In Islam, marriage is a social and legal relationship aimed at strengthening and extending family relationships. It begins with a search for an arranged marriage, where a Muslim husband must agree a financial deal with the prospective wife before marriage. Islamic marriages are often arranged by the parents of the couple, although sometimes the son may suggest a woman of his choice.
Islam does not require that marriages be arranged, but the ideal is that Muslim couples do not have an intimate relationship before getting married. Arranged marriage is a type of marital union where the bride and groom are primarily selected by individuals other than the couple themselves.
Islam forbids the marriage of Muslim girls to non-Muslim men, and the religious punishment for those who marry outside might be severe. Arranged marriage is a tradition in the Indian subcontinent, but mixed-race marriage relationships are permitted in Islam.
Foundated marriages where the bride or bridegroom have not agreed to marry are not permitted or accepted in Islam. However, the marriage itself is valid and accepted. Tensions between family traditions and the yearning for independence often arise from disputes over arranged marriages among young Muslims in the U.S.
In Islam, there are two types of marriages: lawful and arranged. Lawful marriages are contracts that do not go against Allah’s orders or the purpose of marriage. In India, arranged marriages are prevalent, as the kinship system, particularly among Hindus in the North, is strongly tied to this system. The process of arranging marriages among Muslims typically begins once individuals reach a suitable age and maturity level. Parents or guardians are responsible for finding a suitable match.
According to the Quran, a married Muslim couple is equated with clothing, and both husband and wife are each other’s protectors. Arranged marriages vary from culture to culture, and while forced marriages are forbidden in Islam, arranged marriages are not. Arranged marriages are not unique to Islam, but they occur in communities where men and women do not mix freely.
In conclusion, while arranged marriages are not unique to Islam, they occur in communities where men and women do not mix freely.
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Is it haram to get married without parents knowing?
Prophet Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “There is no marriage without a guardian.” Its also worth mentioning that a kaafir (disbeliever) cannot be the wali (guardian) of a Muslim woman.
Who would arrange or plan marriages?
Often, families arrange the marriage of their child simply because it is the custom. The basic idea is that the parents know their children better than anyone else, so they will have the wisdom and experience to pick the perfect partner.
Who is in charge of marriage?
Marriage is chiefly regulated by the states. The Supreme Court has held that states are permitted to reasonably regulate the institution by prescribing who is allowed to marry and how the marriage can be dissolved. Entering into a marriage changes the legal status of both parties and gives both husband and wife new rights and obligations. One power that the states do not have, however, is that of prohibiting marriage in the absence of a valid reason. For example, in Loving v. Virginia, the Supreme Court held that prohibiting interracial marriage is unconstitutional because it violates the Equal Protection Clause of the Constitution. Thus, establishing that marriage is a civil right.
The majority of states limit people to one living husband or wife at a time and will not issue marriage licenses to anyone with a living spouse. Once an individual is married, the person must be legally released from the relationship by either death, divorce, or annulment before he or she may remarry. Other limitations on individuals include age and close relationship.
In 1996, President Clinton signed into law the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which, for federal purposes, defined marriage as only a legal union between one man and one woman as husband and wife (1 U.S.C. § 7). DOMA further provided that No State, territory, or possession of the United States, or Indian tribe, shall be required to give effect to any public act, record, or judicial proceeding of any other State, territory, possession, or tribe respecting a relationship between persons of the same sex that is treated as a marriage under the laws of such other State, territory, possession, or tribe, or a right or claim arising from such relationship (28 U.S.C. § 1738C). (See Conflict of laws, Constitutional law). In the 2013 case United States v. Windsor, the United States Supreme Court struck down DOMA as unconstitutional.
Can we touch a girl before marriage in Islam?
Islam does not allow any sort of pre-marital relation, whether they relate to kissing, hugging or even touching. Men and women are not to be mingled. They have to be protected as this can be very strong for human psychology and premarital relationships can have an adverse affect on the marriage life of both genders.
Who is responsible for nikkah?
In most Islamic schools of thought, the Nikah is not valid without the essential role of a wali. Only the Hanafi madhab allows nikah without the presence of the wali, which you can learn more about here. Wali translates to protector, and some Muslims use the word to describe an Islamic saint. A wali is most often a paternal male relative who is in charge of the brides life before marriage. The wali must ensure the well-being of the woman in all aspects of her life; before and during the marriage process. In circumstances as important and life-changing as marriage, it is significantly beneficial for a bride to have assistance from a trusted individual; like her Wali, to settle on the best and most qualified man to be her husband and lifelong partner. A wali should be thorough in evaluating the womans future husband in an unbiased and purely intended manner. After the marriage, the responsibilities of taking care of the woman are lifted off the Wali and the husband becomes responsible for his wifes well-being.
The majority of scholars agree that the wali must be a Muslim. By default, the father of the bride is her wali, however, in certain circumstances where the father is unable to be present as a wali, the role of the wali is usually taken on by the next closest mahram. The most common sequence of the role of the wali after her father is her paternal grandfather, son, grandson, brother, paternal half-brother, and paternal uncle. In a situation where none is available, then the Qadi (Islamic Judge) would assume the title of the wali, or any other righteous relative. The role of the wali is to consent to the marriage and assist the bride during the Nikah. Nikahnama provides an optional space for the walis signature on its marriage contract texts.
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A lot of people are mistaking arranged marriages with forced marriages. Arranged marriage=both Islamic and cultural, where the parents or carer arrange their child’s marriage and the child has input and the right to refuse. Forced marriages= Haram/forbidden but sadly its part of some peoples culture and its where the children have no choice in who they marry
honestly i have never seen such a humble guy ever as zubair. He is the ideal for many girls. i honestly dont see anythng negative in him he sooo humble omg. Nowadays guys have dubbelmorals and want the perfect girl with perfect look while they themselve look bad, while this guy never spoke ill about any girl he saw intead he thought there was something wrong with him:O like noooo ur perfect!!!!!! if i was in UK at that time idont care i would do anything to marry him
Zubair seems like such a nice guy, theres nothing wrong with being a strict muslim. Theres so few strict muslims nowadays it mint seem strange. My father is a strict muslim and his one of the most chilled people I know. Being a muslim does not make you any less funnier or less of a character. The beard does not stop you living a happy normal life. I wish people could see beyond appearances. I think zubair is a good muslim and seems like a good man too.
I personally think, Zubair is very attractive. He is amazingly funny, he seems sweet, & what a smile!!as for his plans to return to Pakistan, if I could offer some advice-I will be going to Pakistan in June 2015. As an American Non-Muslim ( I plan on converting on our wedding day when I go there, as I want him to be there when it happens:). If someone told me, two years ago I would be marrying a Muslim & journeying to Pakistan, I never would have believed it. Yet, one never knows what the future holds. To the man who has been waiting for 8 years, do not give up, follow your heart. To all the men on this article, self confidence goes very far. You guys are a good catch. Dimpy- you are fantastic! Do not settle- as you know you will regret it. Naila- ( I apologize if I spelled this wrong) you are beautiful & sweet & you all have plently to offer. I wish you all the best of luck
Words Can KILL – Guys please do not leave personal comments about other peoples’ physical appearance! Just seen the program and the comments left below. Guys! If you have nothing good or positive to say, the best thing is not to say anything, and certainly not anything about people’s physical appearance etc…. Personally, I think all the individuals in the program (including Dimpy) have their strengths and weaknesses…. just like the rest of us.
I’m sorry to say this but Dimpy cannot afford to be so picky. If she wants that perfect guy, then she needs to work on herself too. She should exercise and lose weight. Guys aren’t incredibly picky, but they at least want a woman who is slim and toned, and anyone can achieve that if they work for it. She needs to accept that she needs to make some changes to herself instead of finding faults in every man.
Wow….she’s not so hot herself and turned down 60 men, because they are not doctors? So she wants another doctor not a husband or love. Good luck! Marriages is all about love. Nothing else is really a matters. If you are not in love, you don’t need to get married. Especially for someone who is already so dependent and don’t need anyone to take care them right?…. Love is love. OMG, and she doesn’t even know how to do dishes? or operate the dishwasher machine?….. But …. the brother do look like John Abraham.
you all are being too harsh on dimpy. Obviously she is not the ideal from of first glance beauty, but the more you get to know her and see her confidence the more attractive she looks. for crying out loud, she is not hideous, just more average. She is independent, takes care of herself, and is into fashion. Yes her requirements are a bit much, but shouldn’t she have self worth. She’s even admitted that her problems were about her emotional issues and is ready to compromise.
Loved the self esteem of these two Sisters, so different from what I see amongst non-religious friends. Love the idea of parents being the first hurdle in meeting the right person, this seems just what every caring parent should be doing in terms of protecting their child from marrying the wrong person. I honestly wish I had asked my parents what they really thought of the man I married. Dimpy made me cry, I also miss my late father every day, and what makes me saddest of all is that having seen me marry the wrong man, and leave an unhappy marriage, he isn’t here to see me happy at last.
38:14 Wow that Mom is great. She got a really good point across and you could tell by her tone that she was careful not to hurt feelings. I think this girl is having a hard time finding a husband because she had a love with her dad that was very strong and no one else is measuring up. Mom was making a good point with pretty much saying “You should let yourself free from those expectations. Find someone like him, but it’s not him and you need to remember that.” I really admire and respect that mom. Edit: Ok it was aunt, not mom. But either way, my point stands lol
Asalam o Alaikum to brothers and sisters.. this article is providing me a lot of things knowledge first time.. e.g: Imam had give edu to young age boys and girls lecture about religious education, how practicing of Islam. by lecturs daily. providing them boys data to make a perfect match. I wish that here in Pakistan Imam can do this kind of legal ways efforts to unite young generation by social activities, even the boys only in the mosque. regular Islam learning programs via daily basis clases even for the boys only as like in this article as friendly. but he can try to told only in Jumma khutba.. try to tell us everything in one speach. how we question on it. just listening.. and listening..
As a Muslim, (and I must mention that I’m not a practising Muslim, I see myself as a spiritual person), I’m saddened, and in fact surprised to see what an archaic way is followed by our young Muslims to find a partner. And to think that they have been born and grown up in western countries, with their liberal culture and thinking. I don’t for a moment suggest that promiscuity is the answer, but surely, that a 30-odd year old man doesn’t know how to conduct himself in female company…. good heavens! Which world are we living in? Muslims are the most backward people in the world today, and this is one manifestation of it. We have to abandon these archaic ways and adopt a way of life that’s more in keeping with modern times. This is the only way we can return to our glorious past.
2019 – i am writing my comment here in year 2019. But the problem 2012 and 2019 its still same and sadly in 2019 the marriage itself generally in Muslim ummah is more hard. The reason is basically both Muslim men and women have become into perfect match and not realizing their is nothing perfect in match. You have to sacrifice and give up something from your whims and thoughts and desires to get a good person in life. Its obvious but sadly very few people today in Muslim ummah are aware of it. Just don’t be hardcore strict in whatever you want and In sha Allah, you’ll get a spouse easily. But like we seen in this article if people have become hardcore, strict in their approach the chance is they won’t get a match easily. For example in this article two of women had the opportunity to communicate in different level with 60 and 20 people respectively but being too stucked in what they think the person should be, they didn’t get a spouse. and Allah knows the best. But i hope and pray that since its old article from 2012 so till now all of them had been married and Allah would have granted them righteous children as well. If not, we still pray for them and Muslim ummah that may Allah grant them good righteous spouse, ameen.
Alright guys, being a Psych major makes me no expert and I may end up having my own struggles in finding a partner. I see that this article is 2 years old, but still these are thoughts I had about 2 of these folks. 1. Br. Zubair’s case is probably the easier one to understand/resolve. It isn’t that he hasn’t found success, and in the article at the end, you can see a sister he liked was interested in him too. His problem/concern is one of a major life decision change. He is planning to move permanently to Pakistan which is a huge decision. Firstly, he doesn’t know what’s waiting for him there and whether he will want to come back to UK. It’s cool to have this desire for a ‘roots’ experience, but when you really get there, you may end up feeling totally different. You think everyone there speaks Urdu, the streets are going to be clean and you will have the secure, convenient life of UK there, when in fact only the Urdu part maybe true and you are running yourself into a totally different culture (even if you have a Pak background). The suggestion is to make one life change at a time and not 2 major changes. He should go to Pakistan first, see how he likes it there and take it from there. Secondly, his chances of finding a UK practicing Muslim girl who would be willing to relocate to Pakistan are very slim. It doesn’t seem like he sees that that’s close to a real impossibility. Unless there is another woman who has the exact same, proactive interest as his and wants to relocate just like him, he is not going to find someone.
I pray that Dimpy, Zubair & Naila all find their soulmates, inshallahhh! What Dimpy said in the end is very true, I’ve seen plenty of girls in my family and in many other muslim families settle for the ugliest guy in the very end when they are over 30. sad but very true. nevertheless hope they all find happiness. inshallah!
I love how everyone is complaining about Dimpy`s standards are, but you wouldn’t acknowledge how closed these people from the simple interactions with the opposite sex. These people are very restricted in that type of life. Religious or not, at least have an experience on how the opposite sex is like? It could be just friends, but getting a bit of an overview on how others are like can help them look for a mate much easier. Being closed from the world and then to suddenly open all the doors can be challenging to deal with. I wish them luck though.
ok, as an American woman, that brother thinks leaving his crap around is giving her practice? ?? Really for what being a servant. I am glad that my husband doesn’t think like that! I enjoy taking care if him but he doesn’t expect me to jump and do his bidding. I understand that things are different in other cultures but who boy, that would drive me crazy!
45:20 oh wow that’s the first place where Zubayr messed up 😆, the first thing that he was supposed have done when he sat down was to introduce himself, that way it establishes an image of him having lots of self confidence and self esteem, otherwise it shows that he’s nervous (which can be a yellow flag in some situations).
Damn she’s blaming her dad for her own hangups. My dad joked to me when I was a child to go to law school or doctor and marry and then divorce and take their money. He was just kidding though. He is really progressive for where we live. I met a homeless man and we fell in love and my father really liked him but I never thought once to please my parents and I am religious but I need to be with someone that is my soulmate whether or not my parents approve. My husband was a great amazing man, I would never choose someone that is percieved successful to outside world. My opinion is if you’re happy, positive and content, that’s the most successful you can be.
here in Algeria they TRY TO make the deal for you before you even get your full own independent mature spirituality, but one thing their traditions can not take away from me, is that Islam gives me all the right of choice and consideration of all that suits me and what doesn’t, and they all know that .
I got married at 21, 5 years on still deeply in love and I’m not religious, and I know that ‘Dimpy’ is being ridiculous. She’s asking for a Muslim, Pakistani Brad Pitt look a like doctor, when she is an overweight 31 year old with a princess complex and a MD. I’m sorry but unless she changes her attitude drastically, even if she were to get married it would not be a happy marriage.
As a Muslim there’s no point of looking for a husband that’s a doctor or a engineer or someone in a state of high Status because you don’t know what could happen I mean one day they can be a doctor and the next day something can happen so we should look for someone loving caring someone who loves God someone who will take care of you.
I was perusal this article on my main phone and searching for random songs on youtube too through my other phone. Then Lana Del Rey randomly popped into my mind so i was like hmm ok and typed her name into the search bar on the other phone and watched her articles, like article Games and Young & Beautiful. I thought, yeah great, these songs are nice. Then I went on and continued perusal this article and after awhile the next thing i heard was article Games playing in the background. What the even heck.
100 points for zubair. He is the perfect man. Handsome..pious, confident..intelligent and funny. What else one can ask for. All those girls who refused him just because he wanted to move Pakistan actually lost. It’s hard to find a man of such a character and that’s what matters. Money is not everything…its actually pretty low down there when it comes to a successful married life and particularly for muslims and what we are supposed to gain and do in this life….
Mashalla I was jus going to write here to read istikhara for these ppl and then I see only Naila doing that. Brother Zubair is in the wrong place looking for bride when he is going to live in Pakistan why the hell he is looking for someone who wish to stay back here in UK and definitely Zubair will inshalla find the beautiful one. Dimpy is definitely the spoiled one may Allah bless the man who get married to haha. I will turn 22 this year and now seeing this its scaring the hell out of me
Personally, I like the beard, and I don’t think that someone with it would be boring. Being very religious isn’t a bad thing, and being slightly less than strictly religious isn’t either. If you’re Muslim, then, sure, there are quite a few things that are unacceptable and quite a few things that are mandatory, but at the end of the day they make you a better person. Islam doesn’t tell you to do anything wrong, it prevents you from doing so. Nobody should avoid religious people. If anything, they should run toward them. Oh, but don’t confuse culture with religion because, sometimes, that happens.
Insha Allah my children will find a nice partner for marriage. They’re growing up, in only a few years they’ll be adults and I pray they find someone nice. Usually in my family, we have arranged marriages, mine was. I want my children to find a partner in a different way. Someone they really like. Insha Allah.
Dimple was lying because her father passed 3yrs prior. But she had been looking for 10 yrs. That means her father was alive for 7yrs of her search. Her brother and cousin said she has rejected 60 proposals. You’re not telling me she got all 60 after her fathers death, which means that she was rejecting proposals that her father approved of while he was still present. Therefore; this whole doctor right malarchy was just an act. Glad she eventually got married but please.
The Dr. Isn’t going to practice after marriage… saddened by her decision… why spend all that effort and time to not continue with her career… I’m aware of the fact she’s Muslim but she doesn’t have to be barefoot and pregnant with no carer. Take a leave of absence and then take your position in society…
Follow ur own heart to find the one. Being in love is so good. The career does not have to be that important. I don’t care if my partner makes a minimum wage or an Engineer. Material gives comfort, not happiness. Some doctors or engineers are not intelligent in life. Life is too short for that. shit.
The whole beard concept is mind boggling to me. In my country, I bet anywhere really, if you can rock a beard it’s automatically presumed that you know how to F*** things up!! In better terms, it’s a huge plus so for it to be considered negative seems new and interesting. Perhaps that’s within the Muslim community a few years back then? Because it seems to be the new trend these days and despite the fact that I’m not hijabi or Muslim, I actually really like it. Super refreshing to see a wavy brother.
zabir what a cute guy!but why doesnt he just find someone in pakistan?wouldnt that be alot easier than rushing to find a girl and then also convincing her to move to pakistan?hes so quirky and funny but serious and smart as well i think hes a great catch! that joke he told on his date was hilarious and the girl didnt even laugh it was strictly buisness for her..zero personality. as for dimpy, i hope she finds the most happiness in the world. losing her father tore her up you could see it,i really felt for her at those moments.she will find a good guy one day i think.
What we had in mind of how our lives should’ve really looked like at the age we’re at now, for many of us it isn’t really the case whilst you see others getting married and shooting out babies every other day, being a Muslim myself I really do sympathise for most women who not only have this pressure at home from their families, but also the community and society they live in who think once you hit a certain age you’re no longer marriage material, not too mention you’re up against a biological clock ticking away inside you and suddenly the haunting thought of having kids at 40+ hits you. As for the brother with the beard, there’s nothing wrong with you or the way you look I mean you ain’t the first man on earth with a beard, you’re demands are abit much, if you’re looking to settle in Pakistan after marriage, then maybe looking for someone out there would be best.
Good luck Dimpy, I wish you well in finding the one. By the way, does that mean she’s a 32 year old Virgin? Zubair seems like a likeable guy and he’s very handsome. Here’s a suggestion, why won’t he shave the beard first then find his woman, and when they are married and there is no turning back, grow the beard back. I feel Nalia is to young to be married, but that’s just my opinion.
Van Drare- what? No, lol. I do not think I would go & marry someone I didn’t know. I just said he was attractive & he seemed funny & sweet. All I was saying, is if you stop looking & possibly not hold people to strict ideas on what you believe to be essential, you might find someone you are NOT looking for who you find you cannot live without. I am going to Pakistan to meet my man’s family & get married next year. You are all wonderful in your own way & I have no doubt you will find someone who will fall madly in love with you & keep you happy forever, someone you will love with all your heart. Much love & luck from US
Nic Devlin- you are a wonderful person with a good heart. You are right. Some people ‘s only measure of happiness is to make others feel bad. I hate that type. It seems it went from “bullies” to “cyber bullies” one thing has not changed- they still spew their venom. While regular bullies would only fight in the school yard 5-1, cyber bullies post under “User Names” with no recourse. They’re no doubt the types that spend 24/7 playing games rather than look for a job & no woman in her right mind would look at them. Now you on the other hand, Suhail, they see your pic. ( great body, very attractive) so they hate on you with the one thing they know will get to you- your religion, the ultimate low blow. They’re jealous children in the schoolyard. & they should be laughed at accordingly. My friend, you are above them. Do not spent a moment of hate on those so much lower than you. I wish I knew who they were- I’d leave a reply to leave their ears bleeding.
If you go to Mecca doing pilgrims but your main intention is to have your ‘me’ time and to run away from your problem, you just going to waste the golden chance which many Muslims dreamt about but do have the opportunity to do it. Mecca is not a place for your-self. Mecca should be the only place for us to get connected closely to Allah. It must always be for nothing else but our relationship with the Almighty Allah.
I have read the Quaran and it’s not about killing or hurting. It’s about love and peace and living in Gods will. Pretty amazing really. The radical sect takes it too far and the very old cultural customs r alarming. Customs like honour killings. That confuses me when u watch a devout Muslim who prays 5 times a day without fail. I hope someday the old tribe practices stop and young people don’t have to die for love. That’s just not what their religion is about.
Come on guys it is not that difficult,we make it difficult. One more thing to mention, if you are looking for life partner you should not be that choosy. If you have a long list of specifications you are looking for it means you are looking for perfect person. People have specifications like they are gonna order something from Amazon specially girls 😂
That’s hilarious when someone is seeking perfection inside some other where s/he is not perfect at all. What if someone says to that girl hey you are fat, i don’t want to marry you for that. Then that lady will say “You man are bla bla bla……materialistic people bla bla bla” But when it comes to her, she seeks for those materialistic qualities. These hypocrites should not get married.