Virginity is important until marriage as it provides assurance of STD-free status, prevents unwanted pregnancy, and protects against abortion and premature death. It is deeply rooted in various cultures and societies, with cultural and religious traditions placing special value on this state. A recent study found that women who had one partner instead of two were about 5 percentage points happier in their marriages.
In Islam, virginity is considered a personal choice and should be kept open for change. However, the importance of virginity and chastity is not the only measure to build a happy marriage. Honesty and trust are more important traits for both partners.
The importance of virginity and chastity is promoted through national, cultural, and religious programs, which can have severe consequences for young girls and couples. Catholic women may feel differently about the importance of female virginity compared to male virginity, as people have different thoughts and priorities.
Being open about one’s past is crucial for a happy marriage, as many people lie about their past before marriage, leading to rifts in relationships. The Apocryphal Acts of the Apostles suggest lifelong celibacy was important to some early church believers, promoting abstinence from sex throughout married life.
Indians believe that a broken hymen is a sign of virginity, and it is important to inform your husband about your participation in sports that damage the hymen. Marriage is important, as it ensures a new life can be created in the bonds of marriage.
In conclusion, the importance of virginity and chastity in marriage is not just about physical appearance but also about spiritual, emotional, and mental wellbeing.
📹 Why men need to stop obsessing over virgin women | Dr. Prateek Makwana
Dr. Prateek Makwana (@fertility_scribbles), Consultant Embryologist discusses why men shouldn’t obsess over virginity. →What …
Does virginity matter in a relationship?
It doesn’t matter unless you and your partner are close. If your partner loves you, they’d choose you over your virginity. It’s about what matters to the two of us. My sweetheart doesn’t eat red meat, and I do. Should I care about my virginity?
Will my husband know if I am not a virgin?
The hymen is not a sign of virginity. The hymen can break when playing games, exercising, or using tampons. A woman may not bleed the first time she has sex. No one can know if you’re a virgin unless you tell them. Don’t worry about your hymen. It’s just a small tissue! Rachna Kothari is a psychologist and marriage therapist. She helps with marriage and sex issues. Get expert advice on relationships. Email us at [email protected].
How much virginity is important?
Many cultures around the world value virginity. Many cultures believe that people should be virgins until they get married and that their first sexual partner should be their spouse. Not being a virgin is seen as bad. A woman’s virginity is measured by whether she bleeds during sex. This happens when her hymen, a thin membrane of skin inside the vagina, is broken. However, this concept has many problems. The hymen can also rupture from sports, genetics, or masturbation. Secondly, sex can also be fondling and oral sex without penetration. So a person who has had oral sex but not peno-vaginal sex is not a virgin. But is she? Some cultures want women to have a virginity test to make sure their son’s future wife is a good person. The test checks for an intact hymen. Some women who have sex want to get married in this traditional way. They may have a surgery to fix their hymen so their husband doesn’t find out they aren’t a virgin.
Will my future husband ever get to know that I am not a virgin?
The hymen is not a sign of virginity. The hymen can break when playing games, exercising, or using tampons. A woman may not bleed the first time she has sex. No one can ever know if you’re a virgin unless you tell them. Don’t worry about your hymen. It’s just a small tissue! Rachna Kothari is a psychologist and marriage therapist. She helps with marriage and sex issues. Get expert advice on relationships. Email us at [email protected].
How to accept a non-virgin wife?
It can be hard to accept your partner’s sexual history, but past experiences don’t define who they are today. … Try to understand your partner’s past experiences.
What are the benefits of keeping virginity until marriage?
Chastity before marriage has many benefits. It reduces the chance of psychological damage from intimacy without commitment, STDs, and unwanted pregnancies. It also increases marital stability and satisfaction. Everyone needs touch and affection, but more important is a loving connection with others. People often confuse their need for sex with their need for love. If they connect with another person mainly through sex, the relationship will probably end in tears. Jess Lair, a psychologist at Montana State University, says that sexual experiences can be important for people. Sexual bonding is a strong emotional, psychological, physical, and spiritual connection between two people. Sex is a brief, intense physical bond that leaves marks on the participants. Believing you can walk away from a sexual experience without being affected is dangerous.
Can a husband know that his wife is virgin how?
Can a husband know if his wife is a virgin on their first night? Can a husband know if his wife is a virgin on their first night? It’s not easy to tell. The hymen might have been broken before, or it might be very thin and not affect sex.
Is virginity necessary for marriage?
What’s the difference between a girl’s and a boy’s virginity? Does it matter if a girl or boy is a virgin before marriage? It depends on religion and culture. Waiting until you’re married is good. Most people don’t.
Why is virginity so important?
Virginity is about establishing paternity and male ownership. Virginity is often seen as a good thing because of Mariology, the Roman Catholic worship of the Virgin Mary.
Saint Patrick Catholic Church stained glass of the Virgin Mary (Credit: Wikimedia Commons)
Purity has long been used to control and exploit women. When you hear the word “virgin,” you probably think of a young woman. In the Bible, movies, and books, women’s bodies are often seen as vessels for original sin.
Is it OK to love a girl who is not virgin?
Be open with each other. She might have had sex with someone in the past, but that doesn’t mean she can’t be loved in the future. A woman’s virginity doesn’t matter to me.
📹 Why A Man Needs To Marry A Virgin
I’m a virgin guy myself but saying it’s out of insecurity is bullshit, if it’s insecurity why wouldn’t I mind having casual sex with someone promiscuous, but for something serious I’d prefer it the other way. Saying it’s insecurity is just plain dumb, there are deeper reasons for everything in life, it’s not patriarchy, insecurity, empowerment etc. We just have to assign a name or a label to everything so we can blame something.
it is not about purity or hymen but about being special. First time is special moment for everyone. Be it the first kiss,intimacy, love or intercourse. If she has already shared her special moment with other men in the name of so called “CHOICE” and if we have saved ourselves for our special partner then we men should have a “CHOICE” if we want to be with such a girl or not by asking about her past(be it the past love,kiss or intercourse) for which this is guy is basically shaming us for asking about her past by callingus narrow minded! Your basic assumption that all guys are fuckboys who have sex with multiple women before marriage is completely wrong!
Hmm so if a man is a non virgin and asks for a virgin wife= misogynist, hypocrite, double standards If a man willingly saves himself for his wife= insecure, incel Dude what do you think is preventing us from having one night stands and going to red light areas or hiring stripper? We are saving ourself because the first time is special! Nobody forgets their first love, kiss and sex and if we save ourself and expect the same from our partner then we are being insecure? Also I feel that you are completely ignoring the emotional and psychological implications of having multiple sexual partners. The more number of sexual partners the more emotionally and psychologically vulnerable you will become in long-term Feminist go around telling people not to shame women for their CHOICES but if men make a choice then they are insecure? If a woman makes a choice she is empowered If a man makes a choice then he is insecure?
If losing virginity is their choice, then expecting a virgin partner is my choice. If I am a virgin myself and expect a virgin partner, there is nothing wrong with that. Everyone has the right to choose the partner of their choice. So no one should judge anyone by anything. I will definitely marry rape survival, widow, sexual abuse victim in childhood… But not with a non virgin girl who had sex with her consent.. Today everyone knows Hymen is not the sign of virginity.. So don’t hide ur sexual past to ur future husband.. If he ask before marriage tell him truth.. Don’t manipulate him into marriage with your lie.. If my wife lie to me on this matter I will surely divorce her immediately..
These People don’t understand the actual meaning of virginity .it’s not only about having pre martial sex but it’s about having similar morals, values and beliefs. If you want to have pre martial sex and casual relationship you are free to do so but you cannot force someone to change their morals and beliefs . There are men as well as women who abstain till marriage due to religious,cultural,moral reasons etc. Shouldn’t people of similar thinking marry ? If a man who has abstained till marriage rejects a woman who had past relationships then he is not wrong because her morals were different from him so he rejected because he wants a partner who is compatible with him . It’s all about compatibility . Your assuming that everyone believes pre martial sex to be normal but no everyone does not believe in the same and people have the right to practice their belifes without imposing it on others or forcing others.
Okay please stop making misleading articles in name of feminism. Virginity applies to both men and women. Both men and women need to preserve their virginity for that person with whom they are actually spending their life with. Casual sex only leads to meaningless relationships. Oh please Sex is not just sex. It’s taking your steady relationship with your partner to another level. please don’t spread the causal attitude towards sex🙏🙏🙏
My brother, remember that marriage is more valuable than a women’s body. If a man wants virgin wife than that’s his right. Who are you to question any men’s right? I do agree a women should not be judged on that, because that’s her Choicewtoo, but if she gets rejected for marriage because of that then she must bear the consequences of her past actions. And you know why you’re saying that? Because your commitment/marriage has no value at all.
If you have read studies then you should have know that virgins have better marriage life than who are not. If she have a child then that child may never consider you his/her father and you may never receive their love. Its frustrated for men. Even lots of single mothers don’t want their sons to marry a single mother. I am not against marrying women who are not virgins. Who knows that her husband was a terrible person and she divorced. Most of the time, its depends on the person as well.
Then people should also stop judging men on loosing their virginity of having multiple sex partners before marrige..and stop calling them play boys..aagr equality deni hai toh bai sabko do..sex is sex agar yehi baat ek ladka bolne lage toh kuch pagal log uska pura character judge krne pr a jayenge..the title of the article should have been ” stop obsessing over virginity ” and with a clear concept of the difficulties both men and women face
Guys, please be honest about the virginity. Most of the women lie about their virginity or past relationships during arranged marriage meet-up. Later, when the spouse gets to know, it mentally disturbs him, and the emotional bond with the wife is broken. There are a few people who have more than one relationship, and eventually have love marriage. In such a case, also it’s expected to be truthful towards the partner. I always suggest that hiring a good private detective is better than spending money lavishly on the wedding day. Good private detectives find out all the deep secrets of the girl, and her family. It will eventually save us from divorce or mutual seperation in the future.
2:04 dude she is answerable to us if we are getting in a relationship or marriage. Jo ladki 10 ladko ke sath sokar ayi hai hum kaise mann le ki humare baad kisi dusre ke paas nahi jayegi? Humare emotions aur trust ki koi value nahi? Honestly I feel such girls simply want to sleep around fuckboys during their youth and when they hit their mid 30s and 40s they want to be with decent guys and expect them not to hold such girls accountable for their actions
Choice to choose a virgin woman is also a choice. Choice to feel ashamed is also a choice. People are allowed to have preferences for what kind of partner they want. No matter how sexist/materialistic it makes them look. If a guy wants a virgin wife he has total right to look for one. If a girl wants a rich husband she has total right to look for one. Who are the society to stop them or shame them? You may visualize sex as just an experience, many people may not view at as just that. So stop patronizing people over their personal choices.
Feminists when guy rejects them for being a non virgin: that guy is INSECURE that he he will not be able to satisfy me! Feminists when they fail in exam by teacher: the teacher is INSECURE that she will not be able to teach me properly! Feminists when they are thrown our of the house by landlord for not paying the rent: The landlord is INSECURE that he will not be able to keep us in that house for rent Feminists when a shopkeeper refuses to give them a commodity because they don’t have money: the shopkeeper is INSECURE that his commodity will not be able to fulfill our needs Feminists when a doctor tells them not to eat something: the doctor is INSECURE that his medicine will not cure me Today having any kind of standards is considered as being insecure 🤷♂️
This website is becoming toxic day by day! Yes it might be someone’s personal choice but moreover it is a question of living ur life more sensibily. And this sensibility makes us humans…. Otherwise there is no difference between us and animals. The more you keep ur sex life simple, the more content and satisfied you’ll become. The more sexual partners you indulde in, you’ll realise sonner or later it becomes difficult to find happiness and contentment in real life. That’s why in earlier days no one engaged in casual sex before marriage. So its definitely your choice, but it’s question whether you yourself want to live sensibly or not.
Sex is just sex! Really? You need to educate yourself first. There are emotional and hormonal connections with regards to sex. If a woman has multiple sexual partners or she is promiscuous she will compare each sexual experience with different sexual partners and it’s a fact. Also the first experience is the best experience for most women. That’s why there will be a greater chance of breakups or ending up getting divorced. Due to the release of the Oxytocin hormone during Sex, woman makes a strong emotional bond with her partner. Now think about multiple sexual partners. Btw Women are emotional and this is no surprise. Also a masculine man would never want someone elses thing inside his woman whether in the past or future. This is also a fact.
And what in the case where a Man continued his purity and never had a girlfriend and not get physical with any woman, his mentality is to give all his love and affection to the woman he marries . I think it the right of that men to have a woman in his life who is pure like him and not leave him on his bad time of life not cheat him
If girls have CHOICE to have sex before marriage then boys should also have CHOICE if they want to marry a non virgin or not. If he is a virgin then he has full right to expect the same from his partner. Jo ladki 10 ladko ke saath suhagrat banake aayi hai hum kaise maan le ki humare baad woh dusre ke paas nhi jayegi? Girls just can’t sleep around with fuckboys during your youth and then expect guys to not judge you! PAST MATTERS!
Anyone can choose to be a virgin or not. And also anyone can choose to not marry a non-virgin. Being Virgin in modern time is now about having patience and if my partner doesn’t have that much patience she can be with someone who’s willing to accept her rather than Shaming me? Sex is cheap in modern time people who values it Knows it’s importance
I have noticed that indian men are more likely to be virgin than indian women. Also in some countries, it is dishonourable for people to lose virginity before marriage, especially women. I met girls from Morocco, Algeria, Egypt, Kyrgystan and Malaysia where vast majority of the girls would rather die than lose virginity before marriage. They consider sex as sacred rite of passage and virginity should be given to the Husband. There are other cultures still on earth where women still value virginity and marriage. Unfortunately, India no longer has those type of women of high value due to liberal and prosmicuous culture which is very prevalent today. I feel sorry for my indian brothers.
Dr. Prateek with all due respect, just let us know did you marry a virgin? Eitne pyaar se aapne poore masculanity ko bura bataya, thoda apna description bhi de dijiye. Maybe aaj jo aap culture follow karne lage h angrezo ka usmey pyaar aur sex important hoga, lekin bharatiya sabhyata mey shaadi mazak nahi hai yaha pe ladke ladki ki consent ke saath saath family ki bhi consent matter karti hai. And just like choosing a non virgin woman might be good to you, same ways choosing a virgin woman is good to someone else. I didn’t wish to defame you and your knowledge but just wanted to counter how you misguided the public here taking the reference of Ramayana, and please it’s a humble request if you cut the part of Maa Sita’s agni Pariksha from this article as it has nothing to do with Virginity!!
Untill and unless people will leave their obsession with ‘sex, these types of questions will obviously raise. It’s high time for everyone to understand the benefits of celibacy. Sex is not for pleasuring to your body, it’s a process of giving birth to new life, and we should respect god’s creation. That’s one of the reason why Jesus’s mother is Called ‘Virgin Mother Mary’ and i dont think so you have guts to say anything against her, isn’t it?
Choosing virgin or non virgin is personnel choice of men stop demonizing men on basis of their choice. Stop liberalizing men’s opinions. Tell a women also to stop judge men on basis of their income and job. Women expect comfort and freedom from men and wants to give nothing to men in exchange of that
It’s not about virginity; it’s all about body count. If a man has a body count of zero and he wants to marry a woman with a body count of zero, then I don’t think there is anything disgraceful about that. Always remember that usually women choose men with a bright future, so as men, we should always choose a woman with a clear past.
Sex is related to morality. One who keeps herself away from debauchery before marriage makes her better than all those who have no respect for their future husband…who don’t care how her kids will feel if they come to their mother slept with men other than their father. Keep your contaminated advice to yourself.
Can you say it is okay for your sister to have multiple boyfriends, one after the other and also have sex with them, and do you believe that she will be able to do justice to her husband after she gets married to him, think about it. You can better access the situation when you look at it from your personal perception.. we indians look at our parents, especially mothers with great respect almost god like ..and that comes for a reason.. but wiuld it be same if you knew that your father us loose character, or your father is probably the fifth man in your mothers life, would you still redoect your mither the same, and will your father still love your mother the same way .. how would you feel if you net your wifes ex boyfriends and knew she had sex with them before she became your wife
now days pre martial sex is like winning a bravery award for women, stupid article, it’s never be a good idea to have physical relationship with multiple partners for both boy and a girl, there should be some difference between human beings and animals, yeh nahi ki kahi bhi shuru hojao and moreover more number of sexual partners have some risk of STD also.
How can you say that sex is sex you are giving example like music is music but why we are hearing it to make us feel better same thing sex is a pleasure that we are getting from our partner if some people are waiting for their love one then what’s the problem there is difference between a stranger/boyfriend/girlfriend(may if you are serious then turn into future spouse) and your love life partner.I have never seen you people will say if one person is virgin he/she can expect the same but the people who are not virgin and not telling their partner they are hypocrite but atleast boys should say yes to that girl if she has been molested or rape l am not forcing to accept her its your choice but her new life would be perfect and she can fotget her bad past
After going through n no. of comments this is what my opinion is (which i am sure no one cares) Chaahe ladka ho ya ladki sabse pehle is baat ki koshish karni chahiye ki both should be Honest about their thinking. Kyunki jo cheez galat hai woh fir galat hai. Differences in opinion can be understood but galat baaton ko, thoughts ko, nazariye ko justify nahin kiya jaa sakta. Secondly agar ladka/ladki ko judge karna bhi ho toh ek BALANCE bana ke judge karo aur iski bhi koshish karni chahiye poori imamdari se chahe paise pe, chahe virginity pe, chahe compatibility pe etc etc. Aisa nahin ho sakta ki ek side paise aur naukri ko judge kare doosri side virginity, cooking skills etc pe. Aur teesri baat do logon ko shadi se pehle dil khol ke bina kisi jhijhak ke har cheez ko leke imaandaari se baat karni chahiye. Mera manna hai batcheet jitni imaandari se hogi utna hi better hoga ek doosre ko jaanne mein at least tab aap easily ek doosre ko agar judge karna bhi hai to kar payenge. Ishwar ne hum insanon ko sochne ke aur samajhne ki shakti di hai. Soch samjah ke uske baad jo bhi decision lenge woh achcha hi hoga. Agar theek lagega toh rishte ki buniyaad achi hogi aur rishta long lasting ho sakta hai agar theek nahin laga toh respectfully and gracefully bina kisi soch ko ek doosre pe thope bina move forward karna chahiye. Baaki yahan comments mein jo behes ho rahi hai uska toh koi END hi nahin hai. (Fact – Bahut himmat karke maine yeh comment dil se kiya hai, kisi ko agar apni opinion deni hai to most welcome bus koi harsh words mat use karein that is my only request)
Me ek ladki hun kar me khud sex after marriage perefer karungi ya fir agar mera bf mera partner hoga to hi physical hogi iske piche society cultural thing nhi he ham 2024 rahe rahe or generation to bardbaad huhi chuki as per experience bata rahi ladke sirf mujhe aj tak sex ke liye puchte date se jyada me saaf mana karti hun ky fayda in sab ka ke sab sirf casual sex chaiye pyaar bad me dekhlege love se jyada log sex prefer karte he.. Kya fayda sirf wo 2 min ki jism ki aag bujha kar wo to sadak par bhi mil jai gi physical intimacy hone he to use hojao jo tumhra lifetime ka partner bane ho jo tumse pyar kar passionate,romantic, bond, harpal sath hoo sabkuch.. Mere maine me ye real satisfaction he❤
Choosing to be a virgin doesn’t give you the right to judge others on their choices. Choosing to have sex doesn’t give you the right to judge virgins. However, when considering a relationship with someone, it is important to know if you share values. It is also important to be educated (the hymen thing has long been debunked). For some people, being the first is a big deal. It is why so many choose to give it to their spouses. It is also why many expect their parters to offer the same. I’ll use myself as an example. I’m a virgin looking for a girlfriend. I expect her to have the same view on sex as I have. If I come across an amazing woman and we want to start a relationship, I’ll ask right away if she’s a virgin. Not to be disrespectful or judgemental. It’s for our own good: If I continue with the person, that will keep popping up in my head. I’ll deprive her of my full love, while that feeling rots me away. However, if we state our values and expectations early on, we can move on with no hard feelings for one another. She’ll be free to meet someone who’ll love her fully, and so will I This way we respect our time and emotions mutually in a civilized manner.
0:37 every time the Ppl who try to use Selective and manipulative words like this. I’m like woah so I’m having preference and Options on my how I wanna be in my life and how I want my partner to be I’m the problem. Bro the Only problems is you. You simp for a lot of women I guess. But I’m happy to be Virgin and Have enough patience and if my partner doesn’t meet my requirements then I’ll respectfully leave. Hymen doesn’t determine she’s a virgin or not but I’ll surely ask her and if my partner lies or I found out later in life I’ll leave respectfully. I’m not gonna dictate her life and she’s not gonna dictate mine
Bro I think you belong to a metro city where it is pretty normanl. But most of the Indian comes from village baground. You are right at your thaught. But let me helight the point that having sex before marriage in my place is not a achievement rather is socially unacceptable thing whether it is a man or a women.
men with future is get no value by women so why we men should take this biased so women with good past is matter it show loyalty of women to men . virginity is choice of female and so we men have also right to make choice get virgin or non virgin girl . in my thought if you love truly someone it not matter a lot . but if you married arrange make sure about her past .
THE ACTUAL SOLUTION TO YOUR PROBLEM BEFORE TEACHING FEMALE HYMEN TO UNDERSTAND MEN AND THEIR MENTAL PROBLEMS AND PSYCHOLOGY EVERYTHING WHICH I’VE MENTIONED IS A PROVEN FACT BY A PROFESSIONAL PHYSIOLOGIST PROFESSOR ETC AND SOME MATTERS ARE MY OPINION. Let me just put the fact very clear I don’t give a damn if female sex with 1 or 1000 men it’s her choice and about virginity factor is still a topic because of fear of the imbalance of current/Future relationships and the existence of old relationship memories and Women nature/ego factor of male. Guys who are virgin or non-virgin but they’ll prefer virgin brides because For those who are virgins, they have a right to demand a virgin bride because if females can demand height, body Good looks etc things in men so why can’t we( double standards ) But the following reasons sum up both perspectives 1. She has no old or past experience with her ex in any sexual form which can’t dispute or disturb the actual relationship Intimacy when it’s about to happen 2. It Makes a good impression on non-virgin boys who had experience and it satisfies their ego and insecurity of satisfying females. ( Because she has no experience but they have so they’ll perform better hitting the right points which make a good impact on their sexual life) 3. The Main reason Why boys prefer virgin brides is that for a virgin boy it’s very hard to overcome her experience if she had sex before with her ex or whatever it became challenging physically + twice mentally for a boy to beat her overall experience( Because the virgin boy has no such experience and Non-virgin bride had experienced with someone which she had loved once before and that intimacy is so much impactful at their time of doing so which leads to future problems if the husband fails to satisfy her which is 100 per cent possible case in virgin boy ) and therefore it can create doubts in men mentally that they have satisfied her well or not and it creates a path of insecurity which leads to extramarital affairs/cuckold or divorce.
I dont know who is this guy in this article and teaching us the lessons….., everyone has their own life and their own choices and ultimate goal is whether u r living a happy life or not…., yes having sex or not before marriage is everyone’s personal choice and we are no one to speak about other personal choice…, but in the same way everyone has there own personal wants and desires and their choice…, it’s ok for a boy/girl to expect there partner should be virgin…, it’s completely fine and it’s there personal choice…., like how is your mindset everyone has there own mindset…, if u r comfortable with your partner past it’s ok no issue…, and in the same way u have to respect other personal choices also…, what comes wrong is when we speak bad or think bad about a person who had sex before marriage and no one will support it, and at the same time If a boy/girl don’t want to marry a person who had sexual experience before marriage it is also fine…., it’s their personal choice and ultimately it’s there life and they are the one to decide with whom they want to be with…, so stop judging and giving lessons to those who want virgin partners…, it’s everyone personal choice…., and nothing wrong in expectating such a way…, what becomes wrong is judging a person for having sex before marriage, but wanting to have a partner with no previous sexual experience is nothing wrong it’s there personal choice…, so please stop this kind of “Narrow Minded” words and respect everyone personal choices.
No bro we shouldn’t be ashamed ……what about the right to choice of men ?? I m a vergin if I wish to marry a vergin what is wrong in it ? I know that broken hymn can’t be proof of sex ….only girl can say whether she had it or not…..u yourself know that nobody forgets thier first love or first sex or first kiss..so that’s the reason I want to be her first ..and hers me….what’s so wrong in it ..
Sir you explain quite well but didn’t find my answer all the articles i watch about this always says s*x is personal choice and demanding a vir*n girl is not a personal choice why, i mean if i judge them for their choice it’s wrong but if it just a choice of them then why can’t it be choice of mine. If i want an option new society judge me isn’t it the same like before i mean if i am not a virgin then i am a hypocrite but if i am also a virgin then isn’t it a choice like hight,weight, finance,looks,etc.. you said it yourself s*x is just s*x nothing else so why not explain this side of things like virginity maybe someone’s choice and they are not judging the other person if they don’t have it.
First of all, why the fuck are you giving the reference of Sita Going through ‘Agani Parkisha’ in a article on whole sole topic of Virginity, there’s no such evidence in the actual version of ramayan where sita went through agni pariksha and even if she would have it would surely have nothing to do with virginity. Moreover why dont you just make some articles on why ‘ people should stop obsessing with sex ‘ .
One of my friend wanted to save her virginity for the love of her life. Very first time in her life she fell in love with a guy and agreed to loose her virginity, she loose her virginity at the age of 20, now she is regretting it and feeling so bad about herself she also never want to do that again, she always wants 1 man in her life, but according to her, her relationship is not going well, the guy threatened her to leave whenever they fight. She is reagrating it, and wanted to take some very bad action… I comfort her a lot so she is a bit fine now. Please tell me what should I do to take out her from this situation?? Her questions is, are people accept her for her mistake she really ashamed for?? I also don’t know the answer, please help me with the genuine thoughts of people about this situation….
When you say non virgin Does it include women who have been in abusive relationship for years and have been raped but couldn’t speak out because she was too innocent to know? Would you guys blame her? Wrestling with such a situation. Battling with my Intrusive thoughs rn. Help would be appreciated seriously.
Please read my whole comment and reply on it ! I am 21 year old, good looking, handsome guy, topper in school and college and currently focusing on my career. I never proposed any girl. Instead ‘I got proposals from 3 girls’ and many indirect proposals from several girls but I rejected their all proposals with respect because i have some morals, ethics and rational thinking. I believe first to focus on education, career. I don’t want to betray my parents by having love affair at the time of studies and personality development. So my point is i am ‘proud virgin’ by my choice. I believe in marriage system. I want to love only one person and stay loyal for lifetime to that person. in future my wife is going to first love for me (emotionally and physically). So why should I don’t expect same from her? I am not judging anyone. But in some youtube articles,articles they all are only getting side of non-virgins and they are imposing non-virgins on virgins. They are asking virgins to have big heart and accepts directly non-virgin, why ? If loosing virginity was their choice then its our choice to reject them. They don’t have right to judge us. I looks at this things rationally . And in my personal life, I am behaving in the same way that I expect from my future spouse (not having a past love and physical relationship with someone else). So my expectation is based on equality. I like to think rationally and keep modern approach. I am not judging anyone but yes virginity matters for me.(‘ I don’t believe in hymen and bleeding at first night etc.
came here because I regret losing my virginity to someone who I think used me(learned 1st hand DO NOT PURSUE a person who just got out of relationship) Im a guy btw and I would love to lose someone who indeed truly loves me eventhough the relationship didnt work out later. its just a very memorable moment in someone’s life at least be it someone who loves you.
Am fine with encouraging women to pursue education and jobs but promoting casual sex in the name of empowerment is just stupid If casual sex is empowering then sex workers are the strongest individuals why don’t we just marry them Besides most guys want virgins because they are virgins themselves Maybe you think we guys are sex hungry monsters but the moment we complete school a lot of family and career responsibilities are thrown at us We don’t have time for parties and a crazy amount of sex unless we are born into riches Am a guy, I also have “needs” but I have standards high enough to not be engaged in this barbaric culture I go to the gym and am learning how to cook Because my future wife deserves the best version of myself
WIth all due respect to your opinion Doctor. My opinion is as below: I agree with:\r 1.\tNo one should think they are entitled. \r 2.\tSex is a personal choice. (Yes consent is important!)\r 3.\tHaving sex is not an achievement of any sort. \r 4.\tHypocrisy of expecting the other partner to be a virgin when one is not is wrong. \r I disagree with:\r 1.\tSex is JUST Sex. (It is the most intimate act between couples to express love and bond with each other, It can lead to a strong emotional connection, so not JUST sex). If it is JUST sex, why not do it after marriage with other people without the consent of your partner or even allow your partner to do the same.\r 2.\tShe is not answerable to you. (Everyone has preferences when they choose to be in a relationship eg- marriage. As per your logic, why should a man also be answerable about his earnings, goals, assets, qualifications, other relationships, problems etc then? If no one is answerable, why don’t people marry any stranger blindly? By maintaining transparency, it enables both the parties to make a conscious decision as per their preferences to be with someone!) \r I feel it is better for both men and women to remain a virgin before marriage. \r The negatives of losing it before marriage could outweigh the positives of it (E.g.- (Negatives- Diseases, Guilt, Shame, Blackmail, Depression, Unwanted pregnancy, Abortion (Killing an innocent child)), Positives only include momentary pleasure). Would not it be foolish of a person to overlook the risk of all the negatives for just one positive, unless that person is very ignorant?
Doctor sahab sab ko Virgin wife/ husband chaiye par khud virgin nhi he dusro se jhuth bol loge khud se kese bologe I think partner loyal hona chaiye fir chahe vo virgin ho ya na ho it doesn’t matter yes I’m a Virgin but iski kya guarantee hai ki mujhe bhi virgin partner hi milega me kitna bhi puch lu vo to yehi kahega ki ha me virgin hu or ise proof krne ka koi tarika bhi nhi he to ye sab chhodo patner loyal hona chahiye fir vo chahe husband ho ya wife jo uska past tha vo past tha future me kuch nhi hona chahiye bas
WHAT HE IS SAYING IS WRONG I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY THESE PEOPLE WANTED TO FORCE THERE IDEOLOGY ON OTHER LISTEN HE IS SAYING VIRGINITY DOES NOT MATTER, IT DEPEND ON PERSON TO PERSON IF WOMEN ENGAGED IN PRE MARITAL AFFAIRS ITS HER PERSONAL CHOICE I AGREE BUT IF YOU ARE ENGAGED IN MARRIGE RELATIONSHIP IN A BOND, WHICH IS CONSIDERED SO MUCH PURE IN INDIAN IDEOLOGIES THEN BOTH PARTNERS MUST TELL THERE PAST RELATIONSHIP AND MUST ASK WITH EACH OTHER THAT IS HE/ SHE OK ABOUT THIS, IF THEY HAVE ANY DOUBT AND THERE THINKING STRUCTURE IS DIFFERENT THEN THERE IS NO NEED FOR TO CONTINUE THAT RELATIONSHIP AND IF YOU DON’T GIVE A DAME SH*T ABOUT MARRIGE AND ENGAGES IN PRE MARITAL AFFIAR AND IT IS NORMAL FOR YOU THERE IS ALSO NO NEED FOR A MARRIAGE WHERE YOU WILL BE IN A SOLID AGREEMENT FOR your LOYALITY And if you want to marry first try to find a person whose thoughts are same as you I am not against pre marital affair but according to me you must discuss all about your past with your partner which are related to your future relationship Be open with each other and ask each other question the best way is dating with each other Because in arrange marrige it is difficult to ask such question is short period of time Give each other time My conclusion is all person thought process are different and we must have no right to force our ideas on other 1. No need to judge a girl who engage in pre marital affair 2. And feminist liberal also have no right to force there ideas on those person who are against pre marital sex And plz discuss these things before marrige Not like this doctor who is teaching that sex is women personal choice and she is not bound to tell them to there upcoming partner हमेशा याद रखे शादी / रिश्ते नाते की डोर कच्ची होती है, किसी भी प्रकार का पर्दा नही होना चाइये Or jisko debate karni hai ajao comment box pe 😃😃😃 hum tiyar hai
That’s why virgin men don’t ever marry non virgin gals. Pre marital affairs and timepass live in relationships are bad for both gender but pregnant sirf ladki hoti hai, abortion bhi ladkiyon ko hi krana hota hai, abortion pills kha khakr apni body bhi females hi kharab kr rhi hai (kyunki everyone knows thta maximum males don’t prefer to use condoms) parviar ki ijjat bhi ladki hi hoti hai n relationship mein physically strong bhi lakda hota hai to ladkiyon ko shadi se pehle relationship mein jaana hi kyu hai aisi bhi kya aag ho rhi hai iske bajaye jaldi shadi kr lo
Mei us din ka intezaar kar raha hoo ki jis din indian culture poori tarah se khatam ho jayega even shadi to hamesha hamesha ke liye aur female goddess bhi aur us din ka jis din jis din har men sex aur bachchon ke liye female jaisi burai pe depend nahi rahega, aur uske baad jo jo julm kiye gaye hai hai males pe khaskar hindu males pe females ne un sbka berhmi se badla liya jayega
Ajj kal ki ladkiya kuch jyada aga nikal gyi abb kuch nhi ho sakta 😅 virginity ka chakkar ma boys virgin rah jayega bad ma tumhe disappoint hona padega jab tumhe virgin nhi milegi aur milegi toh wo juthh bol rhi hogi😅bcoz 95 percent girls are not virgin aur 99.99 percent kissed already We are progressing towards western culture 😢 No love only sex Only love our parents Focus on goals then goal in every hole 😊
Haan bhai, Sita maa ki agni pariksha dikha do but Virgin Marry ko baksh do 🤣🤣 Bhakk! On a different note, anyone who does feel they are missing something as because they haven’t adorned Seccs; plz do not feel so. You aren’t missing something immensely magical and need not cope with the ongoing trend of furthering so called mileage or body counts, you still are enough for yourself so do kindly contemplate on it. Virginity is a myriad of viewpoints and the physical aspect stands lowest in this queue, and the emotional aspects flies high. There might me a multitude of knitwits lingering around who consider just the physical frame but there also exists many oppugnants to the former thoughts. Being said that please do not project hypocrisy when you are none, you owe none.
Marrying virgin or not is ur preference, ok but ist of all girls are living beings who have feelings just like men so determining women’s worth based on hymen is so cruel nd humiliating. Girls worth is not between her legs but based on her character . sme ppl have sex based on emotional intimacy sme have sex coz dey like it, nothing wrong in both sides. Wen men nd woman r hvng sex why society oly judge women ?.., men don’t have purity or not ..,ppl are viewing woman like objects like someone use den suddenly dey became second hand.all men need to understand one thing . when men intiate sex in relationship dat is normal but later dey will slutshame other girls I mean why? If men need sex that is manly but if woman had sex she is slutty. This Virginity concept won’t change anyway but atleast don’t slutshame other women
The comment section is a clear representation of how certain men deny to understand basic things😂 Bhai kitna misinterpret kar sakte ho ek simple si article ko🤷 all it says is to take control of your body, life and choices, irrespective of what the “ideal patriarchal society” demands.. applies for both men and women. Isme itna kya mirchi lag raha hai 😂
It’s a personal choice of men to marry a virgin or non virgin girl and one may be the reason is a woman who had sex with multiple partners could carry all those males DNA so whenever she got pregnant by her husband than that kid would be mixture of all those DNA including husbands DNA. Virginity matters brother
If you read this, do respond To all men out their You can keep your demands of virginity if you are also . Their is nothing wrong in it. But think in this direction that whatever is available to you, in reality you have to pick up from that options only. And everyone is wise on the available quality of women. So choose bad from worse or worst that is your only option. Good quality is their but they will get degraded till they reach you . So either from your initial days, select one and save her from others till marriage Or else choose from bad worse or worst . We as men will internally die from this insecurity but You also don’t have to die alone, so compromise on that .
Im in the aromantic spectrum and asexual as well. Sex before marriage or after marriage, doesn’t matter. Sex is sex. If it was hookup then it was pure lust but prior marriage sex in a romantic relationship, thats also lust but atleast with love present. Nevertheless, i wonder y people even have lust. Like, instead of seeing marriage as life companionship, people in India see it to be sex license. Y is sex so important. For sure they dont see sex just as an act for reproduction, without having desires to rub genitalia, or they won’t make suhagrat an actual culture of sex night. Its clearly cuz sex is a desire, urge and people also experience sexual attraction . Its just that in India, people are expected to wait till mid 20s for the license. Everything is infact, about sex. The moment I realised this, i got really disturbed cuz growing up, i used to think people are like me but i was wrong. Most people are allosexual (heterosexuals, homosexuals, bisexuals, pansexuals). Asexuality is the polar opposite and to confuse people even more, add aromantism to the equation. This world seems like a parallel universe to me, where everyone experiences Romantic attraction (crushes), emotional desire to be in a romantic relationship, sexual attraction, sexual desire. And cultural expectations make things worse…in west, y no interest to date (the question starts from teenage). In India, y no interest to marry (ie, socially legalised institution of relationship with sexual and romantic nature), once mid 20s.
the modern world is so wrong. Virginity (both for men and women!) is good since it gives an idea of “saving some moments special for someone special”. In case you accept viginity does not matters,you either accept sex is not something special and sacred – this idea gives rise to casual sex (a big problem in the west); it is ok if your wife/husband doesn’t treat you someone special
Agar virgin chahiye To 19-21 ki ladki Jisne college private kiya ho Aur working na ho Bahut mil jayegi 26 crore mein bahut hai . Effort dalo aur kutiyo ke muh par gobar dalo. Marry a virgin otherwise remain single. And if unfortunately u got married to non-virgin then never take her seriously be financially strong and divorce at the right time .she is dustbin even in all religion non virgin should not be your wife
Humans are basically polygamous. To be a monogamus is a social construction. But I think it’s good for to have a good family. It’s your quality, to having sex with single patner. Sex before marriage is definitely individual choice. But as my opinion share your body only with your partner. Don’t go for casual sex and there by reduce your values.( Virginity can’t be identified by a man on his partner. Every women not have Hyman on her birth. Some of them loss it’s on cycling,dancing and any other physical activities or having sex)
I think there’s more than just virgin and non- virgin. For examlpe: a virgin who are not a good person or having a terrible personality is very different from one who is virgin because they have really high expectation in man. And of course, marrying the second one is better because it shows how much of a mature man you are. Sorry for my bad English
Kuch bhi bakwas, jis zamane me reh rahe ho na beta,kisiko bhi pura hak apni choice ka partner choose karne ki, “she is not anserwable to you”bc aise admi se shadi hi kyu karni h apko,bhai sun ab tu agar koi ladka aisi ladki ko accept karne ke bad depression me chale jata hai khush nahi hai iske upar article bna, choice is chouce it is as simple as that, or aaj kal ki ladkiyan bina shadi kiye bhi khush reh sakti hai samjha
Those who have multiple partners is a different issue ….becoz having lot of multiple partners shows that they have no faith in love ..only lust…n everyone has right to reject or accept based on their necessity….but y judging someone especially a woman…u never know y that happened….not everyone has sex for lust… especially women…they do if they really love someone Can u comment on a scenario where the partner was one…who was in love a boyfriend u can say but left due to some issues….but the girl was faithful…she loved that man n was happy….now will u judge her only on virginity….is she worth Virginity only even though she was loyal to her partner but in end he refused to marry…..then that man judges other women based virginity… But what abt those women who lost their Virginity becoz of being loyal to someone….but no one questions man’s worth on virginity…becoz vo to ladka h ..ladke aise hi hote h…. Will u justified that. Is this again gender based patriarchy where only women was judged n questioned…as of all men are pure….n if that man was loyal to her girlfriend but she left…then that man will not be judged on virginity….he will be applauded becoz he was so kind loyal..again she was bad blah blah…in either ways women are judged … questioned on character…..so men have character to question their hypocrisy? I want an answer from my Indian people.
Well, after few months later, I am perusal this article again. And I want to ask you all a question “WILL YOU LET GO OF A TRULY REMARKABLE WOMAN, JUST BECAUSE SHE HAVE HAD SEX WITH SOMEONE SHE KNEW?” And of course, when I watched this article first time, I did comment some awfully things, I will not delete them so that you know what was my “THINKING ABOUT WOMEN.” I know it is hard to accept SOMEONE’S PAST. However, it will not kill you if you spend some time with HER. Will it?
I respect your opinion to certain extent, yes having sex in the past doesn’t changes a person, if he or she was a cheater, then he/she was cheater from the beginning. Some people also have good relationship and have healthy sex life. But, certain cases, they got dumped by their bf or gf, it necessarily doesn’t mean they have problem in their attitude. I personally not much obsessed with someone’s past, not even willing to ask, unless the person voluntarily talks about it. In case of verginity, I dont care about virgin girl or non virgin girl, I just want a kind, compassionate, honest partner. That’s it.
No not at all doc, neither men NOR women should have sex before marriage. If you’re a virgin man who wants to only be with a virgin woman, you’re absolutely right & ought to be. But if you’re not a virgin, you have no right to demand a virgin or chase/pursue one. If sex is just sex, why is it that study after study has shown that couples who are virgins on their wedding night have substantially lower divorce rates, better intimacy & happier marriages than those who aren’t? Evidently, it’s not “just sex”, it’s a life altering experience that ought only be saved between a married virgin man & woman. If it’s bad to judge women for having had sex as you believe, it’s equally as bad for you yourself to judge me, a nice virgin guy, for wanting a nice virgin girl & YOU should be ashamed of yourself doc.
I feel very happy to see a “Male” talking about hymen, virginity and all nonsense which has a very bad impact on girls. I know a lady who is suffering everyday in her life only bcoz she was in relationship. She was good in classica dance. Later that guy left her after some months and never returned. She married an other guy bcoz her family forced her to marry him. Now 2 years after her marriage she has a 1 yr old cute baby boy. Pregnancy + not practicing classical dance made her gain so much of wait. I’m a fashion designer. I just went for her son’s first year birthday. She said my designs were good. Her mother in law was like design a 3XL dress for your friend. Only then she will be able to wear it. And I could see her in-laws teasing her for her looks and she was not able to open her mouth. Nor her husband came to rescue her. I could only feel sorry. I wish her in laws should go away from her life. She is surviving only for her son. Her husband didn’t even pay heed to her. I’m always there to lend my shoulders to her. But family support is important. I wish her son shouldn’t be raised like her husband or in-laws. Atleast he should know how to respect and treat women.
Shi kaha virgin non virgin jesa kuch nhi hota dono ki understanding or bonding hi relationship ko sundr bnati h…… First time jese b kuch ni hota agr samne wala virgin mil b jaye or jindgi jhand kr ke rkh de toh wo first time ka memory b bekar lgega….. Or emotional or physical bonding time ke sath bnti h na ki virgin se sex kr ke……. Or jo virgin virgin ka Nara lgate h last me bolte h partner sath ni jm rhi dimag khrab kr rkha h. Insan ko accept krna sikhna chahiye . Or term and conditions sirf saman pr lgaye insan pr nhi
Im a female virgin, granted im of western up bringing, i am super turned off by men who put a lot of value in a womans virginity. I find it dehumanising as a woman to be seen that way based on my sexual statis, especially if that person is also not a virgin. its incredibly toxic to value virginity and not help uphold that value in your society by sleeping with multiple women, it says a lot about you as a person. Additonally the idea of virginity meaning pure is also really stupid. You would be a fool to assume im niave and easy to manipulate because of my sexual status, im educated around all things sex and relationship and im really cautious about who i date because i dont want to end up in a domestic abuse relationship. which btw, in my country (western country) for women its a 1 in 4 chance of being in a domestic abuse relationship – 1 in 5 for physically abusive and im not going to risk my personal safety and secuirty to feed your ego. Sorry, im happy being single, i cant miss what i havent had lol plus stats show women are happier single, women are the ones more likely to initiate divorces today and that men are just not interested in stepping up and being good partners these days. incel culture has gotten crazy atm and it really just does feel like its becoming more and more unsafe for women today. I wish i was a lesbian.
The prob is the one who’s asking virgin wife. Had they got the chance to sleep with their girlfriend or crush they wouldn’t skip it. But since they didn’t, they portrait as if they have preserved it proudly and claim to get virgin. The other thing is also their insecurity what if i don’t satisfy her like the previous one. But society’s changing ..most of the guys before marriage not even asking whether virgin or not
There are still virgins out there, I’m 25 and still waiting. But it is really tough in this culture to find a good man who actually wants to wait until he puts a ring on it. But I do trust God has that man for me. Thank you for this article, it has encouraged me and reassured me that I am doing the right thing.
Ladies and gentlemen, do not forget to dress and behave modestly as well. We live in a world nowadays where nudity is promoted and celebrated while modesty is shamed and treated as archaic/backwards. This applies to mainly women but men can be guilty of this too. A good example is the gym culture, where you dress as little or revealing as possible to compensate for movement, revealing all your body parts for the world to see. Think tank tops, sports bras, yoga pants and volleyball shorts. Another, more common and often shrugged off behavior is the wearing of swimsuits in public areas like beaches and pools. You are basically wearing nothing but underwear there. Think shorts, bikinis, one-piece swimsuits, etc. Worse still, little children are being brought into places like this, exposed and desensitized to this kind of culture. If you value morality and modesty, I don’t recommend going to places like these in the first place. Always remember, if you don’t respect your body, don’t expect others to do the same. How you dress and behave at any point of time is a reflection of what your true character is, and this applies for both women and men.
It’s sad how many people are shamed by today’s society for wanting a virgin spouse and feeling duty bound to their chastity (I mean emotionally virgin. Victims of rape are no less virgin from a practical standpoint, in my opinion.). The idea that limitless sexual exploration for men and women is empowering is so short sighted and fails to take into account that humans aren’t machines who’s fulfillment is based only on logical achievements. What’s going to happen to all these “liberated” men and women when they can’t find a life partner willing to accept them without condition because their hearts are so hardened from abuse and heartbreak? What’s going to happen when people become disillusioned and realize their partner’s sexual history doesn’t sit right with them even though they’re just as guilty? Men are trained to say they don’t care about virginity because people taught us it’s wrong for men to put that pressure on a girl. But as statistics show, belief, no matter how logical, doesn’t change harsh reality.
Virgin men and virgin women deserve to get married to each other. The fornicator/adulterer is for the fornicatress/adultress. However, I believe exceptions can be made for a widower/widow (whose previous sexual encounters was only with his/her spouse and no one else) and genuine rape victims (not the ones who cry wolf).
A woman whose still a virgin is going to have a total control of her future home since she’s complete in terms of: energy,focus,loyalty and most of all love.On the woman who has lost her virginity will have to face some struggles in her future home since she has spent part of herself in the past relationships.It’s like a brand-new car vs a used car.Ladies don’t feel offended by my analogy nothing personal.
Traditions around the world always practiced this path of men marrying virgins when it came to pairing up to create families …and it turned out for good reasons ! Like you pointed out the biology and psychology of a female is much complex than that of a man . I also am aware of how unfair this might seem to women in general, and I do acknowledge that . But It also serves no one to avoid or pretend these facts don’t exist .
This is true. My adopted sister has been promiscuous in her life. She is with a guy right now and has a kid with him and has one by another guy. But this present guy you can tell she doesn’t even know he is in the world. She is totally indifferent to him. It’s like they are roommates. I have never Even seen her kiss him. Her eyes her mind is totally not present. But he doesn’t even notice or care. She just with him for companionship
When I was 19 yrs and my husband at that time was 21 yr I gave my virginity to him because its all I wanted to serve him as a wife and pleasure him knowing life is hard and he wasn’t a virgin man but I did have doubts of me being w one man my intire life I believe I will love and adore until we don’t have anymore breth cuz I love him so much that ill be faithful till death even after death! Love&peace
So the question is gents why would you want to be giving 100% to someone who won’t do the same? I am weary of women who are not virgins. Not that they are bad people but they can’t give themselves fully to you. It is what it is. I will only be serious with a virgin. because I want a committed team mate a lover, a bond no one can break.
Also, I agree, ideally, both parties should be virgins when they marry. God created sex as something good but as something that is only to be done within the context of marriage. However, although I also agree that men and women are different in their approaches to sex and relationships, the man is not left “off the hook” here. In a sexual relationship, both parties are creating a soul tie. In scripture we see that It is sinful for both women AND men to have sex outside of marriage. Scripture makes it clear that men are also held accountable. Although we see men having multiple wives in scripture and being promiscuous, this is not the way that God designed sex to work. God designed sex to be done within the context of marriage and marriage is to be between one man and one woman for life. Therefore, ideally, men should also be virgins when they marry. Both parties are held equally responsible. Also, scientifically, there are some complications that occur when men have had many sexual partners (no surprise, since it is against God’s design!). Not to mention the comparison that can occur when one has had many sexual partners. Also, yes, I agree that a wife should be fully devoted to her husband, but let us not forget that in Ephesians 5, when God is addressing husbands and wives, his first command is “husbands love your wives”. This command is repeated more than the command for wives to submit to their husbands. This, the command for husbands to love their wives is emphasized, showing that God holds men equally responsible.
amen. virgins are a must have hope!. so true about the % wise. i say the womb is a memory card that saves data. once the seal has been broken the data is saved and the code is locked in. and how if she has even slept with 1 other man. that was the man she will always her womb will always remember. virgins are a must. true about how your not getting her full self. take my ex for example years ago. she had already slept with 2-3 guys ( that i know of)… and she never did give me her full self. due to her bond not being with me. idk who took her v card but it was to the point she wasn’t able to bond anymore anway. virings are a must. when a girl has been hurt u can tell. if shes not with that guy she will look liek part of her is gone. cuz it is. virgins have hope.
I had Sex the first time out of curiosity at 19,I regreted ofc..and made myself wait 9 years to do it again, definitely worthy, I think he looked at my at first like if I was weird like no way, I said yes Is true, and it was wow, I think he appreciated that a lot, and tbh I think at some level he appreciated that I was like this on my Sex life, and that makes me worthy of being with him at the time, we’re about to get married, we have a baby, and for me divorce and stuff is no option, it is him or nothing, we have. A baby now and I want no other man in our house, nobody but him is walking through that door…I put 200% on making us work because of us and mi baby and because for me the nun/mom life isn’t for me… That’s how much I appreciate my relationship and the family we are making
i think this guy is partial right but SO MANY other factors come into play for ex. he said the virgin will give herself 100% emotional, physical, mentally ect to the man. that is INCORRECT. depends on the woman. what if she said yes to marry the man but she didn’t really love him. it happens. not as much anymore since women make their own $ but still. she may LOVE him. for being a good husband/dad/provider. but she isn’t IN LOVE with him. never was. that’s just 1point. she may lost her virginity to him but if she never really lusted him like that she will find another man who she really does WANT. married ppl cheat. ex. SOME women will marry him for a lifestlye/ social status w/e and CHEAT with a man who she really finds attractive.
Yup a person that is a senior male o female will tell you the truth. About marriage especially when they have been there & done that. The rest of you people are only posting up your jealous envy. All these older fems are not 4 me i don’t look that way i don’t hate i just don’t want a fem older than 24 for marriage & i am 100 years old how u like me now. There’s to much corruption in this country no 1 is doing the correct solution that can have a negative impact on this country chain reaction downfall. I don’t have control of my identity. The government needs to do its F job
You recommend that people never get married, yet the Bible says that God created marriage and designed it to be something that is good. Ideally, God designed marriage to be a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman. God told Moses that the only reason that he even allows for divorce is because of sin. However, it is still the breaking of a covenant that was made before God. There are a few Biblical grounds for divorce (I.e. in cases of abuse, adultery, or abandonment) but all of these actions are a breaking of the covenant relationship. In these cases, the wronged party is not to be held responsible for the divorce. However, marriage is meant to be a good thing created by a good God to model the relationship that Christ has with his church. Thankfully, Jesus Christ redeems even when we fail. So, even for those who have been divorced or have committed any kind of sexual sin, they can find forgiveness and hope in Jesus Christ.
This is silly… especially from someone who starts out by saying they’ve been married four times. If you tell someone ” you have no worth if you’ve ever had sex” well guess what… that will reflect in the relationship. The man who has been told that will treat the non virgin poorly and the non virgin woman will internalize it and never feel safe and good in her relationship. The most important thing, men or women is to find someone who is honest, kind, trustworthy, faithful, loving, patient and secure in themselves. Ladies avoid men who think that one thing determines whether you’ll be a great spouse. Avoid men who compare you to an object.. and avoid men who try to use your status as a way to determine your value. Signed, someone old and married only once.
This article is pure fodder for people looking for some kind of reassurance or some “failsafe” to relationships. There are NONE. Virgins and nonvirgins are still going to have super massive psychological issue if they’ve had trauma, and most people have nowadays. Just because someone is virgin does not make them better or worse than nonvirgins. This is ridiculous folks. Take care of your body, mind, and spirit, then demand the same from your partner. If you fall out of love, then you at least know that you will still be married to a very good person.