What To Get My Fiance On Our Wedding Day?

What Blair’s ex- fiancé Jack and her ex-best friend Lena did is unforgiven in this act of betrayal but then again Blair was bad as them as she used Cole who she met at the bar for her personal games for her popularity. Blair could have told the whole truth at the party about everything that has happend between her and Cole then things would been different but I’m glad she made the right choice in the end and she had end up with someone who truly love 💖for the real her like Cole. As for Blair’s ex-fiancé and her ex-best friend Lena, I still wished AniMatter have added extra to the end of the story because I would liked to know what became of them after Blair expose them and the wedding is off.

This story is several years old. OP did a micro update some months ago. She never did cheat. The couple who were in an open relationship tried to convince her into a threesome but she refused. She had found PT work at a place she enjoyed and was less stressful which helped. Overtime the trust was rebuilt. They got married, baught a fixer-upper house and she quit her job to focus on their two baby girls. Life was still stressful but now in a positive way. No mention was made of the original theripist who tried to ruin them.

Honestly, I think this is the only situation where I think making up is okay. The Ex was being manipulated by someone with a psychology degree. I mean, thats some scary shit, and the fact there were other cases with the therapist further confirms that the ex wasn’t looking for an excuse. I mean, she was/is still in the wrong, but I think she is redeemable, though it would take time for healing and her showing through her actions that she is better.

I feel really really bad for her, but I wouldn’t want to be with someone who would cheat on me just because a “figure of authority” said to, or would believe their weird opinions or values over her own. Someone swayable like that, that’s just not what I’m looking for. I want someone who would listen to that therapist and go “what the f are you talking about, are you licensed?”

I’m so glad to hear the ending tk this story. I found it a while back before the ending to France and I was concerned the relationship was in the toilet. People don’t seem to realise the sort of position a trained therapist is in, if they have malicious intentions someone like OP’s fiancée fresh off a mental breakdown is stupidly easy to manipulate and this therapist having an agenda gives her reason to want to break Mirella down and convince her to go along with her vindictive plans. The moment she sees someone she recognises as having a strong will and no immediate mental health concerns she recognises that it would be hard to manipulate OP into screwing up his own life. She obviously has some burning hatred towards a happy marriage that isn’t rooted in any sort of feminism because she has done this to a woman as well. Truly evil person and she should lose her license.

OP’s Gf was manipulated by a professional whose literal duty is to manipulate people for better or for worst and considering she has a history confirms her malpractice. I don’t blame her to believe the therapist but I do blame her for her idiocy, stupidity and miscommunication. She needs to work on her trust. Mistakes happen and considering she has apologized, own up to her mistakes and the situation never get out of hand, she is redeemable.

She’s a grown adult. I don’t care how many times the ‘therapist’ brought up her being with other people or how much ‘authority’ she thought the ‘therapist’ had. She could have easily said ‘No, that’s not for me. What I actually came here to talk about was… blah blah”. If she’s so simplistically minded that she just lets anyone she feels has ‘authority’ talk her into this kind of thing, I’d leave. Why be with someone you would most likely have to worry about for the rest of your lives?

I honestly don’t know if OP should’ve stayed with his GF. Even if there were influencing outside factors, the truth is that in the end the GF was weak enough to fall for all of them and even entertain the idea of cheat-I mean, an “open marriage”(and one unjust since she would’ve been given a free pass but would’ve demanded OP “kept in his pants”). I don’t know if GF is capable of cheating, but she certainly is weak enough to be influenced by others to do so, and IF she ends up doing it one day, OP will come to regret ever giving a chance.

I personally wouldn’t have gotten back together at all. Cuz She is not a toddler that can’t think for herself Stress is not a disease. It will return and im looking forward to ops next post when she does something even more crazy with stressed mind. You can’t live with a “she once tried to convince me to let her cheat” thought bro. You don’t deserve that extra burden whenever you leave her alone at home. And realized how op suddenly started using “us” and “we” in the end instead of me so randomly? Like their minds are suddenly linked together and he can tell what she’s thinking? Like she didn’t lie about a dead kid? Yeah thats called coping. Op here gave up to pressure, long history and her charms and now is saying as if he knows everything in her mind to satisfy himself.

9:20 I think its important for people to understand something, and this a perfect example, she offers all of these things for his trust, but thats not trust, thats control. You can’t simply show someone everything you do and call it trust because trust is to believe them, no matter what until your proven otherwise, and to always expect that they aren’t guilty of what ever it is. In this case its impossible to gain that level of trust and respect back. If you crumple a paper, you can try to fix it, but itll never be as it was before. The damage is already done.

That woman is an insult to the concept of psychology, and I hope she was kicked to the curb. Though the fiance set off an alarm when she stated that she had an opportunity. Why are they so focused on body count? If it’s really that bad of a problem, then don’t get with them. It doesn’t matter in the end.

“She had the opportunity to cheat” that is the biggest red flag man. Cmon she blames every man in her life for the reason she wanted a open relationship but she was still seeing opportunities for her to cheat! Someone who loves you doesnt think like that!! I hope this fool doesnt regret taking her back i wish them the best of luck maybe her therapist will keep her from cheating but…I see a dark future for this couple years down the road when another chance to cheat shows up for the wife

She’d not be happy with him sleeping with other women and finding other women attractive but it’s fine for her to do so? People are disgusting. If you want to be free and do stuff with people before you settle down then go be single and do that and only get serious with someone when you’re done with that stuff and actually ready to commit and be loyal; don’t get married if you’re not prepared to respect your partner or consider their feelings. Don’t marry someone if you feel like you haven’t done the stuff you wanna do in life and it’ll mean you end up hurting your partner if you follow through with your desires. Don’t ruin someone else’s self esteem and trust in people just because you haven’t thought things through properly and spring this on someone just because you want to get your body count higher like wtf body count shouldn’t matter if you love someone.

First time I’ve seen where it isn’t 100% OP’s partner’s fault that things went bad. She was seeing an insane therapist, a figure of “authority” who was supposed to know better. She was depressed because of work and the therapist spinned it in a way that made that woman make that deal-breaker proposition to her husband. For people who’ve been in therapy for a while I’m pretty sure you know that when said therapist says something you initially don’t agree with your first reaction is “Well, they are certified and studied psychology at length for that, so surely there must be some truth to their words, right?” Of course, it’s entirely in OP’s right to never want anything to do with his partner or ever again after that, so I’m happy to hear that they got back together

This is one of the reasons I will not go see a therapist I have been on the fence for a few years but I’ve come to realize that a lot of the therapist out there are more into social engineering and planting concepts and ideas in your head rather then help you or give the tools needed to manage your life in a way that is organic to you.

That was the outcome I was hoping for. I was getting mad at the op midway through. Reminded me of a previous story I heard from this website, which was about 2 hours long, and that op went world ending. But he came off as jumping the gun big time when that first meeting happened with family. He knew all about what that therapist had done and was still adamant on throwing everything away. I’m happy to hear he course corrected. And happy they finally talked it out like adults, because he was behaving a little bit childish. I wish you luck in this course, op.

Even if that journal helps you recover why in the hell should you take a person with so much immotional and psychological baggage, i might come as insensitive but if that’s her condition before marriage what will happen when the relationship is tested with bad times, i wouldn’t trust someone this shallow to have my back

In this particular situation i don’t blame the op nor his gf. It really was an unnecessary setup of events. Gf having Cheating parents Open relationship friends Miscariage Stress from work Insecurities from her partner obviously having slept around (seriously men or women having many partners = less ability to pair bond so valid concern of hers but massively wrong way to go about it) Pile it ontop of the dumb therapist promoting b.s. and not fixing his gf’s mental issues and it was a recipe for disaster. Im honestly glad they made up. But the op and gf need to do couples counciling. RN the relationship is too bruised and vulnerable to break up again. With the b.s. “therapist” fiasco it really is grounds for mentally affecting both op and the gf. And yes the entire dumb incident could’ve been avoided if they simply communicated. No therapist or b.s. no friends in cheating with extta steps etc. It is probably the worst step of all was she voilated how she percieved him as unworthy of hearing her out. Still wish em all the best. Through the sh!+show they went through…if this is hopefully their lowest point of the relationship their relationship marriage or not in the future will survive.

I’ve heard this story before, and it’s such a great example of why it’s important to hold authority figures accountable. It’s also a great example of why it’s important to be open and communicative about issues in your relationship and setting boundaries for your relationships. OP’s girlfriend was completely manipulated by someone she trusted – not because she knew the person, but because that person held a position of authority that we recognize by default in society. It’s the reason that it’s unethical for medical, psychiatric, and legal professionals to have relationships with patients/clients. They’re in a position of authority and trust that isn’t afforded to most people. The greatest example of this being abused is the January 6 insurrection, where Donald Trump and many Republicans (both politicians and pundits) took to social media to poison the well around the validity of the 2020 election. Not only did thousands of people show up to protest the election itself, but many stormed the Capitol building and several police officers were killed. All because 1 man convinced half of the nation that he was divinely appointed to be President and any other perspective is patently corrupt and absurd. (Not trying to make it political, I’m just highlighting how much damage this kind of abuse can actually cause.) Report your therapists, doctors, nurses, etc. who break ethical standards and confidentiality laws, people. If they lose their job, it’s on them, don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.

Ohhh I remember this one lol the therapist was the main problem like “this may be harder than we thought.” Off of a handshake?? Like what is this mf on? & I’m so sick and tired of mfs changing the definition of an open relationship.. IT ISNT OPEN ON ONE SIDE & CLOSED ON THE OTHER like you just wanna cheat and not be judged for it like smfh Edit: it wouldn’t surprise me if the therapist did try and make her do it a lot of these therapist these days are WEIRD ASF honestly I’m so glad I went to therapy before these weirdos started taking over.. the therapist I got was the exact opposite of these fakes 💯 it helped me a lot fr like I would be on a different path had I not figured out how to control my feelings and be able to put words to them 💯 this one ruined a marriage because they put their politics into the sessions which is something you’re never supposed to do Edit: I honestly feel bad for her kinda it’s not like she wanted or started the topic of open relationship she just had a terrible therapist that has a past of ruining relationships is just unlucky & idk why he’s so against reading the journal it sounds like he’s so hurt about the situation which he has every right to be but it’s like “here’s something that’ll help you figure out the steps that were took that got us here.” & you just ignore it entirely cause you wanna hurt her which once again I understand but this seems like a series of unfortunate events 🤷🏽‍♂️

I was on his side, until he said he lost feelings and she was like a stranger to him. You don’t react like that with a person you’ve known for 9 years and dated 5, unless you never loved them. Such coldness on his part is infuriating, at least. Love is not “I like the way they look, so I’ll be with them”, or “they behave in an x way that I like”. Love is when you find in that person a long lost friend, and they become the one you would turn the world upside down for them to be okay. He sounds like a psychopath. “I checked the date of her diary, and the ink on the pages to see if it is old, and the remaining ink inside the pen to see its level” or something like that, to see if the person you were gonna marry lied, is crazy. I hope she finds herself in peace, and he gets some sense knocked in his head. P.S. : Open relationships are a curse, he must have felt terribly about this. Everything after that could have been resolved if he had a normal adult conversation with her.

He’s a dumbass for going back to her. There are so many things he didn’t take into account. It sounds like he is wayyy too ok with all the bs she was hiding from him. Also he didn’t even take into account that she might’ve also had someone in mind when she and the therapist suggested an open marriage.

Gotta say, I’m really relieved that despite everything that happened, both are really trying to figure it out. It’s clear that the woman was more or less a victim of circumstances. Stressful job, not communicating and that shady therapist. I’m glad that they didn’t let those things destroy the good thing they had, even though he might have strong doubts about it initially. In my opinion, in a situation like this where no one is actually at fault, it’s still a relationship worth fighting for and to work on. It’s really tragic about the miscarriage, though. My gf recently had one, too, and was devastated, as was I. She didn’t talk to me for a week, and it only got better when I made clear that it doesn’t change anything about my feelings for her. In fact, it made me love her even more and I think that we owe it ourselves to keep trying. If your partner is ever in doubt that they are “worth your time”, even if they don’t actively talk about it, make sure they know that you love them. Showing your affection on a regular basis is also reassuring for you and your partner and they are less likely to think that love ran out.

Half way through I thought dude I know how you feel but something doesn’t seem right to me and I felt he was missing it. That journal thing. I felt he was about to make a big mistake because he was shut everything off and didn’t want to listen. A mistake we’ll see in an update 20 years from or something along the lines of “I wished I had paid more attention” etc. The journal thing bugged me. He was right to thinl the journal felt basically like she was absolving herself from everything. But the reason you should’ve find the answer yourself was because you seem to not want an answer from her. Look I know how he felt but it was obvious even as an online reader ex finance had a feminist therapist that manipulated her. From the story, she never cheated but was coaxed into it by someone else. I get how he felt but reading everything I felt he was about to make a decision without having the full picture yet and if he decided to completely break it off after knowing the full story then that’s fine. Fast forward to the end of the article I thought oh thank goodness. Unlike other cheating ex wife stories where the women deserve their just deserts, I really felt this couple deserves a better ending seeing as the main problem seems to be poor communication as opposed to cheating and that they both loved each other.

I don’t agree the initial action of her offer open marriage. But all I see that while she was in vulnerable mental stage, the therapist manipulates her into it without offer better way to help her. And it takes gut of her to ready for fight her relationship with OP, I respect that while also respect OP reaction since it is normal way to react to such thing. I wonder how the process of the therapist going, hope she loses her license since she broke off many marriages now.

Its both sad…but also hella entertaining and funy how many butt hurt people are projecting in this comment section!!😂 Someone else said that there was seemingly another update, in short: Married, 2 daughters and still together. She never cheated (only asked for that open relation ship that 1 time in this story) And people really are here beeing like ”CLAIMED not cheated😒” ”DNA test!!!” ”Not his kids” Like…just..get a life. You might have had a bad experience with someone cheating? This story ain’t it.

Like for this one I am glad for the ending, no doubt she wasn’t completely innocent but not only her friends but the dam therapist probably she probably told the therapist about what the friends said and completely tried to ruin her life by reinforcing her friends statements. One thing I learn from Reddit is communication is the top 3 most important thing for a relationship

Sorry to buddy but unfortunately as soon as either party asks for an open relationship the relationship is over as is the trust. Sorry to anyone wayward there is no returning to the level of pure trust from before asking for it or asking for a second chance as a cheater. Untainted trust is a one off no matter how much work you do the hurt party will always have to reserve the right to shield their emotions, and unfortunately tbh its your fault u must live with that the same as they must live at under 100% trust around you.

I normally dismiss cheaters out of hand and frankly if she had actually gone through with it then I would here too. But I confess, I actually feel sorry for this girl. She’s still responsible for her own behaviour but I do actually believe she was a victim of this therapist when she must have been at the lowest point in her life

God these stories get me fired up…These stories make me wanna go out and bareknuckle fight random people… OOOOOOOOO SHIT!!! I remember THIS ONE too…This one got me angry…Very angry….Angery than angry! This is the one that gave me a detailed fantasy of Punishering my way into the therapy kingdom or…whatever they’re called…

9:55 I could give a good example of this. For example you just bought a knife from ASDA and you are walking home. On the way you find a random person. You have an opportunity to kill them but you don’t (hopefully). The ex just said that to try to make the OP think she is faithful because she said no to cheating.

I swear but… like if you want a poly relationship or an open relationship which I have nothing against… I don’t want one but If you and other people want one and it works great, good for you but at least freaking say it before you even start dating- like don’t just drop it in the middle of it all- basic form of communication people!

while it’s true she was manipulated she still was an adult and was not forced to commit any of these actions to make it a one sided open relationship thinking your partner would be ok with it takes a whole different level of stupid or at least a desire for that but let’s give her the benefit of doubt and say she wasn’t having bad intentions who the heck would want to be with a girl like that anymore the fear of her being manipulated again will always be present its good it had a happy ending but like God these people need to write down their words and record themselves reading just to hear how stupid they sound

There’s just one thing I hope that he did when getting back together with her, prenuptial agreement. She is lucky she got a second chance. Most likely she did not cheat, but that doesn’t matter, she should’ve communicated with him, and she has displayed how she solves issues. If I were him, I would not trust her anymore.

Lmaoo. Ngl one of the first times i disagreed with the OP. Getting manipulated by ur therapist, and outside forces, then trying to healthily bring it up in a supposedly professional setting was the best way she could have proposed it. I def get bein like “hell no” actually i think he handled that part great. But when you learned just how much the therapist was involved along with other parties, and how vulrnuble ur SO was you should have back tracked or considered. ALSO, why wouldnt you read the journal??? Like the only harm is that you might learn uh oh you fucked up, then feel bad. Like the journal could have def pointed to the idea of “i never wanted this but my therapist pointed to the idea that my sexual experience would leave you disatisfied and you would cheat or leave me” which would show she didnt wanna “just cheat with no strings attatched”. Like i get it being gross and unacceptable at first, but you could have moved on without breaking up. Even if you post poned the wedding, reporting and swapping therapists could have been the answer easy. Also mini rant on the “oppertunity” thing he got hung up on. If she says “no i didnt cheat” the the question “did you cheat” that is a good answer. But someone could say “but you probaly wanted to” or “you would if you could” or “how do i know you wouldnt if you had the chance” saying ” i could have” makes it clear that your not unfaithful. Also having the its not neccisarily her fault if she gets the chance to. If someone flirts with her at work even after she makes it clear she has an SO then she can cheat easy.

– therapist sucks – OP’s feelings was hurt so instead of talking to his ex fiancé, he decided to close himself to her and not fix shit – ex is swimming in sexual insecurities which was magnified by the therapist (this therapist really suck) – I wish for OP to find a woman who can handle his body count so she wouldn’t feel insecure as well for his ex to find a man that will talk to her and would actually fix shit with her and not easily abandon her. – if they left the therapist and had a serious conversation about this. Their relationship could’ve been repaired. But noooo. He just turned his ex fiance as 27th body count 😂 And now onto the next story……………