could really leave, for the female gender, a way to truly take care of the issues that arise for the female gender, the alarming health and wellness matters that have arrisen not only for minorities who were enslaved by captors, by career woman. And give the female gender hope, that not all is lost when you strike success. That your health and wellbeing don’t need to be sacrificed to strike it successful.
It’s just that, i never learned to trust myself but in order to trust myself i need people to respect me as a hidden homeless who lives in the trunk of small sedan with zero resources and zero government handouts zero supports and not interrupt my progress. Thats why when you think about me please think good wish that everyone respects me always. If they are incompetent and project onto me only while keeping me captive that absolutely wont do. So give a light wish that everyone respects me and everyone who can help me helps.
You would trade having someone hold the pads for you while you punched, and course correcting your health back to feeling better than ever, for the brotherhood and the risk of morbid obesity, diabetes, your resentments towards Suryakantham exposed, and the fact that i now know, you use me as replacement to deal with your resentments towards Suryakantham, anyway. . .
What does rewarded with health and happiness define as? What exactly does health and happiness define as, in your world? You lead the efforts of women in the workforce. And the weaknesses are not course correcting themselves. They are getting worse. Youve been a disappointment as a friend, youve claimed over and over to contain capacity to be a friend, when youre needed as a friend, youve disappointed and basically proven youre not who you claim to be. And if youre giving my thoughts and ideas to med circle as some hyper. Moralistic reasoning and also allowing profits (from the brotherhood who treated their daughter like a dog and worse than a dog) then you are only a sad pitiable cult member. Who is not who you say you are, and nobody underneath you is trusted at all. Beyond a disappointment, a true pity, that you would rather publicly have an argument than allow for team work. That is why your magic is stripped, you know that, right? What does rewarded with health and happiness define as? What exactly does health and happiness define as, in your world? You lead the efforts of women in the workforce. And the weaknesses are not course correcting themselves. They are getting worse.
I dont think that you maturely know how to be there after its been pointed out to you, that you’ve not been what you claimed you could be. So reach out to Anoushka. You may not even care at all about the issues i bring up to you. At least in our door closed you can find something that i found to be immature in you, in Anoushka.
You would trade your own health, you would risk morbid obesity and diabetes, to continue to fight for the resentments you feel towards Suryakantham that Suryakantham did not protect you and use somebody (me) in the new land, to take your resentments out on, and even when i ask for privacy dignity you would continue in public? When you could actually put on some boxing gloves and hit into a pad that i repeatedly said i would hold for you?
Of course if you block teamwork Ramani i may resent you. What is more important to you, resentment or teamwork? Of course if you choose brotherhood over your own physical health, which links up to your mental health, i may feel resentment for you. What that means is, with the power, status and wealth you received, you did not learn to love yet. Whats more important to you, your health, team work to course correct in the most reasonable and rational way, or whatever else is more important to you?
If the team work test fails and reveals that you lack basic care, you pretend not to be able to understand reasoning and rationality, then all therapists under you, around you, are not going to be able to save these people. If therapy is science and your science changes then what you said earlier was a speculation. You said yourself dangerous to speculate. A tremendous disappoijtment from you and co. All you can do now is wish that the right and responsible help areives to give a hand up.
Every time I went to Therapy or Counseling with my narcissistic wife, it turned into a nightmare for me. 😩 I always walked away from a session with the following question in my mind…. “What just happened?!!!” I always walked out of therapy more confused, conflicted, confounded, bewildered and worse off. It’s psychologically unhealthy and emotionally destructive to go therapy or counseling with a narcissist. Utterly pointless.😢
I saw that doctor Ramani’s hype for Los Angeles is only for the CALI 1, things in Cali are looking neglected. Is it bizarre that Doctor Ramani would tell Doctor Freyd about the children in your elementary school that bullied you but you support the brotherhood that puts up signs in LOS Angeles county, that say “dont get caught driving a lemon car”. (Which translates to “dont drive an old car that may have a few matters need to be tended to – all while the residential and commercial real estate in the state of california is looking dilapidated.) While you are standing on a platform to administer therapy to your mom and dads marital issues and were lucky when people tuned in. I guess it is not bizarre that you would tell doctor Freyd that. You focused in on the lesser “bad” while quietly supporting the greater “bad” I dont hear people talking about who is their shrink in California. Maybe youre talking about politicians and those in the brotherhood, as well as the elite? In LA County, dont get caught driving a lemon car. A government funded public service announcement. While the homelessness rate is skyrocketing and theres zero insights into what causes homelessness, as well as arguments about who those homeless people were born to. Seriously even those who were snobs in your elementary school and snobs in the next persons high school, are not as snobby as the government who says the people need to drive a hot and new car. In california, i saw some very hot cars pulled up next to some very neglected houses.
Those unhealthy relationships were ended as if she is the poster of health. When you saw clearly Ramani physical healthy which is connected directly to mental health, go down hill. Offer to get her back on track quietly and also quietly offset the negativity she is putting out and also being there in case anybody else is in dire straits, She rejects and ignores the gift.
I highly doubt that the vast majority of the female who listen to you had the word trust fund ever brought up to them, and were instead taught to perform grunt type of work for their first taste of money. Yes there are female like Paris Hilton but Paris was forced into camp that gave her PTSD and she was also near enough to business to learn business. Then there are those similar to the girl at med circle who was blamed for her brothers problems, that left her confused as hell. And her parents were multi millionaires. Ask her if they ever, ever, ever mentioned trust fund to her. Sai and Rao sure managed to get to the US and set up camp in what is considered a very expensive part of the country. Did you know It was the baby boom gen that knew exactly what a trust fund was and had seen it enacted. Most of them did not extend any mention of trust fund down to their children at all. Martha Stewart was extended an 85Million dollar loan. Look at the fear in your eyes as you’re talking. You could say anything and because of fear people could be manipulated into believing they are guilty. And then Kimberly Shannon can come along and say oh I wish I had a trust fund. Actually it seems what she really wished was to achieve her own success but that the cost of living was so high. Because some are very high and won’t come down in the name of principles and morals. You have been a tremendous disappointment. I only asked to contribute in a way that was compromising in my favor. Using all of my own resources totally while living in a living environment that you cannot imagine.
No but if the behavior continues then you see female gender doing immensely wrong behaviors towards females to belong in the brotherhood that are retraumatizing and leave her immensely worse off. Offset the behaviors of supporting the brotherhood and AI, with a real tangible effort to help. If you cannot start a non profit then send your good wishes and thoughts for me.
Look I don’t want you to feel guilty or worry about me or have your projects interrupted because of me. You weren’t capable of helping me and you shouldn’t be made to feel bad about that. That’s not my way for people I love to feel bad. All I ask is that when you think about me in the future, that you send out a good thought a good wish for me. That all people who encounter me are respectful and helpful towards me. Send a prayer or a good thought that from here on out, I am respected by both male and female gender and no male or female gender can ever take advantage of me again for any type of scheme, scam, lesson to teach, projection, grievance to offload, government set up for quick money, incompetencies, etc. I have paid for my sins and I have paid for my future sins, of which there are only minor logistical matters that I did my best to wrap up.
We as female gender need to get into habit of seeing strengths and weaknesses and learning how to mitigate and conwuer. If women are going to work in a triggered state, which we know is happening you see women at war, or saying she hopes a car killed her for five years of her professional life, or abusing food as if food is a legal drug, over taking her life. Men are not going to study on behalf of female, the strengths and weaknesses of women’s new pioneering into the work force. Right? At best we see time and time again men saying “you wanted equal rights now deal with it” more ounishment style, archaic, unemphatic thumb sucking responses. We as a female gender who are leading the way and passing the way in to posterity, need to mitigate the weaknesses. We cannot afford to allow our daughters go to work for five years hoping she is killed instead. Or cooking for 3-5 years of sugar and food addiction which leaves her in a worse place.
Have it your cults way, then, that you and I need to be locked in combat for eternity. But you still lack control of your 🐉 dragon. the combat is dead now, you will never get the combat back your way. And your magic is stripped. The light was shone on you and your lies were revealed. You need to force yourself.
Nobody said you needed to focus on poverty in a loud way. I see you take what could’ve been genuine and quiet and a real effort to offset the negativity of the work you do that’s all internet based. Instead you bring it to the public in a loud way. That’s the downside of you nbrushing aside help. The downside of refusing advisors face to face in a real connected setting. Taking Will Smiths gifts and making loud show and denying female gift and forcing what you force. . . A tremendous disappointment. Why? You are afraid, you get people to become the perfect quiet person in public and don’t accept their gifts you drive them to the fringe. Sadness fear lack of love from you. When something genuine, quiet and heartfelt was offered to you. You behave very immaturely.
I guess your God is now going to reveal to me all the reasons your lies are okay and decent right Ramani? I didn’t hear you say goodbye Ramani. I waited. Until my phone got low. I didn’t hear you. I guess your God will reveal why you can’t give the closure after last 3 years the non collaborative, non middle way, you’ve been interacting
Give doctors, multi millionaire females, female influencers, etc. more patience. The baby boom gen doesn’t study the effect they had on all gens underneath them. The most significant change happened between the baby boom gen and those below. The weaknesses, the worst parts, are still not studied. Baby booms are still in dominatrix mode “if I had to do it (work full time plus 2 volunteer full time jobs) you do too. Some of them are telling the story of their trauma. They may not be aware that to help up a younger gen with the gift of work by cooking, cleaning and organizing, even if the rate of compensation needs to be competitive with Mexicans, that’s still a gift up. The baby boom gen is still trying to process transgender and homosexual if they can even wrap head around. So thus giving a hand up only only only for the sake of the gift of work Simply so that someone beneath is helped up, with no sex no drink no drugs may not be comprehend able. They still need to either sober up, and process their own trauma. Understanding what’s been done to the younger gen may only be possible by a few with empathy.
she is begging and goating for a naysayer so that she can continue in a trauma bond. She tries to make it seem that somebody is blocking her as if she is still in the trauma bond with her mother, who forced her to gain weight. It’s an endless battle of what feels like immaturity and she should leave something for dignity and privacy. while she never says thank you for caring about me and giving me your maturity. Meanwhile to bring us the people these messages sacrificing her health and wellbeing seems necessary to her. And knocking herself out is what she has always been doing. Doctor drew appearances, OWN appearances.
The sense of urgency was not there, but the sense of urgency is there when you need to communicate for fun fun fun through YouTube. IRL i said to lmk if you were frozen and couldn’t respond. The habit to use me for your brotherhood allegiance has caused a deep disappointment. Like i said, drug addict habit to use. Deeply disappointing.