The term “tribe” and “mama tribe” are commonly used in everyday conversation, often referring to specific tribes or cultures. However, these terms carry misleading historical and cultural assumptions, which can hinder accurate views of African realities. The term “tribe” has no consistent meaning and carries misleading historical and cultural assumptions. It is often used in advertising, self-help, and even in the context of wedding blessings.
The term “tribal” is derived from the Latin word “tribus,” which was used for voting precincts in the Roman Empire. It was later applied to Biblical stories about the Israelites after Rome became Christian. Cultural appropriation, where labels draw from deep-rooted design codes without crediting the culture they are taking them from, is particularly problematic.
The term “tribe” has been used in various contexts, such as teepees, hoop earrings, and shot glasses. The term “pow wow” is frequently used by non-natives in some regions, but it is not unique to any subset of people or culture.
Cultural insensitivity can have an adverse impact on the workplace atmosphere, as employees may feel alienated from others and affected by the output of the work. The American Psychological Association (APA) continues to work to dismantle destructive hierarchies that have marginalized people from equitable representation and participation in society.
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I had over 1k wedding guests…. But that’s a little tongue in cheek. I had a SUPER budget wedding, and got married during a public event; an Ice Cream festival. My wedding was literally an event on the schedule for public entertainment. The actual guest list was about a charter-bus load of relatives, plus a few families and friends who drove themselves to my wedding, and the reception was a lot luck dinner in a grotto full of picnic tables. We drew on creativity and sweat equity, and had a BLAST.
I’ve had the wedding conversation with an American friend a few times because in New Zealand it can be quite common that people are long term unmarried partners rather than married. I’m 31 and barely have 10 friends that are married, let alone 10 weddings a year (this could also be just be the location I’m in, people more focused on work and lifestyle than weddings). It might have something to do with having to be separated for 2 years to get a divorce but I’ve also never felt pressure to get married even though I’ve been with my partner for over 8 years. I love hearing different perspectives on it.
I was hoping someone would talk more about this! I got married last year and me and my husband were feeling the same about getting our families together, but oh my gosh! It’s almost impossible to do a budget wedding. Everything that has «wedding» or «bridal» slapped on to it is so freaking expensive! I think it’s important to take a moment and really think over what we spend money on when it comes to our wedding. Yes, it’s special, but the wedding day will not define the whole marriage! Also I think we just need to tone down the pressure that is put on the couples (by family, friends, media of course, and well, capitalism and materialism) and just let them plan a day that feels special to them regardless of what that means. If it’s the whole crazy big extravagant thing, or a small and intimate celebration. Great content 😉
We had a big wedding for like £2000! There was a huge amount of luck involved with that though because we have a massive extended family who wanted to help. So like my husband’s auntie made my dress out of vintage fabric, his mum did our flowers, his cousin made us a cake, my dad is in a band so he did the music etc. We saved on the venues by going to the registry office (which was a really nice room in the town hall) and our village hall for the reception. Instead of hotels or whatever we had camping on the playing fields for £5 a pitch to cover the cost. And we asked for food instead of gifts and had a giant picnic. People always tell us they had the best time so it worked out well!
i got married in 2020. we did our ceremony in front of our city’s art museum. it took maybe an hour for photos and the ceremony and we just had two witnesses. it was nice and cost us maybe $200. we made this decision at the end of 2020 not knowing when the pandemic was going to end. i’ve been feeling weird about it now that i know people holding full weddings again but this article reminded me of how much stress and financial burden is involved, and reminded me of an experience i had… in 2019 i was on the bridesmaid roster for a close friend’s wedding. i helped her partner plan the engagement, helped her plan the aesthetics and the music, went dress shopping with her, bought a bridesmaid dress and the whole gambit. then about a month before the wedding she had a complete stress induced meltdown and burned bridges with her entire bridal party. i didn’t know or recognize anyone in her bridal party photos from the event and now i have a pointlessly fancy dress that i can only imagine using for costume parties. all things considered, when a couple is footing the bill for their own wedding it seems smart to just go small.
Getting mad at guest complaints is so weird because in my experience, if you do RSVP no to a wedding, the couple gets even more bent out of shape. You either have to be ok with people not wanting to attend your wedding or you gotta be ok with people not universally loving the event. It’s weird to expect everyone to enjoy your wedding as much as you do.
It’s worth mentioning that as an industry, it’s so well poised to inflate prices unjustly, much like the healthcare industry, because what are you gonna do? Not get married? When everything is already going badly? And I think it’s just a dreadful illustration of the increasing anxiety over our lives under late-stage capitalism. People seize the little or big joys they can have, and lately even those are under threat. Great article!
Honestly, I think pinterest and instagram have made people think weddings are about perfection. But fun weddings are about the people, good food, the music and having a good time. It doesn’t matter if it’s an expensive venue or something cheaper or if it’s gourmet food or pizza. Some friends of mine had a tiny wedding with their closest family and then threw a much simpler big party for friends a few weeks later. Very informal with cheap food and drinks, but so much fun.
My fiancé and I were going to have a $15k wedding back in 2021, but I called it off for personal reasons. We’re back to planning to get married and our new wedding in 2023 will be in my grandparents’ backyard which will cost $0. The wedding industry is a sham, and I think COVID helped reflect that with the amount of elopements that took place.
honestly think the best example was the 1st sex and the city movie when carrie planned this huge mega wedding because her friends and the general community kinda pressured and convinced her into it even though she at first just wanted to get married in this vintage suit that she got at a cheaper price, and that huge wedding intimidated mr big and shit happened, it was only when they got back together that they married at the courthouse in her original vintage suit with her iconic manolo blahnik heels, then ate at a diner with her close friends despite the many flaws with sats, this was one of the nicer moments and endings
I’m really introverted, and I enjoy my own company. when I’m out with friends and coworkers I’m social and friendly, but I’ve always found events and parties really draining. The idea of planning a wedding were I’m partly center of attention is honestly so stressful and it definitely makes me lean towards elopement. However being an only child I do feel some obligation to throw a bit more of an event for the sake of my family, cuz, for example: my dad won’t have another chance to walk someone down the aisle. I’m constantly in this struggle of, “I would feel bad disappointing them” and “it’s our day so it only matters what we want” 😮💨 Paying for an expensive party you don’t want, or, sneaking off with only the two of you and then regretting not having pictures of you and your guests together, that it was Too low key .. struggle is real 💆🏼♀️
We just went to the most expensive restaurant for our reception. The venue was free, the wait staff were included, the cleanup was handled, and the food was significantly better than catered food because it was prepared fresh. They were also willing to give a choice of five entrees with every person getting two plated sides and two family style sides.
Great timing, I’m planning my wedding too. I’m in the UK and we’re going to the notary and then to our garden for reception of about 15-20 closest family and friends. We’re having pizza and a selection of Portuguese cakes. The dress code is “wear the outfit you feel best in” and it can be from pjs to ball gown – it’s supposed to make the person feel really good. I am making my own dress because I want to look like a forest nymph made of flowers and that’s that. We’re spending money on a professional photographer, and a bar on wheels + mixologist. We’re not having any formal events surrounding the wedding, not even stag/hen dos. Our families are in different countries so, instead of buying us presents, they are buying their plane tickets. There’s is no wedding party (bridesmaids and such). For us, the point is to have a joyous, fun, relaxed time with our favourite people and celebrate the day that we legally join our lives.
I think analyzing The Ultimatum would be interesting. While it’s not exactly about marriage itself, in all the couples that enter the show one wants to get married and the other isn’t ready to. These people have only been together 2 1/2 years max and are in their mid/low 20s. It seems like from how the people giving the ultimatum speak about marriage, they really just want the appearance and clout of being a wife/husband and to have a beautiful day of the wedding, and not actually about finding a person who they will have a strong relationship with. People love the idea of marriage and I think they believe it will solve their problems. I even read an article that said that Justin Bieber realized his emotional problems wouldn’t be fixed by marriage…
My husband and I got married last year because I lost my job and needed health insurance.. (we were planning on getting married eventually!) We spent $30 on pizza and cake, and $100 on a house plant. Our family joined us on zoom. It was great lol. We thought we’d eventually have a “real” wedding, but at this point we can’t be bothered haha. We don’t want to spend the money or deal with the stress of planning 🤷🏻♀️
This seems like the type of topic that is very tricky to dive into when just looking at modern internet manifestations. There is such a large and complex history to the idea of wedding celebrations, and current cultural norms are still very much connected to these older rituals. The idea of a large wedding makes sense when we examine some of these historical situations. An easy one is the medieval village wedding reception. It was a community affair, to the point where many people brought food to share (such as a pot luck). There were no invitations; people just self selected to show up (so it was often more or less the entire village). This party, while celebrating the marriage, was also good for building community. It was often the party of the year. Of course, many societies have this unfortunate habit of trying to copy the opulence of the royals, so we get into having these very expensive and shallowly symbolic parts of the wedding, but the idea of a large wedding is one of community and is thousands of years old.
I had my wedding during covid, and the one thing I thank covid for is allowing me to have the small, intimate wedding I wanted without hurting anyone’s feelings. We all quarantined for the two weeks leading up, and including my husband and I, there were 12 people at my wedding. It was everything I wanted. We rented a small space and I got a dress and had our ceremony, took pictures, went back to my parents house for a small meal, and I was home and in my comfy clothes by 6pm. It was amazing. Genuinely one of the best days I’ve ever had, and I don’t think the whole thing cost more than $3,000. Which is not a negligible amount, but compared to some of the weddings I’ve been to, it’s practically nothing
Coming from Finland, I find it absolutely absurd when anyone says that the “lower end budget” for weddings in America is 22k, when in Finland having a budget of 15k is considered luxurious and expensive🤨 and also from what I’ve seen, so many wedding dresses are priced outrageously in America. For example in Say yes to the Dress, the starting point for all dresses seems to start at thousands of dollars, whereas in Finland you can go to a wedding dress boutique and get a beautiful dress for just hundreds of euros, and getting a custom made wedding dress made by a wedding dress designer is like 1-3k euros at most. And also the pure size of American weddings?? The fact that I’ve heard of people say “our small wedding only had +100 wedding guests”😀 what?? A small / medium sized wedding in Finland is 40-70 guests, and those already feel like large weddings.