Who Is Coach O Engaged To?

I’ve not been in a relationship for ten years, and he’s not either. We are both older, mature pensioners, I’m 67, and he is 70. He wanted confirmation that we were exclusive, so I told him I didn’t want anyone else, neither of us want marriage, just to enjoy each others company. We both fancy each other, so the intimacy is great too.

Two things 1. I want to hear a man talk a little about his ex. Then i can evaluate if he is healed from his prior relationship or if there are still strong feelings involved. 2. There is an easier and less embarrassing (for him) way to lead a conversation away from a topic than “let me intervene” (as if you are the conversation coach). Just bring something else up! The conversation will flow in the new direction.

Men over 50 are so difficult to date. They seem to be playing the short game. They can barely commit to meeting for a drink. It’s the awkward daily text “how was your day” or “TGIF”. I flirt just enough, I’m fit, I drive a sweet Lexus, I have a home and still can’t get a guy to commit to putting in some effort at this age. It’s so strange. Over 50 men want younger women or they think they want to date by signing up on dating sites but really they are just working on getting laid. It’s a bizarre age. I am so discouraged

I would never have sex with a man until he has asked to be exclusive and is clear that his goal for dating is for having a relationship. Did a friends with benefits for a couple years, I never was clear what he wanted, turned out is was only a casual relationship. Very difficult break up for me, I was attached.

Congratulations💕👥🎊….Bellisima❤…great advice…I just turned 50…I am celibate y luv in it..💜.I have not been in a relationship for years y i am very happy…with respect I have not met a man in today’s world that is serious…so many players…I have been married y i feel blessed….but it is amazing the joy you have y peace as you get older…it truly is a gift…I have learned so much in my life…all lessons that have made me stronger…life is beautiful…god bless…💛🙏🌅

Really hard to find a decent person out there who hasn’t been married several times and have crazy exes or crazy children and they all have trust issues, I think I will just occasionally casually date. I was married about 30 years and came to find out that my wife didn’t really want to be married half of that time and in many ways I didn’t either because she always was cheating but we had kids to raise and that had to come first

I love everything you’re saying…except for one thing…with all due respect. I honestly find it very disheartening to be told over and over that I should not be picky and that looks are not everything. 🙄Granted, they’re not…but I take the upmost care of myself and at 49 years old I am healthy, fit and very youthful looking and I don’t think it is delusional or even shallow to hope for a partner who is equally fit, healthy and attractive. I made the mistake once to settle for someone who I was not at all attracted to physically but had all the qualities I was looking for in a husband. 8 years later, I was still not attracted to him, I grew to care deeply for him but never had passion for my husband, and our intimate life was just awful. He also turned out to be a covert narcissist, but that’s a different story… I swore to never EVER settle for someone I don’t have full chemistry with. No woman should have to compromise anything due to her age. Nobody wants to to find out later that their partner was not that attracted to them it’s incredibly hurtful. That’s my 2 ce, ts and I respect anyone who feels differently but I learned that lesson the hard way.

I really took issue on several points on this article… I for one have been married twice and have been single for the past 20 years…I have grown into my thinking that going into a date or meet up with no expectations as it is human nature to find faults in why the person will not measure up… Celebrating the differences is how I have evolved into the opposite Neanderthal thinking of what my parents have taught me… I have the mindset of looking at me when things don’t work out with a woman and what I did wrong in that relationship so I don’t repeat the mistakes of my past… Im not interested in being married again but I am interested in finding a life partner who share similar interests and open to new experiences…. Im not asking to go sky diving with someone, although Ive been in the past but hey lets take a ride on a motorcycle and visit places we’ve have never seen before… I will be 60 on Jan 24th, 19 and believe the journey has just begun for me…. I welcome any comments positive or negative that will help further my view as I am a teacher and student of my life’s journey…. Peace Love and Respect to all….

Wow! Not all women think your way chick!! I’m over 60, widowed, been ‘hanging out’ with an old friend. I didn’t want to get married, don’t want children (mine are grown), have my own house. All I wanted was a companion to share adventures with, hang out with, have dinner/lunch with, just spend time with. I don’t like to be ignored, figure a man doesn’t either. Your time is the most valuable thing you have to share, so if you care for someone share it. My list was & is short: someone to have adventures with, hang out with, get to know. Then a partner to grow old with, share our bodies & experience. With NO marriage requirements. I don’t get why women want to be totally helpless when totally honest works better. I don’t need a man to support, I don’t want one to support me. Help each other is great. Meet each other’s needs, be there for each other. If my friend wasn’t in a committed relationship of his choice, unwilling to release his ex, he’d be perfect. But… he is so I’m not. I’m not in kindergarten or high school, I’m not into games, just straight forward no BS is great!!! And yes I am a woman

You’re gorgeous and have some great ideas but I gotta say, men over 50 don’t necessarily ‘know what they want.’ We thought we knew and we can damn sure tell you what we don’t want, we can even act like we know what we want but it’s more of a hopeful ‘this is what I want’ or ‘I’ve narrowed it down to this.’ To be sure, we aren’t as clueless as when we were younger and personally, I have more swagger. The difference is, as a young man I thought I was this or that, now, I know who I am but knowing who I am is different than knowing, for certain, who I want. Lord I hope this makes sense. What I see is women my age okay fewer games ~ that’s refreshing.

Omg lady your your so genuine and real and a woman. thank you so much. I read some of the men comments below. clearly they are bitter, and old. how sad. it’s seems they really truly believe that there a viper in each one of us. lol. well I personally was a good wife, I could have got alimony I didn’t. I could have been richer I’m poorer, I could have been bitter, I’m not. I was a great wife, good mother. to this day he wishes he would have changed as much as I did for 27 years. we speak, we are civil. he wants to go back and have a do over. me too. not with him. I loved being a wife, mother and now a grandmother. I want to find a man to share my life with me and I’ll share his life with him. I don’t want him to change just to be loving and kind and hopefully I get my do over. this time with the right guy.

As a man, marriage is not my goal anylonger. Avoiding it is, and for that I am legally protected (no contract I sign can bound me). I don’t even pursue interactions with women, more like avoid them. If a woman insists enough times and still can handle a NO, she can try buying me a meal. I would prefer to live and die alone and without a superficial legacy than make any effort to mate with them, let alone commit into a “relatioship”, marriage has no meaning to me: Been there, done that.

Decent advice but as a 50 year old man I have to say it’s bad advice to use sex as a carrot. Any man worth anything won’t respond to that favourably. Higher value middle aged guys won’t pressure or push. We slow down too, but treating your V like it’s a prize to be earned goes against biological nature. You’re both two mature adults so just communicate honestly. Genuine desire cannot be manufactured.

I’m 52 and it seems like there is a real disconnect between what women say they want and what they do. All the relationship coaches on the female side talk about getting a guy to commit. Despite listing LTR as a goal on Match, I keep attracting women that seem addicted to their singlehood. Its like LTR just means they are a date not looking for a hook-up and miss the part about wanting to grow in other aspects of intimacy.

A widower reached out to me on facebook. We live several states away so the distance would be a problem. I told him my age, 53 and I think he’s slightly younger even though he hasn’t told me his age. I laid out everything up front. He says he wants to meet a good woman to love the rest of his life and who will accept and love his son as their own. That’s a hard sell. I’ve never been married and never had children, so it would be difficult for me to totally change that way. My family who is controlling in a way is opposed to it. That has kept me from moving forward with these things.

After 15yrs doing the online dating, I can tell you the #1 error this author has failed to inform the audience….. Women want men to be employed. A job means $$$’s, and that means plenty of things and activities for you to do. Am I unreasonable? You bet!! I know what I’m looking for…. too bad she comes with the one thing I can’t give her.

Sadly this relationship ended before it began. He decided he preferred his freedom, and his new motorbike, and how he wanted to tour the world, and re-live his lost youth. At my age I’m not looking for marriage, just a companion/friend, I’ve not been intimate with anyone for at least 10 yrs, up to him. I’ve given up on ever finding anyone.

Dating of 50, I have learned to be honest with women. I have always wanted to tell them that I have physical issues that are from my birth. I have been able to overcome much of it, where I have become well off financially, physically and spiritually. However I do have a serious issue that does effect sexuality. Should I be honest from the beginning?

Good article. Especially the “dont be to picky”. Look f.e. at all the man who arent that tall. (Most woman want above 1.80 m). I dont totally agree with the advice about waiting with sex. Good advice for dating younger man. But you expect that the man adjust himself to you. But for a man intimacy and feeling secure comes after sex. So dont wait to long because older man know what they want and arent that patience anymore.

I made it 51 seconds in..ladies..I stopped dating 5 yrs ago..just be a friend w a guy you may like..don’t fall for any BS a “guru” will tell you!..we’re not teenagers any longer!..if it works it’ll fit like a puzzle after some time….patience is learned 😀 …I love life n having fun..the rest is just a hotdog from a convenient store!

What’s your best advice about getting your girlfriend back like it was? I’m over 50. I was going out with this sweet woman for 2 months, and it felt pretty good. We had great intimacy, nice meals together, a sense of humour here and there. One day, out of the blue, she texts me to end everything.. wow it hurt. I single for over 3 years before I met her, so I had my hopes up, I know, but I only have one freaking life, what are women doing today is criminal. I can have a fast car, a pretty home, running water 🙂 but if i don’t have a mate, well its the sickest game in town.

Suggest you add: don’t talk about money or expect him to buy stuff, consider going dutch at firs; 2) don’t be on cell phone, if get a call cut it short 2 minutes; 3) if don’t want sex, at least first few dates than dress conservative; 4) don’t act like a man and don’t be a feminist, if are that will show anyway; his manner and showing interest in you and your interest towards him will show to each other if respect exist; 5) when he talks just listen and be literal to apply the words he used; if didn’t hear, or it didn’t make sense, don’t fill in the blanks, immediately – TELL HIM your not sure what he said or meant, say in these words “I UNDERSTOOD YOU TO SAY . . ., then allow and accept HIS clarification. DROP whatever YOU understood, even if it was what he said. NEVER – TELL HIM WHAT HE SAID “tell what you understood” (big difference in the 2 ways). The correction is key. This is important. If you insist to tell him what he said and meant, this will result in problems. Realize we often error in the words; we say. Move on with the correction. Again, he can’t argue with what you understood; however, if you insist to tell him what he meant, while maybe he did use the wrong word while not his intended meaning; you are calling him a liar, insisting he meant what you understood. Over time, doing all you can to give him the benefit of the doubt, the situations will soon tell you if he is a WILLFULLY liar; 6) RESPECT, TRUST and COMMUNICATION are key to a relationship. If one or both can not: a) speak in pleasant tones, b) fully listen and allow other to fully express self and get to the point ASAP, c) allow the listener time to think upon what speaker just said before the speaker expects an answer from listener, because listener was really listening, not formulating what listener is going to say, and jump right in, when speaker takes breath before speaker had finished.

i have always disliked the rules based upon the sex of the person. why should men pay ? why should men do the calling ? etc. etc. i would like to see a more even-steven right across the board. and to be honest, my “rules” do not change based upon the age of the person. cuz i have few rules. just be yourself, dont use the other person, and dont let the other person use you. IT IS REALLY JUST THAT SIMPLE.

Itsa case of dammed if you do Dammed if dont. If you dont tell the truth you are a (called) a liar. If you tell the truth you don’t get a date. The only good thing, in this vid, is don’t be so picky. Like if they’re a drunk or irresponsible fair enough. But owning an old car, by choice, ffs, what’s that all about.

I’m sorry he has to be in good shape and great hair. I’m in good shape still at 60 and I’d be in great shape if I didn’t have a severe back injury. I have to be physically attracted or sex will never happen. Better to be alone than compromising physical attraction to what just a guy that’s Ok but ugggggg not attracted to them

Notes: 6 rules for more than 50 years old of age dating: Genuine….put yourself first, know your boundaries 1. Don’t get into baggage, bring to the present…. talking about the past, what is going on today? Change the topic, move on….. Don’t overshare…. What did you learn in your first marriage, be positive. 2. Don’t call unless he calls you… They know what they want, you cannot chase a man. 3. Don’t have sex until you are ready. Until you have established what the relationship is. STD talk, health, future plans, have that talk. Worst feeling is FWB. Friends with benefits. 4. Stop being so picky. Find out 3 things you can appreciate about him…. Your types in the past have not worked out…so…… on time, talks nicely to waiter…pulled your chair out… looking at the energy…limits our possibilities…get to know him. 5. Flirt like a woman! Non verbal communication, too. Learning turns a man on. Use body language, smile, lean in, tuck hair behind ear to let them know you are listening….do it on a date!…….touch him, when he makes a comment……………. best flirt, to compliment him, compliment him on his work ethic, or that triathlon, you are like a rock star! show appreciation! You have it going on there! You still have it! 😎 Be generous with your compliments. 6. Let conversation flow, but make sure to let yourself get a word in …. if he’s talking too much you should lean forward and he’ll get the clue… Show genuine and honesty…

This advise is not what guys over 50, responding to women over 50 want. Lets start with #2 Don’t call him. ???? If you don’t show interest, he’s not going to call you either, make the move to call him, if it’s a mistake you’ll find out with the call, if not, you’ve taken a good step. If he didn’t call you, it may not be a rejection, but a vibe that you weren’t interested. There’s nothing in any rule book that declares the Guy has to call you before a relationship proceeds. #3 SEX ??? Guys over 50 are less interested in starting a relationship where sex is the basis to start the relationship… like it was when you were younger. Sex is not a crime, or a bad thing, it’s a mutual bonding area in a relationship. Don’t use it as a tool to protect your innocence or whatever you value it as…. but use it as your intuition tells you. Guys at 50 are not putting notches in their bedpost. Remember … your over 50, you’re mature, responsible, you’ve been able to judge when you want to have sex, when and with who. Sex is one of the greatest sensory things that bond two people… don’t discount it’s value to you. But the advice NOT given here is probably more important…… KNOW WHAT YOU WANT IN A MAN. I am a good person with high morals, ethics, open car doors, seats my date etc…. Mostly if you say you want a good guy… your describing me. BUT those same women usually REALLY want a “Bad Boy” and never realize it consciously. Don’t be fake unless you want him to be fake. Be financially responsible, care for yourself, if you don’t how is he going to want to.

OMG – Don’t call him and Don’t have sex UNTIL you know what his long term plan is for you???? Stopped perusal. Married twice and divorced twice – why would I want to get engaged? I’ve got money, have my own part time business that pays very well and love to travel and am active. I want a fricken girlfriend (and yes I will be exclusive were 50 for goodness sakes) – not another wife to order me around like a puppy. FYI – guys over 50….if you are at least a 6 (out of 10) you can part time date women in their late 30s and early 40s – no its not creepy – they like we are not crazy risk takers or loose cannons and usually own some stuff.

Everyone has their opinion re this article over 50. Those who aren’t over 50 your day is coming. I am enjoying sex very much so! I’m 55 to be exact & dating younger 29, 30 and 38. Safe sex on top of that…I didn’t chase either they pursued me! But I would chase a guy why the hell not? If I dropped dead doing the horizontal with him so be it! What a way to go! If guys think women are easy cause we chase -what the hell do we call men who have 1 night stands and have their wallet taken?, lol! I still have my periods and don’t need any lubes to get me going. I’m sure my arid days are coming, but until then I say, “ride on girls” ! We are older, wiser not dumb and dead! Whether you want to be in a relationship or not we all have baggage in some cases trunks. It’s how we carry our baggage/trunks! Enjoy yourself -don’t criticize anyone for having or not having it over 50!!!