How To Attract Wife After Marriage?

I’m from Saudi Arabia. What I find interesting that women in Saudi will work harder so she makes sure her man is not going anywhere. An other interesting fact is men with multiple wife are more stansfield sexually not because of having sex with multiple wifes but because once a man is married to another wife both of the wifes will demand sex as if it’s a competition. We have this story in my city of an old man married to a second wife after 20 years of marriage because his wife wouldn’t allow him to have sex with her. Once the old man got married they both started demanding sex aggressively until the old man had a heart attack and died. I don’t encourage having more than one partner so you don’t get a heart attack. One woman is good but multiple women are dangerous

Men! Never, EVER, take advice from a woman! Find an old married guy you trust and talk to him. This article is the worst advice I’ve ever heard. Here is a simple way to solve the problem: Say to her, “Sex to me is a necessity, like needing to use the bathroom. When you aren’t hooking-up with me, it’s like I’m driving down the highway and I have no bathroom in sight. I would like to use my toilet at home, but since that’s not available, I’ll have to settle for a dirty gas station along the way. So, I want to keep my business at home, but I can be forced to go elsewhere.” She’ll get mad, but then you say: “You can be angry all you want, but you know I’m right.” At that point end the conversation. Don’t say another word. BUT, men. You can’t just let yourself go. You need to try to stay relatively fit. It’s better for you anyway in the long run. Again, this woman’s advice is terrible!

These ideas are all wonderful and hopefully they will help someone. When you have already been through this over and over for 15+ years you eventually just get to a point where you stop trying to keep it going. The good part is you stop dealing with rejection and after some time you can settle into focusing on other things in life.

Want some better advice? I have worked in mental health for 15 years. The best thing you can do if you’re not getting sex in your marriage is to first find out if there’s a physical reason, or a mental health reason. Expect honesty. No honesty? Then suggest a legal separation, so that you can find someone who will be interested and honest with you. No husband, who is responsible and caring should be expected to live without sex forever, and if that doesn’t work, then you can move towards divorce because if you’re not getting sex in your marriage then you’re not really married. You are just friends, and she’s likely getting sex somewhere else, you’re in the friend zone …watch how fast your wife turns around when she sees your life together seriously dissolving right before her eyes. Watch as she starts getting more interested in pleasing you almost instantly when she pictures you with someone else legally, it will be instantly when you ask her to sign the papers for legal separation. If it doesn’t, you know you made the right decision with no regrets. One of the reasons people treat you poorly is because you let them.

I clicked on this article specifically to read the comments if you have to watch this article you probably should just leave and wish them the best. begging for sex is the best way to lose self respect for yourself and to allow someone to have control over you.If you weren’t prepared to consider this outcome you should’ve never married her and instead gotten into the right relationship where everything feels, like it’s moving forward and it’s effortless. Stop falling into this trap it makes you look like a loser MOVE ON!.

Don’t listen to this nonsense. If your woman doesn’t want to touch you or rejects after years of loyalty on your part it’s important for you to know that she’s simply bored. She’ll suck another guy off within a week or less of meeting him and might already be doing it. Women always claim they want to talk and it never goes anywhere. If you want sex walk in the bedroom and say “take your clothes off.” If she doesn’t do it she simply doesn’t want your affection and you need to go find a mistress. If she takes them off feel free to do what you know pleases her as long as she’s willing to reciprocate, but NEVER let a woman be selfish and think she owns you. Again, she will undress on command for another man, so if she doesn’t do it and you want to salvage the relationship get professional couples counseling. If that fails and you can’t leave for whatever reason man up and get your needs met elsewhere. A selfish woman doesn’t deserve your respect or loyalty.

Men have tried everything to get the wife to switch back to the way she was. All married men say the same thing. She just stopped after a while or kids arrived. Once she turns if off, it cannot be turned back on. Doing more around the house makes you look like a beggar. Don’t get married so you keep control.

Men have few choices. You can beg and beg and beg. You can ask/suggest or you can r***. Or you can just be silent and ultimately turn away from her entirely. That’s really the only good option. So best thing is to get your finances squared away, remove any possessions that you don’t want to lose and then plan your escape.

Married for 20 years have went as long as 4 years without sex. Maybe once or twice a year if I’m lucky. I just do my own business without the baggage. Wife has never had a sex drive, thinks it’s gross and has self-esteem issues. We even had to go through invetro for our kids so missed out on even trying. If I didn’t have kids my story would be different. I’m not a quitter so I have websiteed that into other things in life like getting away on the weekends and exploring the great outdoors or taking on more personal projects and investing more into myself and less into the relationship.

Have had this conversation several times now, there’s always an excuse, seems like she would rather do anything than have sex with me. I understand it’s hard when you have a teenage girl living in the house. I thank God for my dogs they are so loving, without them I may have visited the gun cabinet on a few occasions. Totally disgusted with myself, don’t know what I ever did to turn her off but I sure did a good job. Feel so ugly I have a hard time sleeping anymore. Don’t know how much longer I can do this.

Way off the mark. Instead, try the gym bag routine to trigger her competition anxiety. Join a 24/7 gym and always have your gym bag ready to go. When she turns you down, grab your bag and leave. Then you come home two hours later, freshly showered, feeling good about yourself, and you have a perfectly legitimate reason for where you have been. What do you think will be going on in her female brain??? She will be back in the saddle before you know it. If not, you’ll be looking buff, feeling great and you can leave the relationship for greener pastures.

I’m amazed at how so many comments are men describing following every suggestion, yet constantly getting rejected year after year. It’s the sad truth. Most men will do anything and everything to help out, communicate, and compliment our wives, not even in a sexual way either. Will do everything and anything, but all we need is to feel needed. Just like you do. Sex is how we feel needed (unfortunately), and there is no way to change it. Good luck out there boys 👍

As a woman I can confidently say that a sexless marriage is typically the woman’s fault. If it has proceeded the birth of a child, this is likely the reason. Back in our primitive society resources were extremely limited & having babies close together was a death sentence. Birth control didn’t exist so our bodies evolved to not only be sickened at the idea of sex for years after the birth of a child, but we even pull away emotionally from our partner. We may live in a modern society now but our bodies don’t know this. Now I don’t want to suggest to women just to force themselves during this time but I will say that every woman I talk to who makes sex a priority despite it repulsing them say that once they start it up, they enjoy it like they used too…..as a man I DONT suggest saying this to your wife, but knowing that might help with the anger & resentment which will. I don’t think talking to your wife about sex works, but asking her why she doesn’t want to spend time with you just might. It takes the focus off sex and she can’t get all “I knew that’s all you wanted” on you. I’m sorry guys, I know it’s hard especially when you have so little control over the situation. Hang in there.

Look its a relationship between a man and woman both of which have equal wants needs and desires that at one time was completely being met also both have their parts to do with responsibilities which are being met. The woman isn’t always the one who decides if sex happens or not but mostly she is. But if she makes it noticeable she lacks sexual desire for you address it asap maybe something is going on with her but if she has no clear answer you either move on or maybe you can enjoy the rare times she feels bad for you and let’s you have pity sex with her where you’re both involved but she’s not into any of it at all.

I talk about it before, saying I would love having more intimate stuff and the reply I got was that she was tired and it’s the last thing on her minde, I clean the house cook and take care of the kids plus work 50 hours a week, I try bringing her flowers and gift, all I got was a thx and a kiss, so basically all you have talk about is completely rong, and don’t work, ps she works in a daycare 40 hours a week and dos the grocery and laundry, I do the rest + she has one night a week with her friends to do Wtv, I don’t even go out, and I still don’t deserve some sort of intimate thing once a week ? That’s crazzy

I’m in 2:28 and I get the big vibe that men need to go to collage, take a 4 year course on how to talk to your wife. Then you need a battleplan, you don’t want to scare her and you don’t want to argue because women always win in arguments (never argue with an 8 year old because meme). So after all this work, and remember guys the woman changed and yet you have to do a sh*t ton of work to get the sex back to when you were with her the first year or 3. Men have to work because a women changed. ….. I don’t agree with this. If all men just said to their sexless wife, wife, I aint getting any, it looks like you don’t need sex at all. I still want this mariage and live together but the sex Imma get somewhere else.

I think there’s a real disconnect on this issue, that women just don’t understand a man’s perspective at all. Believe me, men want sex, more than you can ever contemplate or imagine. Most of the time, all things being equal, men HAVE engaged in the difficult conversation. We’ve tried jumping through the hoops. We’ve tried the ‘I feel’ conversations. We’ve tried coming at this from every different angle, and there is nothing that’s guaranteed to work. I’ve watched dozens of these articles from many different sex therapists/psychologists/etc. (mostly women), and the advice is more or less the same. I don’t know what the answer is to this either, by the way. It seems feminism has poisoned the psyche of women, such that they don’t think they have any responsibility in fulfilling their half of the marriage covenant anymore. The response men get is that they aren’t entitled to have sex with their wife, that the wife will have sex any time she damn well pleases, even if that means never, and there’s nothing the man can do about it. Oh, and he’s also an evil bastard if he cheats.

The answer is simple when people gets married first year lots of fun young hood sex but after a year kids come along then that’s the end of your sex life, she start to dress unattractive, start yelling at you and then demand you to cheer her up with expensive dinner and vaccines just because you made her angry asking her for sex. I’ve seen it all. If your loaded with money then she sticks to you for buying her cars, houses, expensive vacations and pay for childcare however if your an average dude then good luck to you, your life will get super tough and in worse case she can just leave you for making low amounts of money and asking her for sex will be your worst nightmare ever. Good luck to you all

My wife hasn’t wanted me since I was 40 years old. I am 74 now. I think she had affair back then. Her sex with this other man made her not want me anymore I think. I have no proof of a affair Could be she gay but I don’t think so! Now she claims she doesn’t want nobody. Too late now! If I bring up sexy she days is that’s all I want is that the only reason you married me? I say that’s a big part of marriage. She says I can’t get her off. Should have divorced her years ago? I love no matter what she had done in past.

Yeah my wife sleeps in another room of the house .then she says she wants banies . I am like no if u wanted them u need to sleep with me .when she is mad at me it all comes out that she says there is no love anymore she wants to just be a partner only .she just took on a temp job it will start in a few weeks she wants her own account back account. She says she wants to bisit her homw country by herself She did run out on me before one of her parents told her to get an amazon job she did and i ferl she will get up and go and leave me with all the bills she didnt care before when she runs out .i am atill srnding her family of 8 50 dollars every week was doing a 100 dollars .its like what should i pay them or the bills .i know her answar its sure not the bills she wants to leave them with me .i am just tired of this crap shes pulling if i talk her back in our room she will find a way to get out of it and i am woundering what shes going to bed so early i think she could be talking to another man

The reason why sex is so important it’s not because you look as a sex object, even though it technically is and this might be considered massaging me but I’m going to say it, we are not having sex with your woman or your wife and vice versa girls not having it with her guy, they’ll essentially be like roommates, whole cast, the develop into strangers and the retraction was slowly die down, things always keeps you to get there and connected under god, and as a Christian man this is very dear to my heart for when I do get married and by the time I get engaged we’ll probably start discussing that topic because we’re close to America and I have to wait towards the marriage as it’s a covenant I have with God and my family, so this will be a very important topic, and this is how guys just feel I’m good with their woman you know what I mean, sometimes you have to have the hard conversations with her

Come in with your head down, hat in hand . Tone must be not intimidating. Don’t make her defensive.Make an appointment when you want to do it . Be convincing with your talking points . Good luck fellas . If this is what we have to do balls in her court we begging for scraps . This is not a healthy role a man should be in .

Thanks for this article it is definitely a good reminder to pass the test my old lady is definitely (picking me apart) testing me on the regular basis and I’m definitely aware that my old way to react was a reaction you would give when attacked taking that extra few seconds to rember that this is a test vs a attack takes a lot of practice but it pays off if you can master the technique I call skip the anger bye skipping the anger emotions that are so easy to go after as anger is usually my first feeling I tend to lean to when I feel attacked I try to understand why she’s saying what she’s saying and understand her bye showing her I understand vs giving the anger has been so much better all around