Who Gives The Groom Away?

Giving away the bride is a traditional part of the wedding ceremony where the bride leaves the hands of her father or parents. It symbolizes the formal transfer of authority from the bride’s father to her new husband and often involves the father walking the bride down the aisle and presenting her to the groom. However, its meaning can vary depending on the couple’s beliefs and values.

In heteronormative weddings, it is traditional that the bride takes the groom’s last name. However, last names can work however the couple wants. Couples can keep their last names, take their partners’ last names, or hyphenate the last names.

The tradition of “giving away” signifies that the bride’s family would no longer have control over her possessions (dowry) and that her husband respectfully takes on the responsibilities and obligations that her father once boasted. The person accompanying the bride usually is her father or a male benefactor. There are various traditions, but one is for the officiant to lead the groom and groomsmen down the aisle after the parents.

After the father of the bride gives them away, they lift the veil and kiss the bride, signifying their blessing. After giving them away, they take their seat beside the groom.

There are five alternatives to the “who gives this bride away” script at your wedding ceremony: remove it entirely, remove it entirely, or use a different person to give the bride away.

Who does the groom walk down first?

Whatever you decide as a couple. the traditional order is: Mother of Bride, Mother of Groom, Grandparents of Bride, Grandparents of Groom, Groom, Officiant, the Wedding Party, Maid of Honor and Best Man, Ring Bearer, Flower Girl and lastly the Bride and her Father.

Who gives you away at your wedding?

Giving Away the Bride FAQs. Who should give away the bride during the wedding ceremony?. In many traditional weddings, the father still gives away the bride. In modern weddings, however, it can be anybody. The most important consideration is that the person is someone with whom the couple trusts and feels comfortable. “I think couples should ultimately do what works for them and their family,” said Mahler. “What the couple believes plays a huge role (in the choice) and the message they want to give to their guests.”

After youve chosen your venue and appointed your wedding party, the next questions should be, ‘Who is going to be part of our ceremony and what roles will they have?” says Mahler.

Either parent, a brother, a stepfather, an uncle, a grandparent, or close friend could give the bride away on the wedding day—ultimately, its up to you and your partner to decide who should take on this job.

Who takes the groom to the altar?

For a Christian Wedding. There are a few options for Christian weddings. The most common is for the grandparents to be seated first, followed by the grooms parents and the brides mother. Then, the officiant leads the groom, best man, and groomsmen to the altar, often from the side instead of down the aisle. If the groomsmen and bridesmaids will be walking together, the officiant will lead the groom in from the side, and then the groomsmen will escort the bridesmaids down the aisle.

Alternatively, the officiant can lead the groom and groomsmen to the altar before anyone else processes (followed immediately by the seating of the grandparents), allowing the groom to watch the entire processional.

For a Jewish Wedding. In a traditional Jewish ceremony, the first person to walk down the aisle is the officiant. He or she is immediately followed by the groom, who is escorted by both his mother and his father. Once at the chuppah, the groom waits outside of the chuppah to greet his bride, while his parents take their traditional place beneath the chuppah.

What does the groom’s mother do at the wedding?

1. Round-Up the Family. Since you know everyone on the grooms side of the family, assist in gathering everyone for photos, seat them for the ceremony, and ensure that everyone has a ride going to the reception.

2. Mother and Son Dance. Like the brides father and daughter dance, you are also going to dance with your son at the wedding reception. Have a quick practice with him when he has the time. Choose a meaningful song for your mother-son dance that youll both remember for the rest of your lives.

3. Enjoy the Party. Remember, this is a day for you to celebrate, too. Mingle with the guests and your in-laws, and show your son that youre having a great time. It will mean a lot to him and his now-wife.

Who usually walks the groom down the aisle?

Groom. Traditionally, he walks down the aisle solo but some grooms prefer walking down the aisle escorted by both parents. Other grooms prefer a more subtle approach by entering the ceremony from the side of the venue (following the officiant and followed by the groomsmen) to take his place at the altar.

A handy guide to help you figure out who walks down the aisle and when.

Once youve figured out the order of events for your wedding ceremony, its time to start thinking about how everyone will enter the ceremony and take their places up front. The processional (a.k.a. the entrance of the wedding party) marks the start of the ceremony and is a highly anticipated moment, so its important to get the wedding processional order down.

The wedding processional can be one of the most emotional and memorable moments of a couples special day for them and their guests. From the moment the bride begins her walk down the aisle, all eyes are on her. Its the moment before the bride and groom finally take their vows and begin their new life together.

What is the groom’s parents responsible for?

The brides parents also traditionally hosted the engagement party, while some maids of honor cover the cost of the bridal shower. (Or any person, really, besides the couple themselves.) The grooms family traditionally paid for all costs associated with the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon, wedding day transportation, and the officiant. The groom paid for the brides engagement ring, wedding ring, and groomsmen gifts. It is also common for the grooms family to pay for the alcohol at the reception. Yet its important to remember this adage from Emily Posts Wedding Etiquette guide: “Traditions make weddings special, and a spending plan should be something that facilitates these traditions, not a burden to be held against an old and outdated standard.”

• The grooms wedding ring
• Bridesmaids lunch or party
• Accommodations for the bridal party (if a bridesmaid is coming from out of town)
• Wedding party gifts

• Invitations and announcements
• Wedding gown and accessories
• Floral arrangments and corsages
• Ceremony arrangments
• The reception party and vendors, like food
• Necessary transportation
• Wedding photographer/videographer

Why do fathers give bride away?

Giving away the bride is a tradition that originated thousands of years ago, back during a time when a woman was viewed as the property of her father. Once a bride was married, she would then become the property of her husband.

What does mother of bride pay for?

Consider who traditionally pays for the wedding. Traditionally, the brides family assumed most of the financial costs associated with a wedding, including the wedding planner, invitations, dress, ceremony, reception, flowers, photography, and music. “Its harder to think about this now, and I am a feminist, but historically it has to do with the ancient practice of a brides family giving a dowry to the grooms for assuming the ‘burden of a bride,” Post says.

The brides parents also traditionally hosted the engagement party, while some maids of honor cover the cost of the bridal shower. (Or any person, really, besides the couple themselves.) The grooms family traditionally paid for all costs associated with the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon, wedding day transportation, and the officiant. The groom paid for the brides engagement ring, wedding ring, and groomsmen gifts. It is also common for the grooms family to pay for the alcohol at the reception. Yet its important to remember this adage from Emily Posts Wedding Etiquette guide: “Traditions make weddings special, and a spending plan should be something that facilitates these traditions, not a burden to be held against an old and outdated standard.”

• The grooms wedding ring
• Bridesmaids lunch or party
• Accommodations for the bridal party (if a bridesmaid is coming from out of town)
• Wedding party gifts

Who takes the groom to the church?

The newlyweds car starts its journey from the grooms house and the groom is meant to be punctual. The driver goes to pick him and his mother up and takes them to the church, where they wait for the bride to arrive while the bride finishes sorting out the last details of her attire. Then the driver goes to the brides house. She gets into the car with her father. Next the driver takes the bride and her father to the place where the wedding ceremony is to take place. The newlyweds car should be decorated with flowers and a white ribbon should be tied to the outside of it.

Wedding guests are given the same ribbon for their cars in order to form the proper wedding cortege which will follow the newlyweds car to the reception venue after the religious ceremony. In church, a code of traditional etiquette imposes definite timescales and positions. The only delay allowed is that of the bride (though no more than ten minutes).

Relatives, friends and guests are obliged to get to the church at the appointed time. The groom walks into the church with his mother on his arm, who should be on his right. The next to walk in should be the best man and the maid of honour, then the bridesmaids and pages who wait for the bride at the church door. When the bride arrives, her father helps her get out of the car. After kissing her hand, her father accompanies her down the aisle to the altar, offering her his left arm. Thus the bridal procession follows this order: pages first, then the bride and her father, then the bridesmaids holding her veil and train. When they reach the altar, the brides father hands her over to her future husband who takes her hand. Next the brides father turns to sit in the first pew on the left. Then the groom kisses his future wifes hand and the ceremony can begin.

Does the groom walk down with his mother?

The Groom. The groom proceeds to walk down the aisle accompanied by their parents, with his father on the left and his mother on the right.

The brides walk down the aisle is always one of the highlights of a wedding ceremony, but a few other important people also make their grand entrance. The wedding processional refers to the group of people walking down the aisle in a specific order to mark the beginning of a wedding ceremony. The processional often includes a permutation of the officiant, the wedding party, flower girls, ring bearers, and the bride and groom and their parents.

Different types of weddings employ different processional orders, so were breaking it all down to ensure your bridal march runs as smoothly as possible.

Aside from the processional order, who is involved and where they are seated vary depending on the type of religious wedding service. Both Hindu and Jewish ceremonies include more family members than traditional or nondenominational ceremonies, says Victoria Miller of LUXE Atlanta Events. Jewish weddings, for instance, have both parties grandparents walking down the aisle. While for Hindu weddings, the parents are more involved in the processional, and the brides parents even sit with them under the traditional mandap.

Who walks up with the groom?

So, whats an example? This would be considered a traditional order of walking down the aisle: start with the officiant and groom, followed by family members – grandparents, parents of the groom, and mother of the bride. Next is the wedding party, ring bearer, and flower girl. Lastly, the bride enters, escorted by the father of the bride.

Right away you might be thinking “Well, this wont work for me.” This traditional order assumes all parents are in the picture and grandparents are healthy enough to walk down the aisle. Notably, it assumes all aforementioned pairings are male-female couples which may not be the case for your family and wedding party.

When planning weddings, I encourage creating the processional order that is perfect to the couple, using a traditional order as merely a baseline to work off of. These are the questions and tips I share with couples when were designing their processional order. I will be using both “Groom / Bride” terminology as well as “Partner A / Partner B” for gender-neutrality. Partner A will simply refer to the first of you to enter, and Partner B will refer to the second.