Who Said Marriage Is The Death Of Hope?

I’m 55 and haven’t found anyone. In the past, I did have them, but it was because I forced the issue and just “settled”. Instead of asking God to handle it, I insisted on handling it myself. I’m learning to accept things for now and be in service to God and other people. I don’t have the gift of singleness, but I’m not willing to put things in my own hands. I don’t always trust my own judgment. I want to keep it in God’s hands and let him handle it. I do have some good friends and family.

I’m afraid to hear the answer. I hope it’s not the usual, “You’re not spiritually ready/you have marriage as an idol.” (Meaning that those who get married even at very young ages ARE inherently more spiritually & personally mature than you are.) I’m 50. I have a realistic view of marriage. I don’t expect it to meet every need. I just would like someone to be in ministry with, to have basic companionship, and to not die old & alone. That’s not idolatry. That’s not too much to ask. Got up to 2:40, then just scanned the transcript. Yep. Those who are married – even those who chased after it to the ignoring of God (which IS idolatry), even those who dated an unbeliever (also idolatry & sin) – they are more spiritual than someone twice their age, who has been trying to be faithful to Christ all these years. That’s why they’re married and I’m not. And before I am called “bitter”, no, I am not. I don’t think about this 24/7. I rarely talk about it at all, with anyone. I have many married friends, whom I love. I am a regular childcare giver for their children, whom I adore. I also see their struggles in caring for those children, balancing family/work/church, etc. I have no illusions or rose colored glasses view of marriage & family. I know it’s hard & exhausting at times. I see it, firsthand! I’m just tired of leaving those families, leaving kids I love, and going home alone.

I think it’s easy for married people to preach about how singles should be in there walk with God. Everything John just said applies to individuals in a relationship walk with God whether married or single, not just to singles. I challenge you John to give a real answer as to why God withholds marriage from some, but I don’t believe you can-I believe only God knows the answer-apart from this, I think your answer is good intention pacifying pious gibberish. Just say you do not know.

I was single for almost a decade which didn’t bother me because I was still young. But now I see an older woman in the mirror and feel left behind by God. I never asked Him for a husband in all those years, but when has it ever stopped God from interrupting my plans? Adam didn’t have to ask for a wife; God deemed it was not good for him to be alone and that he should have a wife.

This belittles single people’s feelings but married people are allowed to be sad about ANYTHING at all and the Church will support them and empathise, But for single people, feeling sad is almost a sin. Married people belittling single people’s pain IS cynicism and sourness. Claiming their lives are easy is cynicism. That is fine. They look down on single people though for being sad.

Can start to feel like we’re not enough, ugly, or any number of things we’ve picked up in life. It can often get depressing. I know the answer is “Christ is enough”, but that doesn’t help when I’m really feeling down. God cherishes us, and I think He is saving our hearts from a wretched world. How many good people are there actually today? Bible says, “Not one”. That is of course without Christ. I was married once, and was involved in a major accident that left me recovering for 10 years. She divorced me at the beginning of all that. There have been times I thought I was robbed of my marriage. Does that mean that was my one experience, and now I have to endure singleness? Our son just turned 18, well about to be 19, but my point is I raised him without her. I always thought he was my only purpose because of the accident, and being brought back after dying. Now, my raising is done, and my life seems like it has no purpose now. I do desire a wife, but I’m starting to think I’m getting too old. I’ll be 40 in June. Granted, that’s not old, but I’m not about the games being played today. Let the Lord’s Will be done in our lives, and throughout the Earth! He is good, even in singleness! He is good in every situation! ❤️❤️

The 2 conclusions I’ve come up with is 1, it’s a heart issue and that’s why you can’t find someone. And 2, if you don’t talk to the opposite sex it won’t happen. I cry all the time about not being married and it’s like “Zack I brought you to a church with 100 single girls and you haven’t spoke to a single one, what am I supposed to do?”. That’s what I’ve come up with. If you don’t ask they aren’t going to show up on your doorstep wanting to marry you.

Don’t worry about getting married. I am 31 and single. In singleness we have a incredible opportunity to focus entirely on Jesus. When I was younger and in my early twenties I worries about finding a woman to marry. Now I don’t worry anymore. I realize that marriage cannot bring my soul joy like the presence of God. Furthermore marriage just seems like much work. Any dating relationship I have been in has been emotionally exhausting and painful.

I’m actually looking for the article on how to get rid of the desire to get married. I’ll be glad if you could make this article. Honestly I hear often the responses that one is not spiritually ready to get married and so many other reasons along those lines and not to be proud but there are many people that I know and have helped in their walk with God who despite not being considered as very spiritual or spiritual mature got married and it’s very confusing. Now God knows everybody’s heart so I go with the idea that I am not spiritually mature or good enough spiritually to get married but I don’t know how long this might take, it might even be forever. So since this has become like a burden I would really love to get rid of the desire for marriage, I am praying about it and I hope you can make a article on it. I absolutely have no problem if God hasn’t planned marriage for me or doesn’t think it’s something I should do but I want to be at peace with the idea of it never happening.

I was told that God never allowed me to get married because he wanted me for himself- how can he want someone who had and has been his from the beginning? Couldn’t he have given me the gift of celibacy so that the loneliness would be more tolerable? Make your answers honest, if you don’t have a legitimate answer, then don’t answer at all.

If you really want to get married, let me give you some advice. You’re never going to be “godly” enough in the eyes of a lot of “ministers”, most of whom are already married themselves, and many of whom are not even faithful to their own spouses. Heck, the guy in this article is pondering the idea of “pizza for Jesus”. Really…? Your desire to be with a mate is normal and healthy. God gave you that, and you answer to God alone – not to the psychopaths that fill most protestant churches. Marriage can be a tremendous opportunity to practice self-sacrifice and forgiveness. In fact, over time you HAVE to do these things if you want your marriage to survive. Remember that no one is perfect. Find someone with decency and good values. It is a balancing act and a work in progress.

This hope for marriage that is not being fulfilled is very prevalent in the American church. Since we can rule out some kind of error on Gods part then it has to be on us. We must be the ones with an unbiblical view of marriage. Myself included. 1 Corinthians 7:8 is such a foreign and scary verse as a 21st century American Christian. But I believe it is the one that God is calling many of us to. Let’s consider this: would you rather have the faith, joy and peace that Paul had as a single man, or be married and receive those joys and troubles as they come? I believe the biblical answer would obviously be to have the mindset of the Apostle Paul who never married, but I don’t think many of us would choose that in our hearts, including myself. Therefore, this is a stumbling block set up by the enemy to frustrate, confuse, and weaken the the faith of many Christians. Nothing wrong with marriage and god bless you if you’re married, but when you simply read the New Testament and see all these celibate men that received ample joy from God, that seems to be what God would prefer us to do. But as a 19 year old guy, I’m honestly saddened by this conclusion. I don’t know if God has marriage in his plan for me, but I do hope so. Either way, God is faithful and good all the time and blesses me more than I can imagine.

Our society pushes the idea that being single is a curse and there must he something wrong with people who are single. This is a common misconception. Of course there are some single people that need to work on improving themselves to be more desireable as a relationship or marriage partner. However, I’ve noticed that being single allows people more freedom to serve God and pursue their personal and professional goals. Being single allows more time for spiritual and personal growth. Many people in today’s society jump from one relationship to the next and seek comfort and dependency in their partner for their happiness in life. They seek complete fulfillment from their partner instead of seeking God and His purpose. God uses singleness to draw people closer to Him. This can be very difficult and uncomfortable especially if you have been single for a long time and desire to be married. But it is better to be alone and seeking God then pursuing relationships that are unhealthy. I’ve personally pursued and stayed in relationships that I knew were toxic because I didn’t want to be alone. As difficult as it is to be single sometimes, its important to wait on God’s timing. So how do we know God’s timing? From my experience, the times in my life where I’ve surrendered my life to Him and allowed Him to guide me without getting caught up in sin and self pity is the times where I’ve experienced the most joy and met some wonderful women. Serving God in your singleness doesn’t guarantee you will meet your life partner but it does guarantee you will be living God’s purpose in your life which will ultimately bring you the most joy and fulfillment.

I prayed before finding a article I know to go to God’s, for whatever reason I prayed to see something about the situation I am in .I’m 39 years old and I understand that I can serve the Lord without being married but also I hope this doesn’t sound strange but I feel like I was meant to be someone’s helper in a way of being a wife so this is been conflicting for me for some time. Either way I very much enjoyed listening to truth and appreciated it highly is there is so much garbage out there these days I always have to pray before I watch anything on YouTube pertaining to this subject so on so forth in Christian mannerism. God bless🌅

Marriage is only a symbol of the marriage to Jesus. Marriage (sexual intercourse) between a man and woman won’t be in heaven because everyone will be married to Jesus. If God does not intend for you to be married on earth, you won’t be married to another person in heaven even if you were already married to them on earth. In heaven, the believers will be married to Jesus. The love of Jesus as a husband of the church will be better than sexual intercourse because it is what marriage symbolizes. Old Testament Isaiah 54:5 Isaiah 56:4-5 New Testament Matthew 22:30 Mark 12:25 Luke 20:34-36 1 Corinthians 7:27-31

Dam. It’s astonishing how I cannot find any articles related to the fact that it’s written that the unmarried are the only ones worthy of the resurrection as they are the children of the resurrection and the virgins are given the first fruits of the Lord. Well I guess heaven really is hidden in a field where if you find it you gotta hide it well good then 😂

Can you blame God? A woman here placed an order with God for a husband. Her order wasn’t fulfilled as she specified, so she stopped believing in God. My reaction was that God had to look after the husband as well, and I wouldn’t wish her on anybody. She is even worse than the woman who wanted to train her husband in the same way that she trained horses!