How To Stop Being Passive-Aggressive In Marriage?

Passive-aggressive behavior can erode relationships by indirectly hurting a partner or refusing to meet their needs. It can be a way of expressing negative feelings, such as anger or annoyance, indirectly instead of directly. To combat passive-aggressive behavior, it is essential to build self-awareness, communicate your feelings, and talk past the urge to react angrily. Recognize your passive-aggressive behavior and understand why your behavior should be changed. State your needs or requests clearly, and put your partner in charge. Discouraging your independence is another sign of a passive-aggressive husband. Men suffering from self-doubt and low self-worth often resort to passive-aggressive behavior to shut their partner down.

To respond effectively to passive-aggressive behavior, focus on your genuine thoughts and feelings, separate emotion from intention, and make friends with your anger. By recognizing your behavior, understanding why your behavior should be changed, and putting your partner in charge, you can create a safe space for communication in more assertive ways. By doing so, you can help reduce the bottling up of resentment that leads to indirect, passive-aggressive actions in your relationship.


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How to beat a passive-aggressive person at their own game?

Dealing with passive-aggressive people: Call them on it with questions, not statements! … Help them understand their anger. … Set loving boundaries. … Tell them how you feel. Tell them to ask for what they want. … Don’t take it personally.

“Did you get my last email?”; “Wow. You don’t care that you’re carrying extra weight and will just walk around in shorts.”; “I’ll do it myself.”; “I didn’t hear you. I didn’t put away the dishes.”; “Somebody left the milk out… Again! You’ve probably been on the other side of this conversation. It’s always annoying and frustrating to deal with someone who’s passive-aggressive. Or maybe you’ve gotten the cold shoulder, the shoulder shrug, or someone who just procrastinates.

What is the biggest act of passive-aggressiveness?

Fake politeness is the worst example of passive-aggressive behavior, according to 24% of respondents. Other bad behaviors include fake innocence (17%) and weaponized kindness (14%). People use weaponized kindness to manipulate others. Most people (83%) would end a relationship if their partner was being passive-aggressive. The worst passive-aggressive phrases, ranked. Context helps you understand if someone is being passive-aggressive. The worst things to hear when said in a passive-aggressive tone are:

How do you fix passive-aggressive behavior?

Know yourself better. Pay attention to your thoughts, words, and behaviors to see if you’re being passive-aggressive. Think about why you’re doing it and what you really want. Ask for what you want. Ask for what you want and you might get it. If you ask for a promotion and negotiate for it, you’re more likely to get it than if you don’t ask. Even if you don’t get what you want, you might get feedback that can help you. Work on your communication skills. Learn to communicate openly, honestly, and assertively. Learn from people who communicate well. Read books or take a class on communication. Express anger in healthy ways. If you’re angry, learn to express it in a healthy way. See others as people, not opponents. Try to empathize with them. Think about what you can and can’t control. Think about why you feel so strongly about things you feel you should control. Let go of things you can’t control. Build a support system. Avoid people who are passive-aggressive and surround yourself with honest, direct people. Learn to give and receive support. Aimee Daramus, PsyD. Life is less stressful when you ask for what you want and say what you mean. Some benefits of being less passive-aggressive:

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What is the six word phrase to stop passive-aggressive behavior?

Does this sound familiar? You can stop this behavior. Remember this six-word phrase: Don’t attack the person, attack the problem. Here are some examples of passive-aggressive behavior in digital marketing:

1. Forgetting: I thought we agreed on launching the email campaign tomorrow, but I forgot. Next week instead?

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What annoys a passive-aggressive person?

13 Ways to Annoy a Passive-Aggressive Person: 1. Stay calm. 2. Ask what their comment means. 3. Set clear boundaries. 4. Hold them accountable. 5. Praise positive behavior. 6. Don’t stoop to their level. 7. Be emotionally guarded.

Learn how to deal with passive-aggressive behavior. We all know someone who is passive-aggressive. Instead of telling you why they’re upset, they might make snide remarks or criticize you in little ways. Passive-aggressive behavior can get irritating, especially if you see this person often. There are ways to deal with passive-aggressive people. Read on for expert tips on dealing with passive-aggressive behavior. Stay calm and don’t get defensive. This makes it harder for the passive-aggressive person to claim they’re the victim. Ask them what their comment or behavior means. That way, they’ll have to admit what they’re doing. Set clear boundaries by outlining what behavior isn’t acceptable, and check in often to see if they’re following through.

What is the most passive-aggressive thing to say?

Watch out for these things and say this instead: “Good for you.” This statement can be used to express happiness for another person’s success, but it’s often used in a passive-aggressive way, said Howes. “Sorry you feel that way.” … “It’s OK.” … “Whatever.” … “Okay.” … “You’re too sensitive.” Yahoo is part of the Yahoo family of brands. When you use our sites and apps, we use cookies to: We use cookies to provide our sites and apps to you, authenticate users, apply security measures, prevent spam and abuse, and measure your use of our sites and apps.

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How do I shut down a passive-aggressive person?

10 Ways to Deal With Passive-Aggressive People. … Don’t fall for it. … Address the issue right away. … Use humor. … Be clear and direct. … Stay in the moment and express your feelings. … Help solve the issue together. … Don’t try to change them. We’ve all tried to avoid conflict or felt we couldn’t express our thoughts and feelings, which can cause us to act in passive-aggressive ways. Passive-aggressiveness is a spectrum, from mild to severe. Some people are more passive-aggressive than others.

Any indirect resistance combined with avoidance of clear communication is passive-aggressive. One example is a former schoolmate who says they want to meet, but then makes excuses when you ask when they can. Another example is a parent who says, “That dress looks good on you, even though you don’t look like that.” Passive-aggressiveness can be uncomfortable and make us wonder if we’re responsible for the awkwardness. The root causes of passive-aggressive behavior are usually deep-seated and best explored in therapy. There are some techniques you can use when interacting with someone who engages in passive-aggressive communication.

What is the root cause of passive-aggressive behavior?

Anger, frustration, and displeasure are normal. People who use passive aggression to show their emotions often grew up in families where this was common. They might not have felt safe expressing their feelings as a child. People can also learn this behavior as adults. They act this way to get what they want. They may do it to avoid conflict. Some people are only passive-aggressive at work. Researchers also link passive-aggressive behavior to:

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What is a passive-aggressive apology?

Passive-aggressive apologies are insincere and make the recipient feel bad. This is when you say, “I’m sorry, I’m sorry, I’m sorry!” If someone is forced to apologize, it’s not sincere.

Transactional: “I apologized, so you should apologize too.”


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  • I grew up in a very assertive family. That are very direct with their aggression. If they don’t like you, you will know. I have more respect for people who are direct with their aggression, than those who try to smile in your face but loathe you. Its two faced and cowardice. I respect you a lot more if you tell me to my face how you feel. Im in the era of my life where passive aggressive people are getting cut out of my life. Or Ill pull an uno reverse and start being passive aggressive back. If you respond with hostility towards them, they can twist your reaction into portraying you as the aggressor.

  • It has been my experience, especially with coworkers, that passive aggressive behavior is a way for some to shutdown communication. You can ask them what is wrong and get ” nothing is wrong” or ” calm down I’m not trying to take your job” as a response. They often won’t even acknowledge their behavior and then make you feel like you’re the one with the problem. I leave them alone.

  • There have been many times in my life when I have been hanging out with a group of people, and one person says: “I love Gabby, even though a lot of people don’t like her or find her hard to get along with, I still love her.” So many times, I have been the recipient of hearing that while hanging out in a group of people. I was lucky to have a friend recently shut that down with: “Things we don’t need to know for $5000.” It’s just hard for me to know how to respond without further making myself look vulnerable or weak. I don’t want to know who specifically does not like me. I am not trying to entertain negative energy or feed into the negative or passive aggressive energy in that moment. Should I pull them aside and respond with: ” Hey I love the first part of what you said and glad you feel that you love hanging out with me. As per the 2nd half of your statement, with all do respect, we all have haters and I am not interested in knowing who hates me. I probably am already aware of these people and not trying to change anyone’s mind about me whose mind is already made up. If there is something that you specifically would like to see me change and want to discuss that, I am open to suggestions. I just prefer to not be reminded that I have group of haters that are known/unknown where I have no control over these peoples negative opinions of me either way.” I could say the above. Do you think that will shut down that person ever saying something like that again? I somehow always find that when I come up with the perfect line to respond with when receiving a passive aggressive comment, somehow the Universe congratulates me by never putting me in the situation again where I never even have the opportunity to use that perfectly constructed response.

  • Currently I have a commenter following my website who is busily making attention-seeking and passive-aggressive jabs. As a small website, I’m trying to build rapport and connections with my viewers, which makes it hard to be polite and nice when some kid is actively sabotaging it haha. I probably should have asked them directly why they were doing it, that seems like a good idea. Thanks for outlining these behaviors and defining them so clearly!

  • I have a coworker who I told I did not want to speak to because of a nasty clip he text me. He currently finds many ways to make annoying noises in our lobby where we work. He then tries to start conversation which I avoid. Every Saturday I’m stuck with his cacophony of noises like tapping on everything like a child.

  • Fascinating topic. The poking and escalating for no other reason than impugning someone else. It’s so weird, but sometimes going along with for a time helps to uncover… the truth is there’s a lot of good stuff and people in this world. Rising above isn’t always easy… I’m trying, juts like everyone is.

  • Thank you, this is really good! 😊👍👍I’m currently in such a tough situation with my mother in law who mostly communicates in a passive aggressive way. I honestly think there’s time she does want to ask for help with something but I don’t even catch it because she is being so passive aggressive. Thank you for this helpful tip that shows compassion and helps communicate with a question. 😊

  • Your article helped me a lot! In regards to your advice how would you apply it to an in-law? My FIL is very passive aggressive with my husband and I and has no problem doing it in front of our kids. My husband has no problem calling him out on it but then the situation of addressing a hurtful comment escalates where everyone’s time is ruined and my husband gets blamed. I’m understanding that there may be times where I need to step in to try to diffuse for my husbands and kids sake. My question is when is it appropriate to stand up to the passive aggressiveness being the DIL? My fil is def playing games and as a result my husband becomes the pariah of the family just for calling his dad out on his bs

  • My flatmate has been behaving that way.. sometimes i forgot to clean a spoon or a dish in the kitchen, he put them on my table, instead of telling me to clean or putting it in the dish-washer. Today I put a box folded next to the front door, so I can throw it out tomorrow morning, but it seems like it bothered him(because it was covering the door of storage room which we don’t use so often) – and when I came out from my room, i saw the box was set dirtily in the middle of the hallway..😥 Every time this happens, it really makes me feel displeasure. Few times I asked him directly what that kind of behavior means, but he even avoided to answer clearly.. I really don‘t know how to react to him. My idea right now is to ignore till he gets really desperate and tells me finally what he wants. And I’ll tell him that I’ve been waiting till he tells me clearly, so he would tell me directly next time(hopefully). But I’m afraid if he never tells me and just behaves even worse. Honestly I also want to know WHY he does like that. +even funnier thing is that he is not a clean person at all. He never cleans so well by himself(I swear i clean the house much more often than him), but he only knows to complain in passive aggressive way…

  • Well, I am currently in a group exam with someone who everytime I repeat something in order to either clarify or is relevant to the info I am about to add in the next sentence, will express with really bad attitude “we just said that” before I am even done. She didn’t even say anything else to me during any of our periods, and before we used to get along fine but after we started working in groups together it’s become harder to do anything together. Usually I would distance myself from these people, but it’s not possible in this situation. I get anxious to participate yet I want to be involved because I don’t want to give the rest of the people on the group a reason to dislike me or a bad impression of me, but I am getting so frustrated I don’t know how to participate without being met with attitude from one of the 4. The others and I get along pretty good (absolutely not besties but comfortable). I don’t complain around them, but I know other in our class have also had problems working together with her in groups (one of people in class that in a part of her trio) said so to me when we both worked on a similar project with her. I don’t know what she wants or is trying to get from commenting like that, except for trying to put my ideas down or just plainly being rude. On some days every time I participate with something I am met with scoffing or her immediately saying “why like that can’t we just.. (her idea)” and if I try to explain she often talks over or insists on her idea.

  • I was hoping to hear what to do when people communicate disdain etc through silence and avoidance. Not asking for what one needs directly is passive certainly, but how does that get categorized as aggression. Anyway, it’s appreciated that you indicate to be frank and ask people for what they want. This goes way back to decades when we all had sensitivity training. Being direct is good. What about when people won’t communicate at all yet they hold power, e.g. higher authorities in an institutional setting.

  • I have one relative of mine telling me – ” people around me think I am much better looking than you. They were surprised I am even related to you in some way. I am a nice person I don’t judge based on looks, however I want you to know what they are saying”. “Your parents sent you to hostel for engineering? My parents were concerned that I will get into trouble due to my beauty, so they didnot send me to hostel. In your case your parents don’t have that fear thankfully” These are just examples of a type of comparison. I get several such comparative statements about anything we can talk about in life. How do I respond? It gets more difficult when my son is around and hears such things coz he may end up getting it into his head or become insensitive himself. Your suggestions will surely help me handle such situations in future. I am not really sure this is passive aggressiveness or plain insensitivity. A very close relative, but I don’t talk often coz these statements are hurtful. However can’t totally avoid talking aswell due to the family

  • If I ask my husband why he does this, or would you please tie the full garbage bag ‘ which is pulling the full garbage bag out, and not tying it’ and putting it in the trash bin outside …his response is mostly, ” then I won’t change the garbage ” 🤦‍♀️….anything I ask him to do, or not do, that’s the kind of response I get or I’m mocking him, which Im not..he takes most of what I say or ask him as a dig, or an insult …I’m to the point of walking on egg shells…he grew up with being scared of his dad, who never showed him love, let him be heard…I tell him he wasn’t responsible for that, but he is responsible for wanting to get through what happened. …he’s 68, I’m 51..married 23 years..I am a lost wife who shouldn’t be afraid to ask her husband a question, or ask him to do something different, which isn’t often

  • Great article! This sort of approach seems to be a good way with dealing with this type of situation with a peer or loved one. I have a follow up question though! In my current situation, my boss at work (highest level in my department whereas I’m at the lowest position), is very passive agressive and dismissive to not only myself but everyone under her in our department. She is respectful to the other department leads at her level. My needs at work are currently not being met (very overworked and taking on responsibility past my job title) and she is constantly dismissive if I try to express them. How do I navigate her passive aggressive and dismissive behavior with this large power imbalance?

  • That’s exactly the way my husband (soon to be ex) reacted. I would ask, what’s going on, are you alright? He would say, what he thought would be the right answer, but it was exactly the opposite of that. He only told me a few things, that bothered him, and never actually said, that he wanted a divorce. He was mean, and gave the cold shoulder, and all that he said, was “I’m sorry”. I tried everything to work things out, he had made up his mind, to end the marriage, without ever saying that. I guess he thought that if he didn’t actually say, “I don’t want to be married to you, that it would somehow be less hurtful and it was the exact opposite. It hurt me so much more, because he didn’t have the balls to be truthful with me, and I have accepted the fact, that I will never have that honest conversation with him. What a small little man he is.

  • I’m currently dealing with this it’s so hard not to get upset. I ask my partner what’s wrong and they lie and say nothing, but they do little slick stuff to make me pay for them being upset, when I explain myself they say they won’t do it again then next time around it happens again. I’m exhausted and ready to give up. That bad feels sometimes like it out ways the good I don’t feel appreciated either. I think I’m going to move on I don’t want to have a partner like this anymore things haven’t changed and I don’t deserve this

  • I am a hospital housekeeper. We take our load of trash downstairs to dispose of. My co-worker spread her laundry carts and trash cart across the hall – blocking the hall. She said to me, “This hall isn’t wide enough” when I arrived with my cart. Is this passive-aggressive? Another time, I rode in the elevator with her when she was taking her trash cart downstairs. A bag was falling off, so I rearranged it on the cart. She said, “It’s fine. IT’S FINE! The next night she aggressively took some broken-down boxes out of my hands as I was gathering them up. !!!! Obviously she has control issues.

  • Recently, after my husband & I took my mother for her med pick up, milk & coffee; she got out of the car and snarkily said, “Sorry for taking up your time!” As she exited our car. I said mom, what do you mean? She wouldnt answer. (She has a history of mental instability and not speaking to her own mother for most of her own life, up til she passed.) We’ve been helping her for years because we live the closest to her. I no longer drive because of my psoriatic spondylitis, so my husband has been shouldering most of my elderly mother’s chores. Now what?? She uses shunning as her go to tool & expects others to overlook her bad behavior. She is 94, so I fear she will pass leaving a trail of regrets.

  • Passive aggressive can also be something else for instance: coughing fake every 2 minutes, clearing throat when you see someone more rich than you, more skilled than you, better looking than you etc. That is a form of communication also. I know people who never get “better”. My brother clear his throat just because everyone else does even he said doctor didn’t find anything wrong. It’s better to say “excuse me”

  • If you say when someone is passive aggressive because of “needs”, then I would say it’s from need to be a jerk. To me, it feels like the person has a deep resentment and insecurity and they can’t communicate unless its with a heavy dose of snark and underhanded comments. I don’t like it and I tell that person right away I don’t play those games. When you call them out on it, they usually resort to the “I’m just joking” defense.

  • today i got called passive aggressive, and this is not clear after seeing the article… there hould be another counter word for those who diagnose passive aggressive for free… funny because i am transparent and i don’t mind speaking out the problems but when nothing is wrong and i get called that i get condused

  • So I have this neighbor guy a middle aged creature who has constantly doing bad passive talk whenever myself and my mom pass him. We don’t talk to each other after a clash . It’s been two years since. But recently he has been coming behind us. He would use deregatary words towards his wife or through phone whenever we pass. We are currently not in a state to shift our house so we are pushed to put up with this crap. It’s very frustrating. We hard come out but when we are, he starts. Such a shitty creature. Seeing things happening this easy makes me feel like there is no karma or God but just the evil alone has been triumphing. We act as if we don’t give ears to him. But deep inside we are gravely hurted and they knew it very well. The beauty is his wife to supports his behaviors and actually act as a catalyst in his disgusting passive talk.

  • What they want or need is usually not my problem. I will deal directly with the rudeness rather than trying to analyze them. The passive aggressive person won’t have the insight into their behavior or they will, but think 1. Others don’t see it, or 2. They don’t care. Either way, the behavior is unacceptable. I will speak up and ask them what their problem is or tell them they’re being rude without asking why.

  • Question: Can the way you been brought up as a child can affect you to be passive aggressive? Info: I was brought up in a household where peace is our main factor; however once in a while when a family member of mine from either side has made a comment or display an action that’s offensive to me. I was brought up to not say anything because my parents and everyone else wants to keep the peace and not deal with the “drama” that’s happening. I get so mad that I start to cry to my parents and I take my anger out on them because they either don’t defend me or give me the green light to be assertive with this family member. Now as an adult I have such a difficult time being open to things that bother me cause I had gotten so use to being quiet about it cause I was the annoying and dumb one that causes trouble. I don’t want to people please anymore and it’s creating a lot of conflict around my family that we don’t talk anymore.

  • I’m with a group of about 15 to 20 people and we 3-4 times a week. I have not celebrated Thanksgiving for 5 years now and so when I was the only one who wasnt going there has been a passive aggressive attitude for weeks before, the day of and for a week after from the main key people. I know that this whole situation is going to happen all over again for Christmas.

  • I’m not sure I want to give a power-hungry, manipulative, vengeful person what they want. Especially when their behavior includes harassment and sabotage…what then? Meer acquaintances in self-appointed positions of “authority” (which were meant to be voluntary positions of service) don’t deserve to be coddled little dictators who act out over misconceptions of “defiance” when their meaning and actions are questioned over genuine confusion. When there is no way to avoid such a person, what then?

  • This girl who I thought was my friend would often say things like “wow, you’re so strong to be able to deal with all the crap you have gone through In your life, I could never be as strong as you, if I had to deal with all that I would just kill myself, that would just be so awful, omg what a nightmare” and go on and on and on. I could be telling her about a car problem I was having and she would just blow it up and continuously ask me about it. If there was anything that was affecting my life in the slightest negative way she would continue to ask about it, I feel like she was almost giddy about it. So of course, when something good would happen or things would work out in a positive way, she would ignore what I would say or quickly change the subject and never ask about it again. She was never my friend and I’ll never understand why she treated me this way. She is an alcoholic/drug addict and I always tried to be supportive of her and be understanding but I gave up. I’m glad I moved on, my only regret is not doing it sooner. ✌🏻

  • There is a guy that I hang out often with and he is very passive aggressive. Idk how to deal with him because I don’t want to talk to him but he comes to me all the time. I really don’t want to talk to him so I sometimes distance myself but I just don’t know how to deal with him. He also compares himself with others and look down on people and I am in a tough situation. I am also scared of confronting him face to face. Can someone give me tips or helpful advices what to do?

  • i have an extended family member whom is EXTREMELY PICKY and uses excuses for everything. “I dont want to eat those mashed potatoes because you used coarse pepper. I like fine ground pepper.” “i dont want to eat those beans because i like beans with bacon or with lard.” How do i prevent MYSELF from becoming passive aggressive?! I stay quiet because i do not want to be a “smart ass” or be passive aggressive. Or pretty much my answer to everything is “to each it’s own” or “that’s okay everyone’s different.” Doesn’t make for an exciting conversation. It is difficult to have a conversation with constant negativity that i do not want to comment on in order to not start argument. Let’s say i comment back with something clinically proven– the response i get from this person is ALMOST passive aggressive (as if they catch theirself about to blow) with a lot of hard blinking and scrunching of the eyebrows as well as a semi-calm voice…almost in defense if i am correct. I guess this person does not like to be wrong no matter what?!! me:”The sky looks red-orange!” person:”No, the sky is pink-blue.” me:”yea, i can see pink-blue but over there it is red-orange.” person:”Ummm, no that’s pink-blue.” me:”Oh, okay.” what’s with that!!?? Hard to discuss in a comment, but just commenting! lol 8}

  • My passive-aggressive behavior comes from teens that I work with in my private home. They come with a therapist but refuse therapy. I have a therapist to help me but I don’t feel like I’m getting any where since the teen is not willing to do family therapy. I’m thinking of quitting until therapy is mandated by law..is that unrealistic to expect?

  • I’m sorry, but as much as I may agree with your advice here in a situation that has to do with with a non-family member acting passive-aggressively, it’s VERY DIFFERENT when the person who is passive aggressive is one’s own MOTHER, and the victim of that mother’s passive aggression is a daughter who is that passive aggressive mother’s CARETAKER. NEEDLESS TO SAY, THIS DAUGHTER OVER HERE IS LOSING HER MIND AND GETTING PHYSICALLY ILL FROM THE CHRONIC PASSIVE AGGRESSION OF SAID MOTHER. I’M LITERALLY LOSING MY MIND AND MAY HAVE DEVELOPED CANCER FROM THE STRESS OF THIS CHRONIC, SICK SITUATION!!! I CAN BARELY BREATHE FROM IT ANYMORE!!!!

  • So I’m having the hardest time understanding what’s passive aggressive. I’m very open and talk about my needs but my partner always says I’m being passive aggressive. Maybe it’s the way I explain my needs. But I’m struggling. Because he does the same thing as me but it’s not passive aggressive. Or at least I think it’s the same. I think maybe I’m a little slow or something because I just can’t understand this and it’s our biggest problem we are dealing with.

  • Its Interpersonal communication in psychology in the C and B levels. The two models : proces and meaning in communication. When an individual havent been there and it is also natural stupid than the individ can not understand things about it self. It Freudian knowledge. It is the sender-context- message-channel-code-contact and reciver. When they get out from their stupid brain the message they are not able to understand the role of their talk and how is recived by the “reciver ” It is a mistery … to understand how stupid one can be. If take a look at defense mechanisme in the identification some people will like to adopt some good sides of others that lead in normal development and function without causing problems around.

  • Thanks. Doesn’t that just escalate the passive aggressive into direct conflict? Plus what about difficult people. E.g. a passive aggressive person who answers questions with questions to evade and delay. So basically I end up avoiding these people as too difficult but that is not a good solution either. Thank you

  • I learned these ppl don’t want understanding they make those comments to take frustration out on you p.a ppl are cowards that won’t stand up to a threat but they will pick at ppl thats good to them i just distanced myself from them im tired getting exited in a bad way from them I’m a reactor so to avoid coming to blows i stay away

  • Can someone please. My friend, she got a new toaster oven, while she was out getting her nails done, I decided to take it out and put it on the counter, to suprise her. She got home was very upset, she wanted to open it up, now she is bringing it back 😢. I feel like crap, I understand where she is coming from, but was not not ready for that response. I apologize, she us like ok, but this is not about you. Huh? I don’t understand, I took out the oven and put it on the counter, she wanted to put back in the box. I ruin her new item she bought😢 She said would I do that to you? No. Just taking like I am this POS because that is how I feel 😢 should have never touch it!!! She is right ! Just the response is freaking me out 😢😢😢. I hate this !!!!!!

  • Can you help me with this scenario? Let’s say I have a 13 year old daughter who refuses to wear a rain coat when it’s raining. So, instead of arguing, I decide to allow her to choose and deal with the consequences. Especially when it’s not cold, so all that happens is she’ll get wet. The teacher asks me in front of all the kids why she doesn’t have a coat. I say: She has a coat, but she doesn’t want to wear it. teachers answer: Excuse me, how old is she? So she is a minor so you have to make that decision for her! (In front of everyone) How do I deal with such a scenario? Thanks in advanced

  • There’s a service online that offers 100% cell phone monitoring with the ability to “intervene” during someone’s use. I believe this intrusion has been taken against me on my device because my youtube recommendations and their thumbnails speak to the actions I take on my phone when I’m not on Youtube and are relevant to my regular day-to-day interactions. For example, lets say I’ve been browsing on Youtube for days, weeks on end and then all of a sudden in my recommendations a article shows up that says “Ipad Babies” which speaks to my overconsumption of media content. In my view, this is the bad actor taking a passive aggressive shot at me and my behavior. Another example is when I was texting a woman i met through work and was moving closer towards discussing a potential date, I got aroused and started browsing xxx content. When i got back to Youtube, I got recommended a Dave Chappelle stand-up titled “premature ejaculation”. I perceive these instances as passive aggressive bullying efforts taken against me, but there is no recourse for me to take to stop the harassment. There’s no conversation to have with someone to ask why they are doing it. I’ve suspected people in my outer circle responsible for it, and I’ve cut my ties with them because I believe they chose to gaslight me about it. But still, there’s no clearcut way for me to address their invasion of my privacy. i know this sounds crazy, but I truly believe this is what’s happening to me and I feel extremely isolated and trapped by what i would describe as torture.