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We easily confuse love with a feeling of lust, desire, or infatuation. Love is now often defined as a myriad of positive emotions or feelings one has towards another person, rather than the renewed willingness to forgive and act in their best interest. Counter-intuitively to many of us, the act of love requires the will and courage to tell the other of their weaknesses, not to embarrass or belittle them, but for them to grow and improve. That is why a parent scolding their child for bad behaviour is a true sign of love. A courageous parent knows the child will love them, at first, in spite of this, and later because of it. It’s my theory, that a great many adults who have trouble in their relationships were children, who were not shown the critical or constructive act of love from their parents in the form of criticism, restrictions or punishment. Instead these parents, in fear of their children rejecting them, would rather always let the children have their way, give them what ever they wanted and in many other ways chose to avoid any path that would result in conflict, or even the child showing any displeasure by crying or throwing a tantrum. While a parent like this may feel attachment or love towards their child, they fail to act in the child’s best interest. The vicious circle completes when that child enters adulthood, with the expectation that someone who “loves” them would never ever tell them anything potentially hurtful and that love is a set of positive emotions, rather than something we do.

To all single people out there, please first and foremost believe in your inner values. Love and respect yourself as who you are right now. This does not mean that you should think of yourself as someone flawless. But you have to first love both your strength and weakness. Then, believe that you deserve to be loved by others. Also, you deserve to choose who you want to be together with for the rest of your life. If you start with the right attitude, I am sure that your journey to find “the one” for you will be a GREAT one; not 100% full of roses, but beautiful enough to make you smile at the end of the day. :’)

I knew my husband and his siblings for ten years before our whirlwind relationship and thought I had my himvetted but I disregarded the advice of those who did not like him. Loyalty is one of my strengths/weaknesses. Turns out, before we left the church on our wedding day, I began to be allowed to see what they were talking about. My bad. Should have waited longer than six months to marry him. Only thought I knew him.

This notion seems to explain unwarranted dissatisfaction with many other types of relationships. The one that kept coming back to me was pupil-teacher relationships. Good teachers we had early in life might shape our mental template of what good teaching is. Later, at university, for example, it could be that a professor doesn’t give you attention in the same way a good high school teacher did. Yet, the professor might have structured his course in ways that are much more conducive to learning. You might not like him as a teacher, because his ways don’t match those from your early good-teacher template. It could be the professor is “just a bit too right”, rather than a bad educator. Same with governments sometimes.

Great book on this topic is “Adult childer with emotionally immature parents!” by Lindsay Gibson. At first, some parents might seem quite loving and gentle parents, but they might deprive their child of deep emotional connection. This type of relationship might drive us into a form of a lifetraps (schemas – called in cognitive behavior analysis). I see people commenting how this article evokes depression. On the contrary, I think this kind of knowledge is rather liberating! Great tool to understand my psychological situation and make the best of the future!

I flirted a bit with someone I considered to have good humor and a voice I grown to like. He didnt hesitate and jumped right in. There was a moment where I thought “why am I doing this?” but from the moment I initiated the flirt he was nothing but amazing. He checked every Box I ever had. He was kind, romantic, had same core values, was able to express his feelings, loved animals. From the moment we first met there was a strong connection. It was amazing to have met a man who would just hold my hand and tell me how amazing he thought I am and I did the same. I’m here, perusal all the articles because theres this inner urge in me to cause fights, to argue, to seek out the things I considered “familiar”. I feel like I am impersonating someone. Someone who’s deserving of such an amazing relationship, someone Who’s capable of maintaining it. But this time I dont want to run from it, I want to work on myself to break the circle of misery.

I can honestly say that I’ve never really witnessed a loving relationship. The one between my parents is deeply skewed and seems to be predetermined by the fiscal and the inevitable anticipation of arguments and fights that go on for weeks. So, for a pretty long time I went on with my life thinking that love simply doesn’t exist, it’s something that I’ve never had a taste of or have seen its manifestation in other people. To me, it’s quite sad that I’ve made the conscious decision to be simply content of being tepid.

I thought to myself today: “School of Life has a lot of advice regarding the relationships we currently have, but how do I choose who to start relationships with?” Then this article popped up on YouTube. Thank you, this article put a few things in perspective and really made me think about my choices in the past and into the future regarding relationships.

It is a mystery to me why we sometimes get the worst out of people that we actually love. Me and my fiance are now in a break because of many difficulties we’ve had. I too felt like I was breaking her in the name of “helping her grow”. I thought I was bringing up all the pent up shit that was underneath for her to start to “cope with it”. I realize now that I may have just brought up sides of her that she didn’t really want to bring up. I feel like it was irrelevant to our relationship even tough at the time I felt like I was doing her a favour. She also made mistakes but that’s not my place to speak of them. That’s why we took a break, to understand why we’ve gotten to where we are and what can be done differently. She told me a number of times that she never would have thought she’d reach such complexity in a relationship. And I agree that our relationship right now feels very complex. There are so many things to resolve and so many mistakes made that it feels overwhelming, drifting between love and and longing to anxiety and jealousy kind of feelings. It’s so confusing, I feel like I’ve made her life better while simultaneously making her life worse. I think in many ways I still think, act and behave like a child but didn’t even know it until it surfaced in our relationship. Really gets me thinking and feeling all kinds of stuff

Hello, I am an English learner, meaning I am not a native English speaker. And I really enjoy perusal you guys’ article which is so educational and informative, thanks for your work! Additionally, I want to ask something since I am not a native speaker myself, sometimes it’s hard for me to catch some part of the article when it related to some academic terms, so is it possible for you guys provide the transcript of the article? Although I know there’s subtitle of the article I can use on youtube here, I sometimes find it hard for me to understand since it’s generated by the mechanical program behind the scene, meaning it can be inaccurate sometimes. So can you guys add an extra transcript of the article in here? Or your website? By the way, if you needs help that I can provide, I would love to offer, all you need to do just ask☺

I was trying to remember everyone who loved me as a child and I realised that they were all pretty good to me, but when I started thinking of the people I loved as a child, it’s a different story. I didn’t know I was gay as a kid but I was infatuated with some friends along the way that I can now trace as a form of “pre-pubescent crushes/admiration”- those were definitely more of a template for what I seek un a partner and it’s been problematic for my mental health.

I feel like 98% of this would be figured out pretty easily if you just date. Learn how your partners are and figure out the big difference between what women/men usually want and are searching for, and what the individual person you are doing wants. Once you get a good feel for that difference, make sure you’re the type of person you need to be for the other you want, trying to fulfill those mostly desired traits that the opposite/same sex is looking for, and then find the partner that you have that emotional connection with. You’ll be certain to puzzle piece right in. ^^ a bit of astrology always helps too.

I was perusal a show recently. It was based in Rome (anciently) and spoke of love. A long time ago one was married for not love but gain (political gain, social gain, wealth gain). To summarize (very generally) – “You expect Lady Love should come without no work? Imagine how odd it would be to marry someone you love. Love is not something that comes without effort, you must work for it” “It isn’t something that comes easy like what they tell you. Love takes effort” “Do you think love takes no effort? I didn’t love your father when we met but now look at him!!”

Real/True Love is about Reality whereas “Carnal”/Normalised Love is about “Romance”/”Relativism” and similar Frivolities. As such and if true, Real-Love is “Singularly-Natured”/”Innocence” whereas “Romance” is about being (at-least) “Dual-Natured”/Lacking-Innocence (LI). You know, when LI means The-Ability-to “Engage-With” one’s “Frivolous-Desires”. As such, Real-Romance happens after “Marriage”. Marriage, therefore, is NOT about marrying “The-Right-Wrong” Type but about the maturity in handling”Unforseen-Circumstances”. Of course, it is adantageous to marry-into “Correctness” in the first instance. That of NOT desperately trying-to get into trouble in the first place in order to “Test one’s Maturity”. This is why “Marriage” is “The-Test-of-Maturity”. “Divorce” is allowed because having a “Lifetime” of Testing one’s ImMaturity could be ” One Test Too Many”. It is when “Divorce” is used for “Reversing-Mistakes” that “Divorce” becomes “A Bad Taste In The Mouth”, something “The Religiosity of Blindness” will NOT “Agree-To-At-Any-Cost”. For obvious reasons. You know, to promoting “Sexiness”/”InFidelity”, aka Fear-Greed, to Running-Amok. The-Moment when InSanity is able-to “Own”/”Sell” Sanity. That of Justifying-InSanity. It is benevolent to be Conscious & Aware that Human-Life is relatively short and that no matter how one’s “Forever” is acccounted-for, ALL, “Born”, have to, “Die”. The reason why some 80-year-old “woman” should NOT behave like a 20-year-old.

Too much Freudian nonsense in this article. The idea that childhood experiences gives us certain romantic compulsions later in life, one of Freud’s theories, has absolutely no solid evidence supporting it. This article details the premises which led Freud to the conclusion that people have a romantic attraction to their parent, of the opposite sex, and try to find a partner who holds the characteristics of their parent. A better explanation for why people get more attracted to the distant as opposed to well adjusted and open is that a distant person reveals much less of themselves, the gaps in our knowledge will be filled with positive traits if we see them as attractive. This explanation has evidence to support it as it is well established that we subconsciously attribute positive characteristics such as intelligence and honesty to people we view as attractive. I like Alain de Botton and his ideas but he needs to stop referring to the theories of psychoanalysis. He often talks about the virtues of Epicurus ideas. Epicurus major contribution to the philosophy of science “if several theories are consistent with the observed data, retain them all” invalidates every idea purely based upon psychoanalytic observations. The things people say during psychoanalysis could be explained by a multitude of theories but they arbitrarily choose one, this would piss Epicurus right off.

Why does this website always assumes that most people had a bad childhood or have a bad relationship with their parents and that it’s the main cause of problems within a person’s romantic relationships later on in life? I have seen multiple articles where they bring this up. I understand that the first people to teach us what love is are the one who rise us (ex: our parents) and that they have a large influence on us. But there are people who grow up in happy homes and still end up developing issues. I would like to see them talk about other reason when some people have issues in their love life. And another thing, this website also seems to believe that we purposefully turn down nice people for being too nice when looking for a partner. I have never heard anyone say that the reason why they don’t like someone is because the person is too nice.

Thoughts: Instincts are the worst thing you can trust. No matter how aware you are of how much you shouldn’t trust your instincts, they will control how you feel. Look, I come from a country where arranged marriages are a norm. Not marrying someone blindly of course, you get to meet them and know them before marriage, and I don’t think arranged marriages are evil. Those who marry for love are just as crazy as those who get divorced from the lack of love. No relationship is perfect, we don’t live in a world of fairy tales and heroes. This is reality. Where every relationship has its ups and downs, and you learn to work through that.

I had to pause the article I lost focus after you spelled the word instinct instict yet still pronounced it instinct a series of questions arose in my mind in regard to British spelling and American spelling of English words ie theater & theatre but I have to conclude this was a editorial error in a thus far great article

1. NEVER date a girl with a close guy friend (she will most likely start to have feelings for him) 2. If you hear rumors about her, TALK TO HER ABOUT IT) 3. TRY TO MAKE HER LAUGH/HAPPY 4. If she played you, MOVE ON 5. TRY TO MAKE A BOND WITH HER BEFORE ASKING HER OUT 6. If she seems distant, TALK TO HER ABOUT IT, and if she doesnt wanna tell you, LEAVE HER, SHE’S PROBABLY PLAYING WITH YOU.

Being picky in a relationship is ok to a certain extent, but when you create a list trying to paint this perfect picture of who you want, will keep you single. No one is perfect and doing this, blocks you from actually attracting the right one to you. \r 💙YouTuber That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

Some people, like me, are not meant to be in a relationship. I have worked on myself and I have been a genuine good person to the best of my ability. I approach women in a gentle way. I still get rejected in very rude and means ways. I have been told that I was ugly and to go away everytime. Its a horrible experience. I would love to be in a relationship with a woman who was genuine, loved me for me, didn’t see what I look like on the outside but love the qualities on the inside, and didn’t see me as a walking Cashapp.

Do you guys ever wonder if maybe you are keen on projecting your own issues onto the rest of us? I don’t feel this applies to me in any particular way. Psychotherapy is considered bunk for a reason, Freud took all his inner demons and projected them onto his friends & family. There are millions of ways to exist, think, and feel, and this message you’ve been trying to send over the course of 5 or more articles feels funneled to apply to a select few.

Don’t forget that some traits rarely come alone: successful business: little time for you extroverted, charismatic, cool under pressure: manipulative, ruthless… (all traits of psychopaths) broad hips, round butt, particularly feminine face: notorious cheater (genetics are a bitch) putts a lot of afford in his/her appearance: cares more about him/herself than you younger, more attractive: definitely after your money good at flirting and sex: duh, do I really have to say it? You can’t have angel and demon in one person, unless it’s a split personality…. shy and insecure: often either the vulcano type or the backstabber