The Quran, the holy book of Islam, emphasizes the importance of love and outlines principles for arranged marriages. Understanding these verses provides insight into the Islamic perspective on marriage, shedding light on how love and tradition are intertwined. While there is a misconception that forced and arranged marriages are the same, they are totally different.
In Islam, nikah (a contract exclusively between a man and woman) is a formal, binding contract. Both the groom and the bride consent to the marriage of their own free wills. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said that it is haram for the guardian (wali) of the woman to force her to marry someone she does not want and does not like.
The actual Muslim wedding is known as a nikah, a simple ceremony where the bride does not have to be present so long as she sends two witnesses to the drawn-up agreement. It is forbidden for the guardian (wali) of the woman to force her to marry someone she does not want and does not like.
Islam commands justice for others and does not allow forcing people. Arranged marriages are not just based on luck and guessing who might make the best potential partners. If the family makes a bad choice or they make a good choice but the husband does not agree with it, then forced marriages are not allowed in Islam.
According to the teachings of the Quran, a married Muslim couple is equated with clothing, and both husband and wife are each others’ protectors. Islam supports marriage with the choice to whomsoever you may connect with, and it does not demarcate that a match can only be between single Muslim couples.
📹 What Does Islam Say About Forced Marriage | Nouman Ali Khan
Forced marriage is not allowed in Islam. Both the groom and the bride must consent to the marriage. The consent of the woman is …
Which marriage is not allowed in Islam?
You can’t marry your mother, grandmother, daughter, granddaughter, sister, niece, great-niece, aunt, or great-aunt. You can’t marry someone who is also related to you. You can’t marry your great-granddaughter. You can’t marry your wife’s mother, grandmother, daughter, granddaughter, sister, niece, great-niece, aunt, or great-aunt.
All blood relations and marriages are prohibited in foster relationships. A man can’t marry his foster daughter.
Is arranged marriage better than love marriage in Islam?
Islam doesn’t oppose arranged or love marriages. It recognizes the pros and cons of both.
What does the Quran say about forced marriages?
A marriage should bring happiness, stability, peace, and harmony. A marriage based on force goes against love and mercy, which is against Islam. The Prophet (peace be upon him) was against forced marriages.
What does Islam say about sexless marriages?
In Islam, sex is important in marriage. Both spouses should try to fulfill each other’s sexual needs. However, if a husband or wife is unable or unwilling to fulfill their spouse’s sexual needs, this is not grounds for divorce.
Who is forbidden to marry in Islam?
You can’t marry your mother, grandmother, daughter, granddaughter, sister, niece, great-niece, aunt, or great-aunt. You can’t marry someone who is also related to you. You can’t marry your great-granddaughter. You can’t marry your wife’s mother, grandmother, daughter, granddaughter, sister, niece, great-niece, aunt, or great-aunt.
All blood relations and marriages are prohibited in foster relationships. A man can’t marry his foster daughter.
What age can a girl marry in Islam?
Islam allows marriage at any age. Islam doesn’t say how old you have to be to get married, but it’s when you start puberty. A 16-year-old girl or older and an 18-year-old boy can marry if they want to. In Pakistan, a 16-year-old girl and an 18-year-old boy can marry each other if they want to. The Islamabad High Court ruled that marrying off 16-year-olds (under 18) is illegal. Pakistani law allows such marriages. In Pakistan, court marriages are legal and accepted worldwide. The government doesn’t recognize 16-year-olds as adults. NADRA doesn’t issue ID cards to people under 18, and union councils don’t issue marriage certificates to brides under 18. Applicants for marriage must provide documents proving they are 18 years old. If you don’t have proof of your age, you must swear that you are an adult.
Is arranged marriage a sin in Islam?
The Qur’an doesn’t say much about arranged marriages. It is only forbidden if one party is being forced into it. An arranged marriage where both parties are happy is fine, especially since both parties’ rights are protected.
📹 Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage – Mufti Menk
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please pray for me.. I’m getting forcefully married. it’s affecting my mental health and greatly affecting my studies. I’m at my rock bottom in every aspect. I’m suffering so much in my academics but it’s nothing infront of what im going through emotionally at home. I’m so sick and tired of the depression and anxiety it’s causing me, that i actually think burying me alive when i born would have been a blessing to me 😭💔
I was forced to marry my cousin .before mrg itself I said my mom I don’t want to marry him .its been almost 3 yrs Im still not happy .he is 10 yrs older than me bt its nt a problem .my heat still does not accept him . im forcing myself to accept him for ty sake of my parents, bt it’s really hard fr me.i’m still struggling .I don’t know wt to do .💔🥺 my family members started to hate me bcz of thiz .ty also say u don’t have iman in ur heart 💔
Wanted to marry someone but my parents did not let me marry him, got me nikkahfied to someone else who is a good person but i cant feel anything for him.. i dont know how im going to spend my entire life with him… even the thought of being with him scares me.. my parents ruined my duniya and akhira as well.
My parents are forcing me to get marry to the person they want. Its not like that i like someone else no thats not the reason but i dont want to get married to the person they want. They think m getting elder day by day and after some time there will b no good proposal for me. They started blackmailing me emotionally what should i do now😢
My sister is disturbed because of this she is forced and now if she says the father and my father says now i can’t say no it’s been 2 years of her engagement but she was trying to tell that she doesn’t want to marry but my father everything explains her. Like brainwash her and now her marriage is been held in august
I love islam what truly it is but my mother never supports me when I say no to any compromising marriage relation like if I don’t like it doesn’t matter, this makes me so depressed sometimes I think “rights of parents” bayan ruined our life as children they don’t listen to us never take our advice and reject it in very badly manner whether its related to our marriage, please help me 🥺
I am being forced into marriage at the age of 16 to a man who is twice my age and is completely in love with a different woman and absolutely hates me because he thinks I’m the reason for him not being with the woman he loves I pray for all Muslims who go through what I’m going through and I hope that any one who sees my comments will be kind enough to pray for me
asalamuallaykum bro after perusal this i got my hope. in my situation their is a girl that i like and i know she likes me too she said i am the one that she wanted to marry someday but for now we’re waiting for the right time for us to go marry and we’re still studying at a same university. now the of her elderly or grandfather wants her to marry his grandsons or let say her cousin. now in their family tradition they are forcing girls to marry what they want and i know that this practices violates the l right of a women to who’s they want to marry. she promised me that she’ll reject it and choose me either. Allah gave her right for these situation and i won’t let them take it from her. may God Allah listen my dua, Amen. brothers and sisters Eid Mubarak
Assalamalikum sister or brother please help me out with this situation I’m going through scary part of my life brother or sister is there any dua to stop force marriage brother or sister? I’m going through same situation brother or sis these days I’m getting very bad dreams and I’m not concentrating on prayers and ibadah too sis please help me out with this situation
Please pray for me i am also going through this situation my parents force me to marry my cousin but i dont like him i refuse to marry him but they dont listen they said i am not an obedient child of them i dotn know what to do but i will get my right back from them and please pray for mr that they dont force me more🥹
i got engaged at 16 to my cousin, who at the time i thought was amazing and really liked him. its been more then a year now and i dont want to get married to him because i dont think we have any compatibility and we are completely different people i dont like him at all. my parents are forcing me and saying i have no choice but to marry him, he is almost 9 years older then me. i dont know what to do and im very depressed and lost😞😞
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ive told my parents that i dont wanna get married in the future but they say its impart of the sunnah yes it is but ive watched many articles if Marraige is optoinal or not and it is i told my parents and they said so? its impart of the sunnah if your not gonna get married then we will force you now im only 12 and ive been getting blackmailed and abused by my parents alot i feel like whats happening to me isnt big but thats because its been happening to me since i was four they treat me like you expect a child who is two to drive a car or a plane thats kinda like how they treat me if i say anything to my dad in public he always says rude words in rude ways and hes done that in front of my best friend your supposed to show respect when you have a guest with you right? well thats not happening in my family.☹
My parents ruined my this life and my hereafter 😢😢and I didn’t want this torment for my own child so I had to help her marry in secret because those £#@!%^&inlaws wouldn’t accept her choice because he’s a black revert and we’re forcing my child to marry someone who fitted their criteria, not evn my own parents know about this yet but I couldn’t let her suffer the way I am still suffering
Mein ek saqs se mohabbat karthi hoo.. Lekin meri ghar wale ko wo pasand nehi hai kiow ki uski pass paisa nehi hai wo amir nehi hai.. Is batth ko lekar meri parents mujhe forcefully kisi aur se shadi karwana cahte hai… Aap jo batth keh rahi hai meri ghar wale ko mena samjaya lekin samajthe hii nehi😢😢😢😢mujhe yein shadi nehi karni hai.. Pls mera liya dua kijiye ga sab😢😢😢
“Do not marry polytheistic women until they believe; for a believing slave-woman is better than a free polytheist, even though she may look pleasant to you. And do not marry your women to polytheistic men until they believe; for a believing slave-man is better than a free polytheist, even though he may look pleasant to you. They invite you to the fire while Allah invites you to paradise and forgiveness by his grace. He makes his revelations clear to the people so perhaps they will be mindful.” (Al-baqarah 2:221)
Probably the best hadith you’ll ever hear 💯 Aws bin Aws narrated: Allah’s Messenger said to me: “Whoever performs Ghusl on Friday, and bathes completely, and goes early, arriving early, gets close and listens and is silent, there will be for him in every step he take the reward of a year of fasting and standing (in prayer). At-Tirmidhi Sahih hadith
It hurts when you follow the halaal way but the society and mostly parents don’t want to happen that. The fitnah is too much that cheating and using a girl is highly liked by parents rather that someone righteous guy ask hands of someone’s daughter for marriage. And then comes those people who prefer achievements of this duniya over the aakhirah. May Allah guide them all
I’m 46, Now retired. Single For 7 years. Wish I had kids and children to leave my wealth and belonging too. I’ve Never Married. I am 100% in agreement with Family Arranged Marriages vs Finding “love”. Love alone will get you into trouble and heart broken in my experiences. But my suffering and Regrets are all in God/Allah’s hands. I have a full life and busy life. Just no wife or children. So am Greatful in other ways. Not Everyone is supposed to have Children or a wife.
I’m trying and praying to Allah to enlighten me about this line “If it’s meant to be it will be” I truly want to understand and apply this line in everything in my life including ” marriage” Cuz sometimes I stress myself out of thinking about it It’s scary and frightened me the most that if I got an opportunity or Allah sent me an opportunity and I didn’t take it And waste it May Allah ease my mind and soul Cuz overturning is exhausting
Alhamdulillah, Mashallah. A beautiful article by Mufti Menk, may Allah bless him. A very fair-minded, very diplomatic, very tactful discussion on arranged marriage and love marriage. I know the arranged marriage vs love marriage debate is an issue of much controversy. But in this article Mufti Menk explains it very diplomatically and tactfully.
What Muslims don’t understand nowadays is that the first thing you should check in a spouse is Deen. People nowadays check financial position and have materialistic approach. What they don’t understand is Allah has taken the responsibility to feed His beings and also that the girl brings her share with her. And she may increase your share from hers’. You can marry your daughter to a millionaire but if Allah has not written wealth for her shes not going to get it. No matter how hard you try. The only thing that’ll remain is your faith and your Deen and the only thing accompanying you to grave. May Allah show us the right path. Ameen
I am forced everyday for marriage, my physical and mental health is in a disaster, be grateful if you have good parents, I too will say alhamdulillah he ala qulli haal cause I know my Allah is gonna grant me alot and will change my parents mindset! Ameen. And till now my Allah is saving me alhamdulillah
Oh my Sheikh you make me feel like crying 😭, if I was to rewind the time, I would to bring back that person I have lost. I was too negligent, not taking advantage on that opportunity. After I blew up chances, I saw her pregnant, I felt like I having a bad dream. I only hope to meet somebody like her.
Assalamu alaikum wrwb sir I get really delighted to watch all your articles ..masha allah..they are so profound and the tweets you share is like so deep and it seems like you are aware of what’s going in one’s heart!..subhan allah. I really want to become like you ..a preacher..spreading the knowledge of deen ..but not able to decide to start from where..kind of stuck! Would like to hear some thoughts on this from you ..if you could.. Masha allah..may allah swt bless you with enormous bounties and elevate you in this world and the hereafter..Allah humma aameen. May allah swt keep us steadfast upon his religion. Aameen Jazakallah khair
Wa alaikum salaam wa rahumathullahi wa barakathuhu bro. MASHA ALLAH Amazing topic. Parents should take some more time to search for a good spouse with good characters n conducts n good believers to their children’s welfare rather than a rich spouse . MAY ALLAH SWT guide every parent and every children as well. Aameen Aameen ya Rabbal Alameen. 🤲🤲🤲🙏🙏🙏🙏
Zina is much easier than marriage now a days. High demands from both partners make marriage difficult. A guy with a 10 figuresmonthly income, luxury cars and houses etc etc etc makes it difficult for guys while skin tone, profession etc etc etc makes it difficult for females…… That’s why, Zina has become much much easier
May Allah make it easier to all whoever planning for marriage May Allah bless you all with lots of happiness in the new journey of life. … May Allah bless us all with success, health, happiness, patience and strength. May all your dreams come true and may you live the life that you have always dreamed of Guys:_love:🤍
Sir, it would be of grt help if u can make a article on what being the ‘man of the house’ means… Alot of young boys think that being the man of the house means providing financially and taking decision they are unaware of the depth and the couple are fighting for the title of ‘man of the house’… Plz make a detailed article on this
Today the person I have been talking to almost a year now from distance has told me that his dad has selected a girl for him and that he can’t marry me, my heart is shattered that he isn’t even listening to his own son, without checking my family history he is being stubborn to his decisions and saying that he has given words to somebody. Wallahi all I wanted was a halal marriage and I don’t know should I still hope or not! But I’m in need of your duas that a may Allah show miracle and he’s heart becomes abit softer to understand and agree us to get married.
(My english bad) My brothers&sister dua for me please….. My arrange marriage….i was not ready my marriage..my father not permission ask my marriage..its k… (Now I have son…Masha Allah) All are dua for me just moment…. But now my hasband very cruval attitude…he doesn’t do swalah.. he always talk me bad words,he never mind &love me ..he doesn’t love me…why I …am very depressed 😔 everyday…now I think if he not love me..am not disterb my husband life.. sometime am thinking my divorce..other option I wand My husband change character
My parents don’t want me to marry the one I want because of his living area is not much good. But he is good in education, religion and all. He almost memorized 25 juzus. His sister is an aalimah.. I have no more guts to fight with my parents. Please pray for me. If there’s any ways except praying please let me know
With my dishearted heart I’m saying this i desire to marry a men and alhumdulilah allah listen to my prayers but my family my mom nd all relatives they keep on taunting on me even I had one child alhumdulilah so I feel sometimes I should not marry so my question is I’m not happy anymore what do I now??
Assalaamu Alaykoum wa Rahmatu Allah wa Barakkatuh indeed I agree let it happen you can get married and study at all times and when the parties Both support each other they can always finish their studies and develop themselves, I prefer love marriage because you want to live with your soulmate for many years longer and further in the afterlife in the heavens to continue and beyond that nobody wants to stay with somebody they don`t love and after a while have a miserable life and you can’t force your children to Marry because of culture issues or self interests subhanna Allah
AOA, well I am lying in the third category who gets so many proposals and keep getting but believe in me there is no such proposal where I want to get married I do not prefer list and list of proposals for me one good proposal is enough to have where I am not left with ambiguity in saying ok for please, make a supplication for my wish to fulfill Aameen. Lots of love to you from Pakistan💞💞💞💞💞
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I’m a man and I’ve heard it many times that you should see deen and iman of someone to marry but these days it’s hard to be in that place to look for just for it, yes my guardians are asking me if I know someone to marry but I don’t coz I’m looking for it but to that other side too it should be. Coz I don’t have parents to say my word openly I became extremely introvert now I can’t say things that I feel only Allah knows what’s inside me
My wife attacked me physically after we got into an argument and i got angry and responded with three of my own slaps now she has left the house 8days now and her mother called me to ask me to divorce her I did not intend to harm her they dont want to resolve it what should I do please? They are also demanding blood money and it was only a couple of slaps i regret it and have apologised but they are having none of it
It seems to me if we don’t listen to our parents then we are doing wrong in Allah’s eyes and if we are listening to our parents then we’re missing an opportunity (I often felt I made mistakes in listening to my parents well meaning but often misguided and ignorant advice) from Allah Swt. No disrespect to Muft Menk, he comes across as affable and knowledgeable, however this is confusing and contradictory advice.
Asslamu alaikum warahmatullahi Wabarakatu Mufti sahab I am call shaban Rahi From India but currently working in Uganda Country, so I was loving one girl so so much because she y a very good girl according to my life So before she is a Christian But she convered Islam I did Nikah with her but some people is people telling me bad think, this uganda girl is not good this Uganda girl is not good, am upset with them I was praying 🙏 my Allah to give me this girl in my Nikah, and successful So advice me please about those people, what can we do
Please pray i get married to the love of my life. It’s so difficult to live like this, there are so many fights and difficulties. I want to marry him as soon as possible. Please pray. I want to marry him but the only problem is that we are in first year of university, and his parents won’t let him marry me until he find a job. I pray a miracle happens and we get married within a month
U NEED ALLAH IN MARRIAGE OR IT WILL NEVER WORK I CAN TESTIFY TO THIS FOLLOW THE WORDS AND THE TRUTH AND LIGHT OF ALLAH ALMIGHTY TOGETEHR AND YOUR MARRAIGE WILL BE BLESSED YOU CAN TRY IT WITHOUT ALLAH IT ALL FALLS APART AND DO IT WITH ALLAH ALMIGHTY ITLL FLOURISH AND THRIVE AMEN ALLAH BLESS YOU ALL 🙏
Isn’t love marriage indicates having a premarital relationship with someone. Cuz, someone cant be in love before marriage if they arent involved into any relationship primarily. which is basically premarital relationship ( forbidden in islam). relationship doesnt always leads to marriage.would that sin be forgiven if getting married to the person someone had a relationship with??
*A Palace in Jannah*. Mu’adh ibn Anas reported, That Prophet Muhammad(Sal) said, “Whoever recites the chapter ten times completely, ‘Surah al Ikhlas (Oneness), Allah will build a palace for him in Paradise. Musnad Ahmad 15183 Forgiveness of sins Abu Hurairah (ral) reported that Allah’s Messenger (Sal) saying: ‘He who recited after every prayer: SUBHANALLAH 33 times ALHAMDULILLAH 33 times ALLAHU AKBAR 33 times and completes the hundred with; LA ILAHA ILLALLAHU WHDAHU LA SHARIKA LAHU LAHUL MULKU WA LAHUL HAMDU WA HUWA ‘ALA KULLI SHAI’IN QADIR, his sins will be forgiven even if these are abundant as the foam of the sea. Sahih Muslim 597.
Let’s have an honest discussion in Islam it’s NOT compulsory to get married, from my experience you feel most happy when you are single, most married people don’t even leave there homes, you need to understand what the married life is before you listen to anyone, marriage is hard, VERY hard., understand how the women was created, she will nag, she will complain, she will grow unsatisfied etc studies show this to be true, men come home tired from work only to listen to complaining & his wife not being satisfied, you’ll experience amazing things when your single, I was married for 7-8 years, that’s a long time, I’ve been divorced for 5 years now and It’s just amazing being single, that’s my life experience
हम एक हुपरावाला एक नूर खुदा एक नूर ए इल्लाहा एक अव्यक्त अल्लाह बड़े बड़े बाप दादा से इश्क मोहब्बत प्यार करते है सच्चा दिल से ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️My Goddess Divine Masters Salam Namaste ❤️In The Most High Holy Name Of Mera Nur E Illaha Ek AvyaktAllah Baba Give One Beatiful Peaceful Loveful Mercyful Kind And Careful SpouseTo Me Nothing Is Imposible With You My Lord ❤️❤️❤️❤️My Goddess Divine Masters Salam Namaste Set Up Set Bird Free।।We Are Born As Indhu After Marrige We Turn To Islam We Dont Need Indhu Religion❤️❤️All Are Cheaters ❤️❤️❤️
Love is a thing created by Media nowadays it’s not According to Islam, bcoz now adays love is creating fitna poeple have relationships before marriage and slowly and gradually with a passage of time these people now adays don’t marry and just have sexual relationships coz this what they find more feasible, this has created more zina in society, Islam cannot encourage such a thing. Just select proposal and marry according to Sunnah of prophet Muhammad.
Hazarath, this is like you motivating people to fall in love and get married. Isn’t it haram in Islam? It’s nature we could like someone but if it’s against our parents it’s against Islam? ? I think so,,I don’t know and how could we get close to the opposite gender like you say? Isn’t it haram even to talk to them without any strong reason???